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We've all tried to organize things in different directions, but the results are always annoying or outright jokes, the task is clear, everything is there, we've seen other people do it, they have all the tools they need, why can't you do it
Once, without the instructions, I tried to install something, and after tossing and turning, I could only lie in bed and keep cursing, which usually takes 3 times as long, because you always have to repeat itself, and when things have a direction, it will be faster and easier to do
Doing things in the right direction and not taking the S-shaped route is very important and is our motivation
Sometimes even if there are talented superstars on a sports team and full of desire for victory, the team will still be difficult and stagnant, until a new coach has found its way, the situation will improve, if we look at what most teenage tricksters lack the most? You will find that it is the goal of the business failure, the marriage failure asks why you know because we have no clear goals, no definite principles and reasonable arguments, no matter who makes him bear great responsibility, but does not have a goal, from the beginning is doomed to success
Many of people's goals come from their parents and mentors, and are formed unconsciously and imperceptibly, but there are many people who prefer to constantly revise themselves in the process of moving forward than make any plans for their lives
I think I've taken goals for granted, and one night I had an in-depth conversation with my wife and we were talking about how to help a few friends, they were very frustrated, under heavy pressure, and had a hard time, and I said to my wife, I don't understand why this is the case, these people are full of flowers, well educated, capable, and have the capital to pick a job position or partner, indeed, the wife said, but they don't know what they want to do. Don't know where your direction is? Yes, they have no goals, although the conditions are better than others, they do not, and will not make good use of their favorable conditions, they just go with the flow in the ocean of life, so there may be some surprises, but they have not really done anything, on the other hand we have also met some mediocre people, they are annoying, completely self-centered, but they do a good job, live happily, do things efficiently, all because they have goals, And be able to work hard to achieve their goals
The goal of mankind, the most fundamental common denominator of all human activities, the principle of the dynamics of his existence, is what man has been searching for a long time, and if the answer to this question is found, it will inevitably lead to the answer to many other questions, he will be able to explain all the phenomena of human behavior, he will be able to derive the solution to most of the problems of mankind. The most important thing about the method is that he should be effective
Not only are we talented, but we also possess a variety of skilled skills and excellent talents. Our senses are so sharp, our comprehension is so amazing, we can love good work very well, everyone has these abilities, but not everyone. All have their own goals, believe it or not, the truth is, even at 35 or 50, very few people really know what they're doing and why they're doing it? Day by day, they are just pushed forward by the inertia of life, just attached to what people, things or companies wait to see where they will take themselves, sometimes they do choose accommodation, choose work, choose a spouse, but in fact they do not know what they want to do, what they are pursuing, anything happens, they just look at the passive response, I want to see how is the main theme of their lives
Only action can not represent anything, can only prove that you are alive, your goal is the key to the problem, you may have heard such a sentence, although I do not know where I am going, but I go very fast, well, if you do not know where you are going, do not know why, you can not go very fast, even after reaching the purpose you will be unconscious
We've all heard things like this, oh! His luck is really good, always being in the right place at the right time, it's not lucky, this is the goal, the guy chose his own path, chose the method and the weaknesses of human nature in the period may sometimes make us deviate from their own direction, make some concessions, and may also make us feel discouraged, but once we have identified the goal, we have our own way to go
What am I referring to here by goal? What you think of as moral standards and health principles, the education you want to pursue, the career you want to pursue, your responsibilities to society and others, the goals of your relationships with your family and other loved ones are the conscious choices you have made over the years about all these advances, and you can't just do nothing or wait for them to come.
