The three levels of self-discipline, which level are you?

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The famous American writer and doctor of psychology M. Scott Pike once said:

"Life is a series of difficult problems, and the first solution to life's problems is self-discipline."

In life, we often see some people, always only do the simplest things, free time is not brush drama or sleep, can not resist any interference from the outside world.

There are others who get up early and sweat profusely when others are lazy; while others eat, drink, and have fun, they sit quietly in the library and read.

These people tend to be better and stand out because of self-discipline.

Only when a person develops the habit of self-discipline can he grasp the initiative in life.

01

Like to challenge things that are a bit difficult.

There is a theory of "jumping and picking peaches" in educational psychology.

Meaning, the peach that can be reached by jumping is the sweetest.

Because the peach is too high, how to jump can not reach, the number of failures is more, easy to produce frustration.

Peaches are too low, everyone can reach, too easy to pick, no sense of accomplishment.

Is there such a person around you?

They are very easy to learn, like to learn a little difficult skills, starting from the most basics, increasing the difficulty little by little, until finally, mastering the most difficult skills.

They are very smart, like to do a little difficult things, from the simplest to explore, slowly grasp the complex rules, until they are familiar with it, learn from each other, and apply it to life and work.

It is often said that to make a little progress every day is to move a little bit in a more difficult direction every day.

In fact, true self-discipline starts with challenging things that are a bit difficult.

There is a 102-year-old grandmother in the UK, from West Yorkshire.

After she retired at the age of 67, she began to learn yoga.

Under the guidance of the teacher, start with the most basic yoga movements, and gradually improve flexibility, balance and endurance.

This sport, which requires great flexibility, is a bit of a difficult challenge for the 67-year-old.

She started practicing at the beginning of the Japanese worship and boat style;

After becoming proficient, I began to learn intermediate asanas: overhead style, split leg spinal torsion style;

Finally, the transition to advanced asanas, one-legged balanced standing stretching, and even many young people do not do well to twist the side of the side of the handstand.

She practiced for thirty-five years and is now a British national treasure yoga enthusiast.

Similarly, a 65-year-old grandmother in the United States practiced weightlifting in order to lose weight, and now has twelve national and world-class records.

At first, she held the purpose of exercising and losing weight, but just practicing.

Under the guidance of her coach, she moved in a professional direction and began to increase the weight of her weights, challenging herself again and again.

Whenever she can lift a weight of a barbell, she sets herself a heavier weightlifting goal.

Until closer to the world record, closer, and finally beyond it.

Every time you break the record, you can't do without the challenge of higher difficulty.

Basketball coach Wooden wrote in his autobiography:

When you improve a little bit every day, eventually big things happen.

Don't expect to make big progress all at once. Every time of the day trying to find small improvements.

This is the only way to go, and once you start to progress, you will continue to move forward.

People with a high degree of self-discipline will jump out of their comfort zone and take the initiative to explore something that is a little difficult but meaningful.

02

Be good at using fragmented time.

Many people always think that nothing can be done in fragmented time.

In fact, people who are good at making the most of fragmented time are high-level self-discipliners.

Recently, some netizens found a video of Wang Yibo after finishing work in the evening.

In the video, he records his daily routine of using fragmented time to practice skateboarding after work.

As an artist, the itinerary is full and the time to practice skateboarding is limited, so Wang Yibo tries to use the fragmented time to practice in all places where he can skateboard.

The corridor where no one was there when the airport was catching a plane, the backstage recording of "Every Day Up", the gap between filming, he used all the short time available to practice skateboarding.

Wang Yibo will not leave the skateboard wherever he goes, he must take it with him when he travels, and he must practice when he has time.

Although the time for each skateboarding practice is limited, even only a few minutes, over time, his skateboarding skills have also made great progress.

Now, Wang Yibo has been awarded the title of "China Skateboarding Promotion Ambassador" by the State General Administration of Sport, and has also been praised by Deng Yaping.

Sometimes I think about it, in fact, in daily life, we have a lot of spare time at our fingertips.

