The ghost Che Yuli, who had been wandering in the Yang Realm for five years, did not want to be reincarnated in order to watch the growth of her daughter Cao Qiming, and the heavens suddenly gave her 49 days to return to the human world, and if she could return to her seat within the time limit - Cao Ganghe's wife and Qi Min's mother, she could be reborn.
However, the relatives and friends who have lost her for five years seem to have long accepted Yuri's death, but in fact, they will bury their thoughts of her in the depths of their hearts and shut up, and those who pretend to reinvigorate themselves are silently weeping in their hearts alone.
In the face of lost life, we are always accustomed to ignoring sadness, thinking that time can dilute everything, so that this forcibly covered up thought is buried in the heart, feeding day and night into a dark surge, the surface is calm as water, but always when you are alone, the surging sadness becomes stronger and stronger.
The ghost Cha Yu-ri (Kim Tae-hee), who has been wandering in the Yang For five years, is reluctant to reincarnate in order to watch the growth of his daughter Cao Qi-min (Xu Yu-jin), who originally said that he would leave as long as he saw her "standing", but became more and more greedy to see that she could run, talk, and go to school, and had been hiding from the wizard who wanted to send her reincarnated, Wei Dongjia (Yin Si).
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="121" > love for his daughter</h1>
Until one day, the ghost of a child appeared in the kindergarten, and it was discovered that Qi Min would talk and play with him, but finally he was introduced to the kitchen freezer and almost died of heat loss.
The anxious Che Yuli ran to Wei Dong's house for help, she speculated that it was because her mother, who was a ghost, had been looking forward to being by Qi Ming's side for a long time, and even if there was no malice, she would unconsciously absorb her spirit, which also caused her to have the ability to see ghosts, and she was afraid that she would become a wizard in the future, making Yu Li anxious.
In addition to worrying that her daughter has no choice but to become a wizard in her future because of her, she is even more afraid that she will not be able to distinguish between ghosts and real people, and may be in danger at any time like last time.
Therefore, Yu li immediately promised the Wei Dong family to go to reincarnation, and the night before the date of reincarnation, Yu Li cried and cursed the heavens with all the ugly words, planning to see the last side of Qi Min before leaving, but suddenly met his husband Cao Ganghe (Li Kuijiong), who was holding his daughter by the side.
Seeing steel and sluggish and surprised eyes, looking back repeatedly, made Yuri also full of question marks and panic, standing on the street was also bumped by people who suddenly greeted her, began to feel cold, hungry, these things that had not happened after the ghost, let her run to Wei Dong's house again in fright for help.
The sudden return of the ghost to the human world also made the WeiDong family quite frightened, and after Bu Gua learned that this was the opportunity given to her by the heavens to be reborn, and in 49 days, she had to return to her seat again - Cao Ganghe's wife, Cao Qiming's mother, and then return to the world to continue to be a person.
However, two years after her death, Cao Ganghe has remarried to a newcomer, Wu Minzhen (Gao Fujie), as a ghost Yuli surrounds Qi Min, and regards Minzhen as her own daughter and care for Cao Ganghe in her eyes, not only not jealous, but grateful for her existence and dedication, so that she no longer has to worry about her father and daughter.
In the past five years, Cao Ganghe has been unable to cheer up because he blamed Yu li's death on himself, and originally an authoritative doctor for thoracic surgery, but he became a panic attack as soon as he entered the operating room, and his personality also changed from cheerful and enthusiastic to indifferent and indifferent to the world.
Every day on the way home, he crouched on the side of the road crying alone because he thought of Yuli, and even handed his swaddled daughter to his father-in-law and mother-in-law, planning to die with Yuli, but was angrily driven away by Yuli's mother, asking him to leave with the child and asking him to be responsible, and said that he would not contact him in the future and become a stranger who met and did not greet him on the road.
Cao Ganghe, who was driven back to his home by his father-in-law and mother-in-law, gradually learned to be a father alone, how to take care of his daughter Qiming, for which he barely cheered up, and became the only reason and motivation for him to survive, and what he did not know was that during this long time, Yuli was accompanied by them from beginning to end.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="33" > changes in the lives of relatives and friends</h1>
It was not until the emergence and active pursuit of Minzhen that Ganghe was gradually softened slightly, and remarried two years after Yuri's death, and officially married Minzhen.
Looking at Cao Ganghe and wu Minzhen forming a family, and Qi Minzhen also regards Minzhen as her biological mother, does Yuli really have a way to return to her seat? And what kind of mood will Cao Ganghe, who remarried, and the relatives and friends around her face her suddenly return to the world?
Even Cao Ganghe, who had remarried Minzhen, never forgot Yuli, and every day was still like a walking dead, and he never mentioned a word about Yuli to Minzhen and closed the door of his heart.
Let Minzhen truly enter his heart and life. And Min zhen, who has done her best with these three years of marriage, stands outside the door of Ganghe's heart, and also darkens, becoming a gloomy and difficult to get close to others. And what kind of scene will Yuri, who is about to meet Minzhen, bring?
Characters who appear around Yu-ri in the play include - father Cha Mo-boong (Park So-young), mother Jeon Yin-sook (Kim Mi-kyung), sister Cha Yeon-chi (Kim Mi-so), and the best friend Ko Hyun-jin (Shin Dong-mi). Everyone seems to have become accustomed to the daily life without chariot, each walking on the road ahead, but is this really the case?
Can time really dilute those sorrows for us?
Yu Li's mother - Jeon Yin-sook, those ruthless and difficult decisions, just to not want to become Cao Gang and continue to carry the weight forward, in order to completely return his life to Cao Ganghe, so that he can not worry in the future, rest assured to remarry, let him have his own life again, save him the obstacles to the future or let the remarried object have any pressure.
