In the understanding of many people, the sister-in-law seems to be completely unable to catch up with strong women. The strong woman in everyone's eyes is estimated to be Dong Mingzhu's, intelligent and capable elite image. I've always felt like sisters-in-law are tricking their kids into earning $10,000 or $20,000 a month.
Most people are actually envious and jealous, but there are also some who are skeptical, thinking that the sister-in-law in the market is a lie. It is believed that the training institution is training to deceive the trainees and earn thousands of dollars. However, many women who work in sister-in-law companies choose to develop careers and provide assurances for themselves and their families in order to live a better life for themselves and their families. While earning a high salary, it also suffers a lot of physical and mental attrition. In fact, women who work as confinement wives are strong women in their circle of life.
With the improvement of living standards, more and more families are more inclined to ask a sister-in-law with a scientific method of infant raising to care for the baby, thinking that the sister-in-law has undergone systematic professional training, assessment, and mastered professional knowledge, but their parents' generation in many traditional confinement concepts, many methods have certain errors, and it is better to take children with children than parents and mothers to take children.
However, with the rise of the high-paid concubine profession, there are many troubles that have happened to many sisters-in-law.
For example, there are also families who have invited the sister-in-law to complain, feel dissatisfied with the sister-in-law, feel that they have spent money but have not received the corresponding services, and the sister-in-law does this and that for the employer's family, and does not consider the original intention of signing the contract, and behaves very uncomfortable.
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In fact, whether it is the employer or the sister-in-law itself, we must be clear, what do you ask the sister-in-law to do?
In fact, it is impossible to think of scientific parenting, do not want the mother to fall into confinement disease, the baby can grow healthily during the month, can develop good habits!
Every mother or sister-in-law has been working hard to learn and progress, and strive to become a more competent mother or professional. In order for everyone to achieve this goal, the following misunderstandings should be avoided.
1. The monthly sister-in-law has a high salary, but there is no reason to undertake all household chores
Many employers have given birth to a child, the family is a grandmother and a grandmother, here and invited the sister-in-law, each in the family has their own views and requirements for the sister-in-law, sometimes there will be disagreements, so invisibly add a lot of pressure to the sister-in-law; sometimes the old man only sees that the sister-in-law has a little time to idle during the day, but does not worry about her hard work at night, and begins to arrange various jobs for the sister-in-law, thinking that since she has spent money, the sister-in-law should take care of all the housework in the family. But in fact, the work content of the confinement is very clear, the confinement is responsible for the life of the baby and the mother, the housework is to wash the clothes of the baby and the mother, make confinement meals for the mother, and clean the hygiene of the mother's room. Many sisters-in-law will also do some convenient housework in their free time, but in fact, it does not include cooking for the family, cleaning all the rooms, washing the family's clothes and other chores.
2, the sister-in-law is not a doctor, the high value of the salary is reflected in her experience
The sister-in-law's obligation is to provide professional confinement care for the baby and the mother. However, some employers feel that the confinement sister-in-law should ensure that the baby is always healthy and not sick, and that the sister-in-law who pays for the confinement should be responsible for the health of the baby and the mother. I feel that if my sister-in-law takes care of the baby, the baby will not get sick. If you are sick, your sister-in-law is not qualified.
But in fact, on the issue of baby illness, we must first consider that the baby's illness is divided into congenital and acquired, congenital is the disease that the baby is born with, and acquired is the disease that occurs in the later care process. Some congenital diseases are hidden, in the days after birth can be reflected, the price of the sister-in-law, the richness of experience can be reflected here, if it is an experienced sister-in-law can find the baby's abnormality in time, timely medical treatment, and inexperienced sister-in-law can not find the problem in time, need to compare and observe to judge whether it is abnormal, there is a delay in time, but the sister-in-law can not be treated, can only be in time according to what they learn to make the corresponding emergency treatment for the baby, delay the condition, for the hospital treatment time! The same acquired disease, the sister-in-law can only do emergency treatment, delay the condition, and buy time for hospital treatment! This is the value of the sister-in-law!