Many people are hovering at the important crossroads of life, because they are still trying to find their own direction, if you have a goal has not yet reached the crossroads, you already know where you should go, do not think about the direction of your life and career when it is time to make a decision, start now, if you just listen to the arrangement of life, or blindly believe in the existing experience, the opinions of others, the practices of mom and dad, the characteristics of a certain test, you will never be able to achieve extraordinary achievements
You will not be a person who contributes, just doing things, one day sooner than later, you are faced with choosing a purpose for one thing, or asking you to choose a direction in your life, so do it now, which will make you no longer wandering, no longer looking
When you have a firm goal in life
Your inner struggles will diminish, your strength will increase, goals are the best motivator in the world and will also make your behavior magical, I manage some young people, I find that once children have clear goals and ideals, their ability to get the job done increases exponentially, and those who know what they are doing, why they do know what they want, what they are pursuing, are by far the most dynamic people
You will be very meaningful, to achieve anything in life, first of all to stick to the end, when you do not know yourself. Why and when it comes to persistence, it is difficult to stick to and. Endure
You can save a lot of time, for example, once you want to be healthy, when faced with the choice of food or sports, you will no longer hesitate or feel pain, you know what to do, and you are fully able to achieve a firm goal that eliminates you. Hesitation and confusion
There will be more people willing to help you, and people who know what they want to do and how to know what their goals are, people will be happy to help them
You'll have good relationships because goals are usually not easily changed, and we all like stable people, stable places
You'll know exactly if you've achieved your goals, so you won't miss out on the joys and rewards that come with true success in life
What about my plans
Once you have your own goal, which is your baby, do you want to post it? Do you want to archive? Do we want to take such important information with us at all times Where should we put such important information? Put it in your head or in your heart, or in our notepad
The vast world, we can do a lot, the plan can guide you to achieve your ideals, whether the plan is big or small, whether it is stored in the computer, or in mind that is your own business, I like to write down my plan, give them some practical things, and also like to share my plan with others, as far as these goals themselves are concerned, you should try to follow some simple rules when formulating, your goals should be
。 You decide for yourself, and no one else can guide your life and help you set goals
。 Positive, not negative
。 If you can achieve it, you can fully realize your potential, but your goal must be achievable, otherwise you will lose confidence
。 Exciting, if what you're doing isn't that exciting, make some changes, change your own company environment or what you're going to do to make them exciting
。 To be measurable, you have to know where you're going
。 Give yourself a timeline, and if you want to achieve your goals, then build a timeline
。 Find out what excites you
At an awards ceremony at a home promotion agency I attended, in the megaphone. Word for word, the news came out
Now the next prize will be awarded to people who stand out in the study on the volume of egg white bubbles and its effect on the taste of angel cakes
One of the women at my table bent over and said sarcastically to the other, Oh my God, this is really human. excited. The things that will bring passion to your life are indeed closely related to your productivity, which is another principle that you must abide by, otherwise you will only spend your time carrying the weight of the jack around you
The level of excitement about a thing will definitely affect our investment in this matter, when we are very interested in who or what, we will release our energy, enthusiasm, brain and physical strength, when we can't lift the spirit, face a colleague who can't lift the spirit,
Or an unspiring project that we may still insist on working, but it is impossible to do a lot of things, if you are very interested in a certain job, you will be extremely productive, and if you do not like what you are doing, not really for your own desire or commitment to work, your efficiency can only be 25% at most
Once, we analyzed some self-made millionaires to see if they had anything in common, and found that only one thing is the same, they all like what they do, they basically earn money by doing what they like, the advantage of this is that if you can do what you like, and you can make a lot of money, of course, this is very good, if you don't make money, it doesn't matter, you will enjoy the process very much, So most of us want to be a millionaire so we can enjoy ourselves, no one can tell you what you like, you have to decide for yourself
For me, even if I am given an annual salary of 1 million, a building, six months of vacation a year, I will not go to be an accountant, I like to do manual work outdoors, it is never possible to live in the city, my life, my goals, my plans from the beginning of I am a small child are consistent with this, but I also know some friends, they do not like to use their own hands to do manual work, which is very incomprehensible to them, basic. They don't like to do these things, and it makes them feel very uncomfortable
Basically we are all the same, if we don't like to do anything, we will feel very bored, very unhappy, so it is impossible to do it for a long time, if you hate what you do, but because you have to do it, for comfort, for prestige, etc. and insist on doing it, you will never be able to do him the best, nor can you play all your potential, if you are just passing the time dressing for work and waiting to get another position, or waiting for weekends and holidays to relax, then it is not life at all, You're never going to get any more done
If you are in this state, then to achieve, it is an important step to make a change, to change an environment, to change a task, to change a behavior, to change a theme, to change a work partner, no matter what, as long as you can determine that this is the key to the problem, let you in a dilemma, you can make a change
If you're not sure what you're in. There are some problems in the situation. Ask yourself
Is this something I want to do day and night?
