Bing Xin once said this:
"I don't know what home is, but the boredom and sorrow melt and disappear in it."
Indeed, home is not only a person's dependence, which can make people unload their defenses; it is also a person's motivation to help people relieve their worries and recharge.
At home, you're no longer alone, and you don't have to be careful everywhere.
Whether it is wind and frost or rain and snow, back home, there will always be a lamp for you, and there will always be an embrace to greet you.
The family style is the biggest spiritual support of a family.
A good home style is nothing more than the following three points.
As soon as "Heart Residence" was broadcast, many people shouted and suffocated.
Feng Xiaoqin is a daughter-in-law who married to Shanghai.
In order to improve the quality of life, she did not ask her husband Gu Lei's opinion, and applied for the accountant qualification examination and course for him.
Gu Lei is not this piece of material, but he does not say it explicitly, but only passively resists by skipping class and abandoning the exam.
Xiaoqin wanted to have her own house in Shanghai, so she borrowed money from her eldest sister and father-in-law without communicating well with Gu Lei.
Borrowing money failed, and blamed Gu Lei for not being able to help at a critical moment.
When Gu Lei encountered problems, he did not talk to Xiaoqin, but just hid in the house with his father and sister for a small meeting.
This made Xiaoqin feel that although she had been married for more than ten years, the Gu family still regarded her as an outsider.
Subsequently, the contradictions between the two accumulated deeper and deeper.
During an argument, Gu Lei fell down the stairs and died of excessive blood loss in his head, making Xiaoqin's life more and more difficult.
If at the beginning, Gu Lei and Xiaoqin could see each other as comrades in arms in life, discuss everything, and take more responsibility for each other, maybe misfortune would not happen.
After all, when a family lives a life, there will always be such and such things that need to be solved together.
In the face of the world's troubles, when everyone has a common heart, there are also moments of disagreement.
But if you calm down, listen to each other's thoughts and think more about each other's positions.
Not only can it show respect, but it can also gain a military division, and it can also save a lot of unnecessary trouble.
A good relationship may never be arbitrary, but there is a deal and a measure, and know how to make concessions.
Husbands and wives are comrades-in-arms in the stormy journey of life; family is a warm and physical harbor in the difficult years.
Discuss everything and spend together, in order to live more and more tastefully on the long road of life;
Only by listening to things and respecting each other can we harvest a sincere heart in the rolling red dust.
If we say that consultation on everything is an indispensable wisdom in marriage;
Then, not being responsible for things is an indispensable practice in the family.
I've heard such a story.
An elderly couple cooks at home.
When the wife cooked, she did not grasp the amount of water, resulting in some hard rice out of the pot, and she could not help but blame herself.
The husband took a bite and smiled and said:
"It's not hard at all, it's just the right degree, and you can be more hungry after eating."
In order to show his sincerity, he even ate a little more than usual.
When the husband washed the dishes, he did not put it steady, and accidentally broke the wife's favorite tableware.
The wife looked at the debris on the ground, but comforted her husband: "The fragments are peaceful." ”
The two looked at each other and smiled, and after cleaning up the mess on the ground, they went to buy new tableware together, saying that they wanted to give life a new taste.
Their lives are more peaceful and warmer than those couples who are noisy at every turn.
In life, in the face of the faults of the other half, in the face of the flaws of their own families, the reaction of the big guys is often to frown and start to accuse.
I don't know that the anger of the brain cannot solve any problem at all.
Sometimes, it will also have the effect of adding fuel to the fire, making the contradiction intensify and making the relatives centrifuge.
Therefore, the blame when encountering things is often jokingly called the killer of intimate relationships by netizens.
For a family, when encountering problems, the important thing is not to compare right and wrong, nor to compete for a high position.
It is to tolerate each other and understand each other.
A good relationship has always been that today you salute me a point, tomorrow I let you an inch.
Leave more affection in your mouth and leave more room for doing things, in order to make the family more harmonious.
More tolerance in the heart, more encouragement in action, in order to make the feelings more long-
There's a saying that goes something like this:
When a family gets along, don't always be a ruler, and don't let go of each other's faults;
And learn to be a container, to tolerate each other's faults with love.
After all, in the place of love, there is no need to put the reason on the lips all the time.
In the past two days, several news on the hot search often make people cry and laugh.
Before a man counted the cost of love, the minimum amount of tens of yuan, the ex-girlfriend sued in court, claiming 290,000 yuan;
After a man lived with his girlfriend for 3 years to transfer 400,000 yuan, after the breakup, he sued his girlfriend to return all of them.
Seeing this, some netizens said that they seemed to understand why these men were broken up.
Indeed, turning over old accounts is the biggest stumbling block in a relationship.
Of course, the accounts here are not only tangible property, but also intangible feelings.
A small couple next door always quarreled some time ago.
Although it was not a big deal, as soon as the two of them quarreled, they desperately poured out all kinds of old sesame rotten grains.
Women say that men are not careful enough, they were sick once the year before, men do not buy medicine and do not take care of them, in the end there is no conscience;
Men say that women are not well used to it, and when they go home, they always throw their shoes casually and lie on all fours;
Women said that men are not generous enough, last year's Mother's Day, they sent gifts to their mother-in-law, but men did not even express an expression to their mother-in-law;
Men say that women have a strong sense of vanity, two days ago birthdays, have to buy a brand-name bag...
You said a word, I said a word, no one let anyone, in the end, the woman was angry and hid back at her mother's house.
When a family gets along, it is indispensable to talk about it.
But in the mouth, the most feared thing is to turn over the old account.
A person splits his head and covers his face to tell a bunch of old stories, and a person turns over and over to calculate a bad debt.
Not only is the reason not clear, but the problem is not solved, and what is even more frightening is that the resentment in my heart is a few more points.
In life, everyone has a time to do something wrong, and no one has a moment of irrationality.
Focusing on the present is a good way to solve problems; discussing things is the best way to maintain feelings.
After all, the scab scar cannot always be touched; sad things cannot always be mentioned.
Singer Beisheng also advised the idiot man and woman: "Love is forgiveness, do not turn over old accounts." ”
Cai Kangyong once said:
There is an emotional account between people, and every time they make each other happy, the deposit is a little more;
Every time you make the other person sad, the deposit is less.
And home is the biggest emotional account of a person's life.
Having a harmonious and warm home is the greatest achievement of a person's life, and it is also the hardest foundation in a person's life.
Everything is to store respect and gain understanding;
In case of irresponsibility, it is storage tolerance, harvest tenderness;
Not to turn over old accounts is to store your heart and gain feelings.
When you save love and care, you will naturally reap kindness and warmth.
At the end of the article, light up [watching], may you know how to love, and may you be loved.
Author | Natto, I'm circling the globe at my fingertips, personal public number: four or five pages (dreaminggirls3)
Image | Visual China