Mother-in-law Quan Yinshu's indifferent appearance, it seems that she has put down Yuli, but she bears loneliness and pain alone and does not want to show it, going to the temple every day to pray for Yuli, always saying that she wants to go to the bathroom before returning to the temple, crying bitterly when she turns on the faucet to wash her face, only allowing herself to release her emotions in this short period of time.
And her tears also flowed with the sound of the rushing water, sending her tears together, and then returning to her husband and little daughter as if nothing had happened, while Yuli stayed by everyone's side from beginning to end, watching her mother's suffering, and often crying and feeling sorry with her mother.
Che Maofeng, a Yuli father who cherishes his two daughters like a treasure, secretly watches his little granddaughter live and looks like through Wu Minzhen's community every day, and also secretly approaches Qi Min in the name of kindergarten volunteers, and happily stores his granddaughter's photos in his mobile phone to browse.
And the younger sister Che Yanzhi also resigned her favorite athlete status and no longer trained in a different place, just so that she could stay at home and spend more time with her parents, along with the responsibility of the eldest sister.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="119" > can be traced? </h1>
Yu Li's close friend Gao Xianqing runs a late-night canteen "Unborn", and her husband Gui Qinxiang (Wu Yishi), who works in the hospital, is also a close friend of Cao Ganghe, and only then has he matched the marriage between Gang He and Yu Li.
The entrance of the restaurant was plastered with photographs of guests, and the few photos with Yuri had been pressed under the photos of other guests, as if to tell themselves that they would not feel uncomfortable if they did not see it; Hyun-ching was quite worried about the life of Gang and Yu-min, and was relieved to learn that he had remarried.
However, limited by Yuri's deep friendship with himself, the remarried Ganghe felt guilty when he saw her, so that the close relationship between the four of them was getting farther and farther away after Yuri's death.
"The deceased is gone, but the comers can be traced"?
In many of the etiquettes of sending away the dead, we are often taught that "the deceased is gone, the comers can be traced", do not have too many tears and reluctance for the death of people, so that the deceased can go on the road with peace of mind; we are urged to restore the track of life as soon as possible, believing that time can naturally dilute this pain.
On the way to the end for others, we always have to endure sadness, pretend to be relieved, unable to show real emotions, let this forcibly covered up thoughts be buried in the heart, fed day and night into a dark surge, the surface is as calm as water, but always when you are alone, the surging sadness becomes stronger and stronger, turning into a little teardrop falling, only to find that you have never really let him go, but also let yourself stop in place.
The side plot is the "neighbors" of the Tranquil Spirit Bone Pagoda where Yu li settled after his death, there are thousands of reasons for not wanting to reincarnate, knowing that when Yu Li becomes a mortal, he pesters her to help, taking up a lot of Yu Li's limited time, but because of Yu Li's help, these ghosts who are reluctant to reincarnate for a long time are finally willing to let the Wei Dong family send them to heaven.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="65" > how do you accept it? </h1>
In the play, everyone returns to their daily lives as if they have let go of Yuli's death, but in fact, they bury this thought and pain in their hearts, pretending that they have accepted it calmly and no longer struggle, but their attachment to Yuli is so deep that they dare not face it.
At the end of each episode, another segment will be broadcast, and each character will face the reflection of the loss of yoga, whether it is a heart-wrenching cry, or an empty soul that is drained, or a strong and energetic encouragement of others to continue to recover from life, and the huge sadness and true feelings are revealed, and each episode makes me cry in front of the screen.
Thinking back to some of the plot and the end of the film will also shed tears. And will Yuri return to his seat and return to this world in these 49 days?
People say to go through the five stages of grief: denial - anger - pleading - frustration - acceptance.
The people around Yu li are still moving between pleading and frustration, even the seemingly dashing mother Quan Yinshu, still stopping between anger and pleading, but dare not express it, for yu li's death, as a mother, she is actually more sad, painful, and unwilling than anyone, no one really accepts Yu Li's departure, nor does she live a good life again, standing still.
This opportunity to open 49 days for Yuri makes people wonder what everyone reacts to seeing her return to the human world, and Yuri, who returns to the human world, although happily carries out the wishes and obsessions that arise only after "death"-hugging his daughter, becoming the daughter of his parents, and returning to his best friend, he also constantly hesitates whether he wants to try to return to his position.
I think that Yuri's 49-day return to the human world is more like a mission, helping those relatives and friends who love her but cannot really accept the loss of her to pull back to the starting point together, smoothing their anger against God, fulfilling their pleading, giving everyone the opportunity to fulfill those "regrets" for her, and letting "death" become Yuli's choice, rather than sudden bad news, so that each other has a precious opportunity, and then say "goodbye" well.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="117" > have the courage to express their inner feelings</h1>
However, in real life, none of us have such a magical opportunity, Hi Bye, Mama! On the one hand, we should always cherish the present moment and express our inner love in a timely manner.
The other side is telling the living people how to move forward, facing up to the emotions and reactions brought about by the death of relatives and friends - speaking out loud when missed, crying when sad, pointing to heaven when angry, scolding the world for how unfair it is, or regretting it doesn't matter, regretting that you have not been able to grasp more time together, failing to say psychological words, or regretting having quarrels.
When the deceased is finished, calmly face and admit that various emotions are intertwined, no longer just buried deep in their own hearts to ignore feelings, those emotions that should be walked should not be skipped, do not hold back tears to let it flow into the heart, and become a needle that pierces the heart.
In that way, we can finally really say goodbye to them, and then transform into another form in our hearts, and when we think of it, we can think generously and talk about the various memories of each other's lives, and we can really move forward and return to daily life.
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