Whether paid or not
Just want to do it because I like it
Then you'll be able to find some visceral drive to re-examine your choices and goals until you find something that makes you feel the way you've said it above
Think about it, do we like to do things that we never start doing without blowing our strength? Did someone order us to eat the pie? Did someone order us to go to the beach? Did someone order us to take a hot shower? No, but we liked it, so we did it
Oddly enough, it seems like a lot of people now think that the work that makes them happy is the responsibility of the company or the boss, it's incredible, if you don't like what you do, it's completely your own failure, whether you stay there or don't do anything, nothing changes, it's your failure, you're in complete control of your own destiny, maybe you can't control everything that happens to you, but you can at least control your attitude and feeling about what you do. You can choose where you work with the people you work with
If you have desire, you must be motivated, don't look at time, don't calculate remuneration and fame, just purely to experience the joy of work
Focus on the results, not the efforts
One day I was chatting with a friend who wanted to achieve in life and was struggling with it, and he told me about the setbacks he had, especially the many things that he should have done, and he couldn't find the time to do them, and how depressed he was at this time, I asked him to write down all the things he had to do, and that's all
Buy a new dress for your granddaughter
Tidy up the courtyard
Whitewash the house
Tell my husband I lost all my vacation money at the show
The iron-membrane neighbor who returned the baked milk cake I borrowed eight years ago has forgotten
Go to the airport to pick up a relative I didn't like
Write a book that I've always wanted to write
Now the list is logical and well-organized, but it doesn't say exactly how I should accomplish these things
These are all ideas or plans that must be done, can not produce energy, their focus is on the thing itself, in the process of effort, which is the end of the matter. As long as you think about it this way, it is easy to make yourself negative, really there is no time at all, and you can't find time to go to the mall. And I don't know the size of the clothes my granddaughter wears, it hurts to see the teeth, I'm scared, I don't know if they'll invite other people, I don't have the right clothes to wear, I'm going to come at the beginning of the tidying up, I'm going to freeze all the flowers and grasses, I heard that paint can cause cancer, maybe I should say I was stolen, or leave here, since the neighbor's children have grown up, they may never need to make custard cakes, maybe next week I will be sick, I don't know how to spell, I have to wait for a computer, He could help me with spell checks
Here's a list I re-wrote for him according to my own ideas
Choose a style for your granddaughter's clothes [thank you so much Grandma, the dress you bought me is so beautiful]
Go to the hospital to register [after reading it, I will be very beautiful, and I can eat ribs again]
Choose a topic and start researching and talk to parents and teachers [tell us more, hey, you really helped us]
Buy seeds of pine pine yard soil [too good ears on corn, fresh strawberries, tomatoes, lettuce, watermelon]
Find a paint color that really fits the room, find a good neat brush, and now how comfortable the room has become, you make yourself
When the husband is in a good mood, choose the best time and tell him in the best way, we are bankrupt, I can't wait, I have to quickly put down this big stone
With my best Belgian cream and ever made some custard cakes, knocked on the neighbor's door and said to him, I never wanted to return an empty plate to you, and he will surely forgive me for anything I have done
Go pick up the relative and look at the map, find a new and interesting route to the airport, buy an ice cream, and drive it yourself around easily before the relative arrives
Find a sticky note book and keep a note of everything about my book, and the book I dreamed of made me think that I could only be in Shanghai for three weeks to sign. Hangzhou can only stay for one week
My first reaction to any plan. I never think about how much effort it will take, how much time it will take, how much time, how much pain it will take, I just think about what it will be like after this thing is completed, how good I will feel, how smart I will become, how rich, how popular, after I enjoy this feeling for a while, then look at these things I have to do, in order to laugh more beautifully in order to eat better, I am going to see a dentist
。 It's like a pregnant mother, a pioneer crossing the plains, an athlete running a marathon, or climbing a mountain, cooking, cleaning, if you feel too tired, too painful, thinking about the troubles that come one after another. Pain or danger you never begin, and even if you do, you are timid. Reluctantly, if only thinking that they will have to endure cold, fatigue, hunger and pain, and even the possibility of losing some of the team members on the road, how many forerunners will stay in their own comfortable homes, but they think of owning their own land, that rich land and freedom, and really decide to do so
。 This is the secret weapon of most highly efficient people, who not only do not get lost in the actual work and specific details, but also plan the outcome of things, ready for success and reward