When it comes to the dawn of another year, when you go to visit the grave, will you take your children with you?
"In a place like a cemetery, how can you take your children with you?" Unlucky! ”
"Children can see 'unclean' things with their eyes and can't go to the grave."
In many parts of the mainland, there is a saying that "you can't take children to the cemetery", and many elderly people take this statement as a guideline, and when young parents are ready to take their children to visit the grave, they resolutely raise objections.
Young parents may disagree with this, being absolutely "materialists" who believe that even taking their children to the cemetery is not necessary.
But in fact, when sweeping the grave, it is really not suitable to take children to go, and it is not simply because of "superstition", there is a certain scientific basis behind it, and we as parents still have to pay more attention.
Why shouldn't Qingming sweep the grave and take children?
For adults, they may have long been accustomed to life, old age, illness and death, and understand the meaning of "death", while for most children, "death" is still too far away.
Snow White in fairy tales eats poisoned apples and ends up falling into a coma; little girls who sell matches freeze to death on the street but see their grandmother in the shimmer of matches; mermaids turn into foam when they die, and they can also reflect colored light, and in the children's world, "death" is often glorified.
But when they come to the cemetery in the qingming, when they see their parents and relatives weeping and mourning, and witnessing the real "parting of life and death", children are easily psychologically shocked and cannot dispel their inner fears.
In particular, some children are relatively timid, and the experience of going to the cemetery to sweep the grave may also leave a psychological shadow, which will adversely affect the future growth, so when we sweep the grave, it is best not to bring children.
In addition to cemeteries, these places are also best not to take children with them
1. Hospital
Some parents will take their children with them when they visit patients or go to the hospital for medical examinations.
However, the patients in the hospital are concentrated, the child's immunity is relatively low, some patients are of poor quality, and they will cough and spit at will, which is not a small safety hazard for the child.
And some patients in the hospital are in poor health, the image will be more "terrible", if the child is relatively small, it is likely to scare the child.
I remember when I was a child, I went to the hospital with my mother to visit patients, and accidentally saw a seriously ill grandfather, who was very scary in shape and skinny, and after returning home, I had nightmares for several days in a row, and I still have palpitations when I think about it now.
So when we go to the hospital, we still have to try to avoid taking the child, if we have to go together, we must also wear a mask for the child, do not stay too long, and do a good job of disinfection when we go home.
2. KTV and other entertainment venues
Many young parents like to be lively, usually friends gather, often go to some entertainment venues such as KTV, and some "big-hearted" moms and dads will also take their children with them, which will also be easy to cause harm to their children.
On the one hand, the sound in KTV is very noisy, and the lights are also very dazzling when flashing, which is very unfriendly to the child's hearing and vision development, which is not conducive to the child's physical health.
On the other hand, some entertainment venues are mixed, some scenes are not suitable for children to watch, and some adults will drink and smoke, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of children.
Therefore, for the sake of children's health, parents should try to avoid taking their children with them when going to entertainment places such as KTV, which is harmful to children and not beneficial to children.
3. Temples and other religious sites
Many parts of the mainland have the tradition of going to temples to burn incense and pray for blessings, especially on some festivals, some parents will take their children with them, but for children, some religious sites such as temples are also not a good place.
In some temples, there are many "pilgrims" who burn incense and pray for blessings, and the whole temple is full of smoke, and the air is filled with incense ash, which is easily sucked into the body by children.
And because the child is too young, often do not understand some religious rules, if the parents are slightly negligent, it may disturb others and cause disputes.
Before a Mother who believed in Buddhism shared that once she took her child to the temple to eat "Iftar", when eating, the child ran and jumped like at home, accidentally got the rice grains on the table, was admonished by the master who ate together, frightened and did not dare to say a word, and since then has left a psychological shadow on the temple.
For religious sites such as temples, we should also try to avoid taking children with us, burn incense and pray for blessings, and parents can go there by themselves.
Crooked Mom Conclusion:
Not only during the Qingming Festival, it is recommended that parents do not take their children to visit the grave, in ordinary life, the above 3 places should also try to avoid going with their children, after all, the healthy growth of children is the most important, once they leave a psychological shadow, it may have a profound impact on the growth of children.
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