Marriage has never been just about loving each other, and if there is no firm heart, you can't understand and support each other, and it's easy to break down because of various contradictions.
Most of the triggers of contradictions in marriage are due to the different concepts of the two families and the amount of the bride price, and now young people will disagree over whose surname the child is. Liang Wei's marriage with his wife Zhang Jing broke down because of whose surname the second child was.
Liang Wei had talked about a girlfriend before, but because of the dowry problem, the two families did not talk about it and broke up, and then Liang Wei's parents introduced him to a blind date, and met Zhang Jing through kinship, Zhang Jing was a graduate of a prestigious university, had an ideal job, and did not want a bride price, but because she was the only daughter in the family, the woman's family asked that the second child after marriage should follow the woman's surname.
Liang Wei's parents heard that the woman had such superior conditions, full of promises, arranged for the two to meet, after meeting Liang Wei felt that Zhang Jing was excellent and beautiful, and was satisfied, Zhang Jing also agreed because the man agreed to her family's requirements, and soon after the two families agreed to the marriage.
After marriage, the two got along well, a year later, Zhang Jing gave birth to a daughter, both families hope to have a second child, so in the third year of marriage, Zhang Jing gave birth to a second child, is a son, originally it was a happy thing, but the problem appeared.
Just when Zhang Jing's parents happily named the child, Liang Wei's parents also thought of a name for the child, and it was the surname Liang, Zhang Jing was not happy, and asked her husband What happened to Liang Wei? Liang Wei said: "The concept of the old man is more traditional, and he feels that his son should have the same surname as his father. ”
Zhang Jing asked her husband what he thought? Liang Wei said with embarrassment: "I don't mean to repent, but it's not easy for my parents to raise me so big, they want a grandchild, and I have no way, or we will have another one and let the child take your surname!" ”
Zhang Jing heard her husband say this and asked sadly: "Your family promised to be good at the beginning, but now that you see that it is a son, you regret it, why is it that the child with my surname is not your family's child?" The child must have my last name! ”
Liang Wei saw that Zhang Jing was so determined and angry, and the two of them quarreled over this, and finally Liang Wei said: "My son is from my family, and he has to be surnamed me!" Then left, Zhang Jing was also angry, called her parents, Zhang Jing's parents immediately rushed to the hospital to take Zhang Jing back to her mother's house.
After Zhang Jing returned to her mother's house, Liang Wei became more and more angry the more she wanted, and her parents urged Liang Wei to bring her grandson back, Liang Wei had to call Zhang Jing, Zhang Jing said that she had to agree to the child and her surname before she came back, Liang Wei said angrily: "If you don't come back, then divorce!" Zhang Jing was silent for a while and then said, "Then get a divorce!" ”
Zhang Jing then applied for divorce, and asked Liang Wei to give her daughter as well, Liang Wei's parents scolded Zhang Jing while reluctant to have a grandson, every day to urge Liang Wei to have children, Liang Wei was not strong in his heart, if divorced, his wife and children are gone, and it is not so easy to find one, he began to regret the divorce.
After a month of entanglement, Liang Wei went to find Zhang Jing to reunite, but he never mentioned the question of whose surname the child would follow, but Zhang Jing calmly looked at him and said: "The divorce application has been so long, we have ended, you go!" In the end, the two ended in divorce.
The beginning of this marriage is like a transaction, the man looks at the woman's good conditions and does not want the bride price, the woman looks at the man can agree to her requirements, there is no emotional basis, if the two can respect each other, the days can also live well, the feelings will be slowly cultivated, but unfortunately the man is too greedy, accepted the woman's good conditions, but halfway repentance, perhaps he did not expect the woman to be so firm! I wanted to threaten the woman with divorce, and I didn't want the woman to be afraid at all, but she was so confident! It can only be said that the man is greedy and selfish, so he ended up with such a result.
In fact, the child can follow whose surname, and the law also allows the child to follow the father's surname or the mother's surname, just need to be discussed by the husband and wife.
Anything, you need to pay in order to have a return, in addition to the parents no one will pay for you unconditionally, husband and wife are the same, if only one person pays, the other will only take, time will be disappointed to leave, only two people pay relatively balanced, can be long-lasting!