The 3-year-old boy was bullied by the little girl
Grandma's high emotional intelligence approach is textbook
In many people's impressions, male babies are stronger and stronger than female babies, but a recent incident around me has made me fall into contemplation. It turned out that the cousin's son Ye Ye had been a "well-behaved baby" since he was a child, although he was a male baby, his personality was very well-behaved and docile.
Not long ago, 3-year-old Ye Ye went to kindergarten, and at the beginning my cousin always boasted to me that Ye Ye looked at the soft and cute personality, but did not expect to go to kindergarten but did not make a fuss once. As a result, after a few days, The Heavenly Sister punched her in the face, saying that Ye Ye was crying and did not want to go to kindergarten, the reason was that a little girl in the class always bullied him. My cousin hated the iron and said to me: You said that he was a boy, how could even a little girl dare to bully him, I really gave birth to a "nest" son.
According to the cousin's understanding, this girl grabbed Ye Ye's toy many times, not to mention, after she snatched it last time, Ye Ye wanted to come back, and as a result, she was pushed by this little girl to a big bag. At that time, the cousin was angry and died, and immediately went to the teacher to call the parents, and as a result, under the persuasion of the teacher, the cousin did not pursue it too much. Unexpectedly, the next day, the little girl started to move again, and the cousin asked Ye Ye, "You don't have a hand, she doesn't push you, you won't push back." And Ye Ye was originally bullied at school, and as a result, his mother not only did not comfort him, but also scolded him, Ye Ye was very sad, and he cried and woke up several times in the middle of the night, which made his cousin feel sad and blame himself.
But she really didn't know how to protect the child, the teacher found it, the other parent found it, and also taught the child to fight back, but Ye Ye didn't argue that she really couldn't do it. It was here that Ye Ye's grandmother came to see her grandson, and after knowing this situation, she said that her cousin's education method was a bit upside down, and she also asked her cousin to hand over the child to her, and she promised to protect the eldest grandson so that no one else would dare to bully him.
At first, the cousin was still very unhappy, thinking that the mother-in-law was standing and talking without waist pain, so she wanted to see how the mother-in-law taught the child, so she handed Ye Ye to the grandmother with a horizontal heart.
As a result, two months have passed, Ye Ye is like a new person, originally timid and cowardly, he is now not only a lot more cheerful, but also in the school encountered bullying also dared to resist, encounter unfair things, but also for their own reasoning. At this time, the cousin had to admire his mother-in-law, a retired teacher. Once, after the family had finished eating and sat and chatted, my cousin humbly asked her mother-in-law, asking her how she taught her children to protect themselves and why she had not taught them wrong before. The mother-in-law did not hold it, and told the cousins and couples in a serious tone that the child's kindergarten is equivalent to the first time in their lives to be independent, at this time they are bound to encounter many problems and need them to be strong to face.
First of all, let the child learn to say no, for example, if a child wants to grab something, the child will first tell the other party loudly: "No", and then you must convince others with reason and evidence, tell them "This is my toy, you can't grab it, you must have my consent to play", or tell them "This is a public thing, whoever gets it first will play first, and can't grab it." In short, let the child learn to fight for himself and protect his own interests. In this way, Ye Ye gradually established his self-confidence in the kindergarten, and other children saw that he was "not good", and no one dared to bully him anymore.
In fact, Ye Ye Grandma's method is very simple, parents want to make their children have the characteristics of "not good", but also from the following two aspects to cultivate children
- Always be on the side of the child
In the past, every time Ye Ye was bullied, her cousin couldn't help but blame the child, and sometimes she would label the child negatively, saying that he was in ruins, timid, and did not show up. In fact, parents' such a way of handling will not only not make the child become brave and strong, but will more seriously hit the child's self-confidence, make the child more cowardly and timid, and dare not tell the parents when they are bullied in the future, so as to be targeted by others.
As a parent, you must remember a principle, that is, only if you become the backing of your child and always stand firmly on the side of your child, can your child feel more secure, stronger, and fearless when encountering things.
In addition, when the child is bullied and bullied, parents should also take action, in their own way for the child to seek justice, in general, parents can find a teacher in the school, and then ask the other parents and children to apologize to their children publicly, so that the other parents will restrain the child, on the other hand, the public apology will also let other children know that this classmate and his parents are "not good", and will also have concerns in the center of getting along in the future, and dare not easily bully. All in all, to protect the child, the first thing parents have to do is to become the child's backing, with action and love to let the child understand that no matter what happens, parents will always love you and stand with you.
- Cultivate children's "anti-bullying ability" and self-protection ability
With the growth of children, as a parent, it is inevitable that it is impossible to follow the children and protect the children 24 hours a day. Therefore, it is very important to teach children to protect themselves and anti-bullying, otherwise children will only promise to keep promises in the face of others' bullying, or secretly cry, then they will be looked down upon by others, thus incurring more bullying and bullying.
After Grandma Ye Ye took the child, she insisted on reading anti-bullying picture books to her children every day, so that children learned how to recognize bullying from picture book stories, and how to deal with them when they encountered the situation of being bullied. As a result, Ye Ye quickly changed himself and became brave and confident.
The set of picture books used by Ye Ye's grandmother is the very best-selling "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book" on the market, a full set of books from 8 different themes, vividly and interestingly tells how children should fight back when they encounter rumors, ridicule, robbery, exclusion, and summons.
Each theme starts from the reality of children's lives, making it easier for children to substitute for themselves, better understand and master the methods of identifying bullying and the way to solve bullying. Compared with parents telling their children at length, this way of telling stories is obviously more suitable for children to understand, and the effect will be better.
My cousin also told me that every time his mother-in-law finished reading a picture book with her child, she would also accompany her child to play a "dress up" game, so that the child could strengthen her understanding of the story content in the process of performance, and learn how to fight back against others in a timely manner. Over time, Ye Ye was much braver when he encountered the same situation at school.
So if your family also has timid and crying children, there are also children who dare not fight back, if you are also thinking hard, do not know how to change the child's personality, teach him to be strong and brave, confident and sunny, if you are also for the child to be bullied or may be bullied and heartache and worry, then I sincerely recommend that you put down a single set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book", every night to take time to accompany the child to read picture books, easy to let the children learn to bravely say "no".
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