The sister-in-law is only a nursing staff, each baby's physique is different, even the doctor can not guarantee that the baby is not sick, let alone the sister-in-law who is responsible for nursing? The high price of the sister-in-law and the low price of the sister-in-law are in accordance with the content of the contract to take care of the mother and the baby, the difference between them is the experience, that is, whether you can find the baby's abnormality in time, can deal with emergencies according to their own experience time, this is the difference, but also their value!
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3. The plan and suggestions of the sister-in-law are always easily disrupted
Many young parents rely on the Internet and books to apply all the theoretical knowledge to their children, although some of them are correct. But some of the methods on the web are wrong. It is not advisable to direct the work with something that is not clear.
After professional training of the sister-in-law, the work process is a set of scientific processes, if the head of the household uses the incorrect knowledge on the Internet to put forward a lot of opinions on the sister-in-law, it will disrupt the normal work of the sister-in-law.
When working in the household, it is not only necessary to bear the pressure of nursing, but also the grievances of the employer to the sister-in-law. After giving birth, BaoMa's mood is unstable, irritable and easy to cry, and sometimes she will take the sister-in-law to be angry, and the sister-in-law cannot refute it, because it will affect the mother's body recovery and milk secretion. Other family members also have a lot of doubts about the method of care, at this time, the sister-in-law has to patiently explain the reason for doing so for the employer, but sometimes it is still impossible to change the employer's mind. Many sisters-in-law have secretly cried at work, but after venting, they still use the spirit of twelve points to continue to care for the mother and newborn.
The sisters in law are under pressure and questioned, but everyone is constantly learning new skills and hoping to give better care to mothers and newborns. The sisters of the sister-in-law have a very strong heart, and also have very professional nursing knowledge and skills, and are well-deserved strong women.
4, the sister-in-law also needs to rest
From the beginning of the household, the work should be insisted on for 26 days, and some employers feel that since the sister-in-law provides 24-hour service, these 24 hours should be at work. However, employers, either on behalf of the sister-in-law or do not eat or sleep, robots can not stand such a large work intensity.
Employers want good service, but the sister-in-law is a person, does not rest well, and does not have a good state to take care of the baby.
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5. If the mother does not have milk in the month, it is not all her responsibility
The lack of milk in the confinement is caused by many reasons, the physical reason is the main reason, the feeding method is only the follow-up reason, if it is a physical reason, the confinement can not be solved, if it is the problem of feeding method, this is the reason for the confinement, the confinement has the responsibility to guide feeding. There is also the psychological pressure of the mother can not be ignored. Once the employer mother still has some milk blockage, milk, do not first think about whether it is the reason for the sister-in-law, the so-called suspicious person does not use, the use of people is not doubtful there is a certain reason, timely affirmation and praise can make the sister-in-law feel that she is being trusted, the mood of the sister-in-law can also relax faster to take care of herself and the baby.
Many times the milk blockage is a hidden disease of the breast itself, and the second is caused by the unreasonable arrangement of the confinement meal. In general, there are not many cases, but there are also! The second type of situation as long as you invite the sister-in-law is a regular sister-in-law, you eat according to the monthly sister-in-law meals, generally will not cause milk blockage and milk rise, what is afraid here is that the elderly in the family eat big fish and meat in accordance with the traditional method, causing milk blockage and milk rise, especially the first two weeks of the confinement, is to row-based, the last two weeks are supplements, confinement disease, body recovery is not ideal, etc. Most of them are also caused by improper diet, so most of the problems of blocking milk and rising milk are caused by unreasonable dietary arrangements, and the nursing care of the sister-in-law has little to do with it. If this confinement meal list is opened by the confinement sister-in-law, then the confinement sister-in-law will be responsible for determining the maternal constitution (hot, cold, neutral) before arranging the confinement meal, so that it is easy to arrange, so that there will be no mistakes!
If family members have different views on maternal recuperation and infant care, it may be advisable to unify their opinions first, and one person will communicate with the confinement sister-in-law. In this way, it will not make the sister-in-law different, and she does not know who to listen to, which will cause unnecessary trouble.
The careers of sisters in the industry of confinement and child-rearing sisters are much shorter than those of other industries, please pay attention to the body of the sisters!
People outside see glamorous, high income, and what we know is sadness, you will always be the head of the family and a strong woman in the eyes of your family!