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In the past, in rural areas, it was common to discard babies because of son preference or poor families, especially female babies.
1993年，四川广安市一位有精神障碍的单身汉，将别人不要的弃婴抱回家拉扯成人。 It was not expected that 23 years later, his adopted daughter would take him to court in 2016 and ask for the termination of the adoption.
Why? It all started in 1993.
1. Abandoned baby girl
In the autumn of 1993, the countryside was in the midst of a bumper harvest season, and the rice in the fields was bent over and ripe.
The villagers are busy harvesting in the fields, taking turns to help from house to house, one group of people busy at your house today, and tomorrow they will go to another house in combination.
The harvester was creaked by the foot, and the raised ears of rice flew all over the sky, a fiery scene.
The master cut a handful of rice with a sickle, suddenly stood up and looked at a large piece of yellow-orange-orange rice in front of him, showed a satisfied smile, and turned his head to say to everyone happily, "This year's rain is less, God opened his eyes and the harvest is good, and the granary will definitely be full!" ”
A villager who was close to him echoed: "Yes, this year everyone has a good harvest?" ”
A group of people laughed again, and soon the laughter was drowned in a rice field, and everyone continued to harvest the rice diligently.
At this moment, a strange man walked over with a baby in his arms. The man was wearing a whitewashed blue cloth coat with three palm-sized patches on it, and the baby was wrapped in a small, worn-out blanket.
The man said that the family is difficult, there are already 4 children in the family, it is really unable to raise, to see if any family is willing to raise.
The villagers opened the baby's small blanket and looked at it, but it was a baby who had just been born a few days ago, with a thin physique, let alone a baby girl. Everyone said that they already had children and asked him to go to other villages to see.
Even if the man and the baby girl stayed overnight on the haystacks in the village, no one was willing to adopt them.
The next afternoon, Fang Chongcai, a 31-year-old bachelor, wandered around the village. He saw a crowd of people gathered around him. He also ran over to watch the hilarity.
A group of people surrounded a man holding a baby, only to see the man swoop down on his knees, his voice choking, "You are all right, who wants the child to take this baby to raise..."
The onlookers shook their heads, for in those days, the idea of son preference in rural areas was still very serious. It's okay to be a healthy baby boy, but it's a baby girl who has just been born weak.
However, at this time, Fang Chongcai, who suddenly came out of the crowd, seemed to like this little baby very much, and he went up and hugged it and did not let go.
Everyone was startled by Fang Chongcai's sudden move and dissuaded him from doing so. But Fang Chongcai couldn't listen at all, carefully held the baby, and happily returned in the direction of home.
Leaving a helpless face of the villagers behind the back of the words and stop.
2. Rural bachelors want to adopt abandoned babies
Fang Chongcai was born in a small village in the Qianfeng District of Guang'an City, Sichuan Province, because he suffered from meningitis at the age of 8. The family was poor and had no money for medical treatment, leaving behind sequelae and some mental disorders.
He is often half confused and half awake, and when he is sober, he can follow the villagers to do some "peeling walnuts" work to earn some pocket money. When his brain was confused, he was wandering around in the field in front of his house, and he would not listen to anyone who told him to come back. The family had no choice but to wait for him to wake up and come back.
The eldest brother Fang Chongqian has long been established, and only he and his elderly mother are left in the family. Because of his son's intellectual problems and the poverty of his family, no one in the village was willing to marry his own girl, and he was still the "light rod commander" in his 30s.
Under the guidance of his mother, the younger son finally learned to cook. When the brain is clear, you can also make a simple dish like scrambled eggs and boiled potatoes and pumpkin. Although it is sloppy, it can at least fill your stomach. In order to teach him, his mother did not spare any effort. Many of the action steps were split and taught over and over again until they were imprinted in his son's mind.
She was afraid that one day she would be gone, and her younger son would not be able to survive alone. So while you are still alive, let your son learn some basic life skills as much as possible.
In the past, when I was young, I could take my young son with me and still be able to bark cattle to cultivate the land. But now that she was older, her physical strength was no longer good. A lot of things are a bit overwhelming.
One day, she was picking some green vegetables in the vegetable field not far from her house, and as soon as she looked up, she saw her youngest son, Fang Chongqian, holding something in his arms, and hurried to the house. Before she could ask what was going on, she saw her younger son close the door with a backhand.
She thought that her son had stolen whose things she had stolen, and the green vegetables could not take it, so she took three steps and made two steps to rush home to ask for the result. As soon as she opened the door, she was startled. It turned out that the son actually carried a baby home.
She asked her son what was going on, but he couldn't say why. She quickly took small steps to the neighbor's house to inquire who the baby Fang Chongqian was carrying home, and the neighbor explained the original reason.
Then the village party secretary followed suit. After a while, the people in the village gathered at the door of Fang Chongcai's house again, and there was a lot of discussion.
Everyone is advising that the current family situation of the Fang Chongcai family is really not suitable for adopting this child, and raising a child is troublesome. It's expensive and time-consuming.
The mother also felt embarrassed, and her husband died not long after he got married. I pulled my two sons up, I don't know how much suffering I have suffered, but now how good it is. She couldn't make up her mind, so she asked the villagers to go to the home of Fang Chongqian, the eldest son of the neighboring village, to call him over.
The next family had all arrived, and Fang Chongqian came to his brother and persuaded, "Brother, you still need your mother to take care of it, if you bring a baby again, she is old, how can you take care of it?" ”
"The mother works hard and does not raise, I raise, I raise." Fang Chongcai held the baby and refused to let go, murmuring in his mouth.
