Relationships between neighbors are complex and delicate. It can be as intimate as a loved one, but also as cold and heartless as a stranger. Pay attention to the relationship between neighbors, first of all, do not let children become people who make neighbors hate.
There is a Chinese saying: "Distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors." ”
For relatives who don't see each other often, neighbors who are close at hand sometimes seem closer.
It is precisely because of this relationship that the relationship between neighbors is complex and delicate.
Every day when we look up and don't look down, our children's words and deeds are looked at by the neighbors.
Therefore, pay attention to the relationship between neighbors, and first of all, you can't let your child become a person that neighbors hate.
Once, I was visiting a friend and happened to have a fight with her upstairs neighbor.
"Big sister, can you take care of your children, don't let him knock on the heating pipe in the middle of the night, knock out my mother's heart disease."
The friend frowned and pleaded with the neighbor with two black circles.
"I managed it, but I couldn't control it!" What can I do? Or you come in and beat him up!" ”
As the other person spoke, his body let go of the door, and his child was jumping up and down like a monkey in the living room, shaking the chair and making it sound. It seems that the friend's mother has a heart attack, and it is really not nonsense.
Faced with the neighbor's inaction as a friend, there was no way out, so he had to walk back to his home in a huff.
During the more than an hour I sat at her house, the sound of "clanging" upstairs never stopped, and even at one point we couldn't even talk, and finally my friend planned to send the old mother to live with his relatives for a while, and then pick up the "bear child" upstairs when she went to kindergarten.
As I was leaving, there was another quarrel upstairs, and it seemed that it was not just friends and families who were being tormented.
Nowadays, people in the city basically live in buildings, and if children toss and turn at home, it is bound to affect the neighbors up and down.
In the process of growing up, children are full of curiosity about the things around them, especially everything in the home, which is the beginning of children's exploration of the world. When he discovered that knocking on the heating pipes could make a sound, the world was wonderful and new to him. It is good for children to have a psychology of exploration, but when this psychology of exploration becomes a malicious troublemaker, we must take measures to stop it.
My father taught me a vivid lesson about this. At that time, my family lived in an old-fashioned building with an open balcony.
Once, my cousins and cousins gathered at my house, and we were thrown out of trouble when there were no adults in the house. Later I forgot who proposed folding the plane and flew out from the balcony to see whose plane flew the farthest.
Soon, the open space outside the window was full of paper airplanes, and some of them landed on the balcony of the neighbor's house. Just as we were having a lot of fun, my father, who came back from work, saw this scene and stood downstairs and scolded us. As soon as we entered the house, he ordered us to take a broom and dustpan to sweep the downstairs, and then let us clean the neighbor's balcony.
When the neighbor saw me cleaning while shedding tears, he advised my father: "The child is naughty, don't get in the way, we will clean it ourselves in a while." ”
My father said a sentence that I will never forget: "It is precisely because she is a child that she cannot be allowed to let her go, and now she does not understand the rules, and she will have it in the future." ”
The neighbor was speechless, and I blamed my father for being too fussy.
But in the future growth, whenever I tried to reduce my requirements for myself, my father's words would echo in my ears.
"One cannot choose one's origins, but one can choose to be a better person."
This phrase is applied to educating children, that is, "We can't choose what kind of children we have, but we can choose to teach our children to be a better person." ”