After entering the society, many small-town writers often feel a sense of frustration: that is, in the campus, they may be invincible and invincible school bullies, but in society, they find that sometimes, they need to face difficulties. In fact, for decades of life, each of us is taking exams all the time, and even, from the perspective of the overall situation of life, after graduation, it is the beginning of the life exam.
1. Workplace wrestling
Exams in schools are often intuitive: after all, the questions are on the paper and are self-explanatory. And when we enter the society, the examinations we face are abstract: from workplace struggles, to dealing with people, and even in the stage of marriage and love, we are facing countless life tests.
Speaking of the workplace, I believe that each of us will find that different people, at the age of 35, will be in a completely different state: the same public unit, there may be people who become leaders when they are 30 years old, and some people are still a very ordinary small clerk before retirement.
In private enterprises, some people may have accumulated a lot of social resources at the age of 35, and even have a certain considerable industry. These industries have made themselves without worrying about the 35-year-old crisis – for example, I know a few lawyers who, at the age of 35, voluntarily left the business and chose to become a lawyer. Of course, when they were lawyers, they also used the resources accumulated in the past years, which can be described as a smooth and continuous creation of new achievements.
Others may not reach the age of 35 before they are dismissed and eventually fall into a state of continuous decadence.
And the quality of mixing in the workplace is sometimes not necessarily related to academic qualifications: college graduates may open their own companies as bosses after many years of mixed occupation, while undergraduates who have graduated from heavy books may become a very common tool person after many years of mixed occupation.
2. Commercial sea assessment
What is the only way to achieve wealth freedom in this world? In fact, it is to do business, to engage in business activities.
You know, the ancients were actually vaguely aware that the income from farming was not as high as that of part-time workers, and the income from part-time work was not as great as that of business. In fact, this understanding is not outdated today.
You know, even if a doctoral student graduates, if you work step by step, the main body (that is, most of it) is actually a fixed income: a doctoral student, if the wind is smooth, the annual income of half a million is already good. Of course, although there are also workers with an annual income of about one million doctoral students, the proportion is too small to be negligible.
And if you master business skills and become a qualified businessman, the benefits are really incalculable: for example, I know the owner of a beauty salon, whose annual net profit is as much as six or seven hundred thousand - you know, beauty salons are a very profitable industry. After all, however, beauty salons are small businesses. For some people who are good at doing big business, it is very common to be worth tens of millions, which is a level that most workers can't reach.
However, although it is enviable to become a qualified businessman, it is very difficult to become a businessman: after all, a high school student may be able to enter a 985 university with all his strength, but most people try their best to become a qualified businessman.
3. Marriage and love assessment
Of course, some people may say that they plan to mix their lives and do not plan to start a business, so no matter how fierce the competition between the workplace and the business sea, they are not affected. However, the marriage and love assessment is actually a major test of life.
I believe that many young people feel that it is difficult to get married. But in fact, marriage and love itself is also a big test. Generally speaking, marriage and love need to be examined in three areas:
The first is psychological tactics and the understanding of people. The so-called understanding of people means that a person needs to judge whether the other party is an object worth interacting with, and psychological tactics mean that they need to figure out the other party's mentality and then make a correct judgment.
Second, consumption power. As a man, finding a partner means that you need to pay a certain amount of expenses, and whether marriage and love can succeed, the woman also needs to see how the man's consumption power is. If the spending power is not as good as others, you may not be able to keep your girlfriend.
You know, in big cities, many young men have to watch their girlfriends and associate with people who can afford to buy a house because they can't buy a house.
Third, competitiveness. Competitiveness, including but not limited to one's career and future potential.
In short, the road of life is very long, and it is a very naïve idea to fantasize about fooling around a diploma and expecting to sweep around on the road of life.
Unfortunately, many parents are unaware of this.