Before breakfast, during lunch breaks, when taking the bus after work, after dinner, it can be used to develop some hobbies.

Self-disciplined people never let time slip away in vain.

No matter how short, they can always do something meaningful in the gap of time.

Colleague Xiaolan is engaged in secretarial work, responsible for receiving guests, arranging leadership schedules, booking air tickets and other work on weekdays.

On weekdays, she also loves to write. Sometimes at lunch, everyone was chatting, and she slid around with her phone.

We all advised her not to play with her mobile phone while eating, but she smiled lightly and said, "I am not playing with mobile phones, I am collecting materials for new articles." ”

Every time I was at the bus stop and saw her speaking to her phone's voice-to-text software, I knew she was drafting a new article again.

Usually, when we were chatting, watching dramas, and passing the time, she held a book and read it intently.

Later, her articles were frequently published on major public accounts, realizing self-worth and also reaping the fee.

I didn't expect her job to be done well, and her hobbies could blossom.

In life, as soon as many people have free time, they immediately start to have fun.

Subconsciously took out the mobile phone from the pocket, brushed the short video and smiled, blinked two hours have passed, really cool;

It is really difficult to consciously use your leisure time and read a book for half an hour.

Thus, a great deal of time is drowned out in this unconscious "happiness."

A person's high degree of self-discipline is a conscious reminder to spend time on something more meaningful, before every unconscious pleasure.

Letting go of pleasure and indulging may be painful, but the accumulated efforts will never be disappointed.

03

Know how to isolate external interference.

The British writer Thomas Hardy wrote in his masterpiece Far Away from the Hustle and Bustle:

Far from the disgraceful struggle for power and profit in the hustle and bustle, people's sober desires never get lost, and they insist on taking the regular right path silently along the valley of life that is isolated from the world.

A top self-disciplined person who knows how to stay away from the troubles of the world will only go his own way silently.

When you are clear about what you are thinking and moving towards your goal, everything in the outside world will not affect you.

Andy Lau shared a piece of his own experience in "Open Talk".

At that time, he was very popular in the television industry, and suddenly decided to go to the film industry to develop, because he liked the feeling of the big screen more.

At that time, many people around him said: "Andy Lau, you are not doing this right, you will regret it sooner or later." ”

Speaking of this, Andy Lau choked up, he said: "At that time, I was lonely, very confused, very sad, no one supported me, no one gave me advice, some, just voices of opposition and accusations. ”

He continued: "However, I was still not disturbed by these people, insisted on my ideas, and resolutely chose the film industry. ”

It turned out that he had made the right choice.

Everyone often sees the words "Eight Winds Do Not Move" on the folding fan in the hands of chess players.

The so-called "eight winds" refer to the eight things of profit, decline, destruction, reputation, praise, ridicule, bitterness, and happiness.

Successful success is profit, failure is decline, behind the slander is destruction, behind the praise is praise, praise in person is praise, face-to-face insult is ridicule, pain is bitterness, happiness is happiness.

When we encounter any of the eight winds, the emotions are not moved, which is the eight winds not moving.

The eight winds are the highest state of self-discipline.

In this earthly world, things that interfere with us are always emerging.

The poor pursuit of work, the open ridicule of others, and the kind words and persuasion of family members may all bother a person.

People who are not self-disciplined are often disoriented because of external interference.

However, a highly disciplined person will not be easily affected because they are focused enough.

The most top self-discipline is to abandon external interference, do your own thing, and move towards the goal.

One day you will find that you prefer your self-discipline and determination to your undisciplined and unassertioned mind.

04

The three levels of self-discipline, which level are you?

Self-discipline, in the final analysis, is a game of self-dealing.

Like to challenge things that are a little difficult to get improved;

Be good at using fragmented time so that you will not waste time;

Only by knowing how to isolate external interference can we be distracted and unmoved.

Only a person with a high degree of self-discipline can control his own destiny.

Because, as self-disciplined as you are, you have as much freedom as you are.