People have many fates in this life, but some fates are not real love, but many people in extramarital affairs regard some encounters as love, and eventually let themselves lose their marriage and turn themselves into a poor lonely person.
Her name is Chen Xian, people as her name suggests, usually everyone says that she looks like a fairy, beautiful and temperamental. She is a blessed woman in the eyes of her friends, because she not only has a happy little family, but also has a slight achievement in her career.
However, on her 10th wedding anniversary, her husband smiled and proposed divorce to her.
It all stemmed from the fact that she once loved a man outside of marriage.
01
3 years ago, Chen Xian went to a friend's birthday party, at the banquet, she met an excellent man, that man is not only personable, words and deeds are also very good, deeply attracted her attention.
As a successful woman in her career, Chen Xian has certainly seen many excellent men, but now the man in front of her makes her eyes light up, and none of the successful men around her can compare with this man.
That night, she didn't know why, she always used the afterglow to see him, and after the eyes of the two collided, they began to communicate at the dinner table.
After the banquet that day, Chen Xian and the man added WeChat friends to each other.
According to Chen Xian's words, at that time, they added friends to each other, not to chat, but the two had commonalities in their careers and wanted to continue to communicate as friends, but they did not expect that the two chatted and chatted about their feelings.
At first, the two of them did talk about some work matters, and then the chat became a conversation, the other party and her confided in her wife did not understand the style, she and the other party confided that her husband had no ability.
Slowly, their outpouring turned into ambiguity, you know my heart, I understand some of your hints, and gradually, lovesickness and expectation become a kind of affection in the hearts of the two people.
02
I don't know why, since I met the man, Chen Xian and her husband always quarreled over some small things.
Once her husband saw that she had been holding her mobile phone, he asked who she was chatting with, and he also grabbed her mobile phone to see, so she and her husband had a big fight.
Since that day, the relationship between her and her husband has become increasingly distant.
Later, the man asked her to dinner, and she agreed without hesitation.
With the interaction between the two, Chen Xian's relationship with this man became closer and closer, and she found a different kind of warmth in the man, and they even said a lot of emotional words together.
Finally, on a rainy night, they crossed the last line of defense in the relationship between men and women.
On that day, they snuggled up to each other, and agreed with each other not to disturb each other's marriage, just to do so, a pair of long-term lovers.
However, a woman's feelings are uncontrollable, and in one meeting after another, Chen Xian found herself relying more and more on each other, and she knew that she was in love with this man.
Because the two want to meet, Chen Xian often goes to the man under various pretexts, and sometimes lies about working overtime to go on a date in the middle of the night.
Of course, Chen Xian's husband was not stupid, and he also questioned Chen Xian whether he had an extramarital affair, but because there was no evidence, chen xian had been prevaricating.
03
On Valentine's Day, Chen Xian left home on the pretext of a business trip, and when she arrived home, her husband Tie Qing had a big fight with her with a face, and once again questioned her if she had other men outside.
This time, Chen Xian did not deny it, and her husband admitted to her affair, and immediately proposed a divorce, but her husband was unwilling to divorce for the sake of her children, and after 3 months of cold war between the two, Chen Xian also gave up the idea of divorce.
Although her husband forgave Chen Xian, Chen Xian did not repent, and she continued to secretly communicate with her lover.
This extramarital affair lasted for 3 years, and Chen Xian wanted to be with her lover forever, so she broke the previous agreement with her lover and made a request for marriage to her lover.
What she did not expect was that the lover looked at her in surprise and said, "Have you forgotten the promise between us?" We said we wouldn't destroy each other's families. ”
Chen Xian cried and said to his lover, "But I am in love with you, and I can't live without you." ”
The lover was silent for a moment and said to her, "The person I love is my wife and children, not you, and it is impossible for me to leave my wife and children." Now that the rules of the game have been broken, there is no need for us to continue, break up! ”
After saying that, he turned around and left the hotel, leaving Chen Xian alone to cry.
04
Chen Xian cried for most of the night, and she finally understood that this extramarital affair that lasted for 3 years was not real love.
She began to realize the goodness of her husband, who had been married for so many years, and he had always pampered her, and he had not even let her cook a meal.
That night, she vowed to forget about the affair and spend the rest of her life with her husband and daughter.
However, when she did return to the family, on the tenth anniversary of the marriage, her husband actually filed for divorce with her.
She cried and begged her husband to forgive herself, but her husband shook his head and smiled at her: "I have been putting up with it for the past two years, and I have tried to forgive you, but you have disappointed me again and again, let's get together and disperse, I hope we can all be happy in the future, and we are all well." ”
In this way, Chen Xian divorced in the tenth year of marriage, and the original happy and happy family was forced to let her lose it herself.
Later, Chen Xian and her friends said that she regretted not cherishing this marriage, but there was no regret medicine to buy in this world, and now she could only stand alone every night in front of the window with the dim lamp.
In a marriage, husband and wife always need to compare hearts to hearts, no matter how the years change, love their other half, and be loyal to each other, which is the longest emotional companionship in this life.
It's just a pity that many people have done something wrong to understand this, and often when they understand this truth, everything is too late to regret.