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Nowadays, we all pay attention to "freedom of love and freedom of marriage". Especially now that young people's tolerance for marriage is getting lower and lower, in married life, once two people find that it is inappropriate and uncomfortable, then they will decisively choose to leave.
Couples without children naturally have no ties, so they can get together and disperse; but once they have children, they are faced with the problem of child custody, and after the divorce of parents and mothers, who will the children live with?
Speaking of Jia Nailiang and Li Xiaolu, before the two people divorced, they were also a model couple in the entertainment industry, and they were the envy of many people, and their daughter Tianxin was even more eccentric, but the couple finally ended up with divorce and regret.
However, after the couple divorced, the mode of getting along is very close, and there are always netizens who expose that Jia Nailiang will appear at the residence of his ex-wife, so it is inevitable that people will wonder whether the two people are low-key remarriage? However, in the face of the news of remarriage, the two people also came out in time to refute the rumors.
During this year's Spring Festival, some netizens happened to meet Li Xiaolu with her daughter on vacation, and almost at the same time, some people posted a picture of meeting Jia Nailiang in the same location, and it is difficult not to doubt whether the two people are together again.
Recently, some people have seen Jia Nailiang appear near Li Xiaolu's house, first to a Western restaurant to eat, then when he came out, he packed a box of pizza, and then drove to Li Xiaolu's home.
In fact, as early as before, there was news that Jia Nailiang went to Li Xiaolu's house many times, and there was a scene of a family of three playing badminton together, and this time netizens once again speculated that Jia Nailiang and Li Xiaolu had been reunited, otherwise how could the two people merge three times and twice?
However, no matter how netizens speculate, whether it is divorced or remarried, as long as it is not the parties who come out to clarify, no one can say exactly, perhaps it is really like Jia Nailiang explained before, meeting only to see the daughter.
After all, after the two people divorced, the daughter Tianxin lived with her mother, and the father Jia Nailiang missed his daughter even more, and it was understandable that he came to visit from time to time.
After Jia Nailiang and Li Xiaolu divorced, her daughter Tianxin lived with her mother. In fact, on the contrary, those children whose parents are divorced in life often live with their mothers in the end, so this situation occurs, is it that after the parents divorce, the children are more willing to choose their mothers?
According to social surveys, most children choose to live with their mothers after their parents divorce.
Mainly for the following reasons:
Mothers accompany more than fathers: First of all, for daughters, mothers will understand the psychology of girls better, because they are also women, and mothers also grow up in this way and can understand children's psychological feelings. In the same way, dads will understand the growth of boys better;
In addition, before the child is 7 years old, the mother's influence on the child will be greater, especially those infants and young children, but also need the mother's meticulous care, so regardless of men and women, children under the age of 7 live better with their mothers.
Moms are better off than dads: women are generally very gentle and close, while men are representatives of strength and are impulsive and reckless. Therefore, many children are more willing to get along with their mothers, and in terms of children's fate, it is true that fathers are inferior to mothers.
Society generally believes that it is better for children to follow their mothers: as the saying goes: "If there is a stepmother, there is a stepfather". After the child follows the father, once the father remarries, the stepmother will not be too good to the child in many cases, which will also affect the parent-child relationship between the father and the child.
Of course, it is not that children will inevitably suffer if they live with their fathers, but they are affected by some consensus in society, so many children are more willing to follow their mothers.
Parental divorce is a matter for two people, and has nothing to do with children. They only dissolved the legal marriage, but they could not dissolve the children and their own blood relations. Therefore, for who the child is more willing to live with after the parents divorce, in fact, it mainly depends on who to live with is more beneficial to the child.
For example, in ordinary life, who among the parents will know and care more about their children, who will have a better economic foundation, who will have better educational resources, and so on.
In fact, after the parents divorce, no matter what differences there are between husband and wife, but the heart of loving the child is the same, so after the divorce, both parties can pay attention to the growth of the child together. The father's love is broad, the mother's love is delicate, and the child's growth is inseparable from the love and companionship of parents.
It is recommended that you usually follow your mother, on weekends or other holidays, your father will give companionship, just like Jia Nailiang and Tianxin, it is not a good way.
Today's topic: Who do you think your children should live with after their parents divorce?