When my mother saw this scene, tears fell from the ground.
The one she couldn't let go of was her youngest son, who still had no son and half daughter. He was afraid that one day he would be gone and no one would take care of him. I don't know if God saw him poorly and sent him a child. But the current family conditions really do not allow to raise another baby.
When the six gods were without a master, the village secretary came over and played a round field. "After you raise the doll to adulthood, you can also provide for Fang Chongcai in the future."
The old mother and brother Fang Chongqian thought about it for a while, not to mention that Fang Chongcai liked this child so much.
The Fang family finally accepted the baby girl, and Fang Chongcai hugged the baby and shouted happily, "I also have a baby, it is our baby!" ”
Seeing that the village party secretary also spoke, the Fang family had no objections, and the villagers were not able to dissuade them any longer, and they gradually dispersed.
3. Regard abandoned babies as their own
The family gave the child a nickname Xiaofang, and Fang Chongcai also ran to the street to buy a bottle of milk and filled it with rice soup for the child to drink. Since Fang Chongcai had Xiaofang, he rarely went out to run around again, and he was teasing Xiaofang at home.
In order to let the child have a legitimate identity, he also deliberately ran to the police station to give the child a household registration. Because the child was not born in person, Guangkai ran several times and finally went to the household registration as an adopted daughter.
Xiao Fangsheng was thin and small, and when he was 5 months old, he was only about 12 pounds. Fang Chongcai's mother wondered if she could always feed her children rice soup, and always had to buy some soy milk powder for her children to supplement nutrition.
But the family really has no other financial income, and now there are more children. Fang Chongcai could only follow the people in the village to the nearby construction site to do some brainless work and earn some money to raise children. Moreover, in the future, children will have to go to school, and there are many places to use money.
During the day, the child is the grandmother belt, at that time, you can often see an old and a small in the field, a white plastic bag is covered with a small blanket, Xiaofang will obediently sit on it and play with herself, next to the small kettle for her to drink.
Grandma was busy in the fields, hoeing grass and fertilizing in the spring, and digging sweet potatoes and breaking corn in the autumn.
Day after day, year after year. In the blink of an eye, Xiaofang also grew to an age where she could talk and run all over the ground. The milk called out to Grandma in a milky voice, and the old man who called was very happy.
The old man worked for a while, always stopped, spit on his hands, rubbed his hands hard a few times, and then wiped his hands clean on his pants, and then reached out to hug his little granddaughter.
When the sun sets on the western mountains and the sunset is full of sky, Grandma leads her little granddaughter, carrying a hoe, and walks in the direction of home, one tall and one short.
At this time, Fang Chongcai, the father who had finished his work, was almost home.
The family faces the faint yellowing light, and in the smoky kitchen, Grandma wears an apron to cook on the stove, and Xiaofang and Dad set up a fire at the stove door. The firewood had branches, wheat straw, grabbed a handful and stuffed it into it and crackled and burned.
Xiaofang likes to run to the stove orally, because his father will always give him roast potatoes to eat, throw 2 potatoes in the hearth, buried in the hot wood ash, after a while it will be cooked, take it out and pat the ash, after a little cooling, you can't wait to eat it directly, which is the most profound delicacy in Xiaofang's childhood memories.
Although this family is poor, Fang Chongcai has never been half sloppy with this daughter.
When Xiaofang went to school, the mountain was far away from school, and he had to climb several mountains, and Fang Chongcai was not at ease, and often returned to and from the city. Although Xiaofang's father is not as tall as the fathers of other children, and sometimes his brain is confused and he doesn't even know his grandmother, he still knows Xiaofang, and his love for Xiaofang is no less than anyone.
When Xiaofang was 9 years old, her developed biological parents came to the door and wanted to see her. They also knew that they were not qualified to take Xiaofang back, after all, they had given their children to others in the first place, and they just hoped that Xiaofang would visit them during the winter and summer vacations.
Grandma disagreed, afraid that Xiaofang would never return. Or Fang Chongcai made a decision to let the child go to his biological parents' house to play for a while, as long as he finally sent the child back.
Therefore, as long as Xiaofang has a winter and summer vacation, she will go to her biological parents' house to play for half a month and then go home.
One year, Xiaofang was picked up by her biological parents to play, and she did not return near the beginning of school. Fang Chongcai was anxious to stomp his feet at home, and he couldn't wait for Xiaofang to come home, so he went out alone to pick up Xiaofang.
Because the road is not familiar, I got lost on the street. Wandered the streets for a few days before being sent back by the aid station.
4, dropped out of school to work, after marriage everything changed
In the second year of Xiaofang's junior high school, her grandmother died of illness, leaving only him and Fang Chongcai to rely on each other. The family really can't afford her living expenses, so Xiaofang can only drop out of school and follow her relatives out to work.
In the first few years of going out, Xiaofang would save some money every month to call uncle Fang Chongqian's family, and his father would not withdraw money, and would let uncle transfer the money to his father. When he came back from the New Year, he would pull his father to buy him a new dress and new shoes for the New Year.
The villagers all praised Fang Fang's wealth and good fortune, and after this, they really grew old and supported.
In 2009, Xiaofang was 16 years old and fell in love with a young man who was 2 years older in the factory. She couldn't wait to call and tell Fang Chongcai the news, and said that she would take it home in the new year.
Chinese New Year's Eve, Xiaofang led a thin and tall boy home. It can be seen that Xiaofang likes each other very much. The boy also said that the two would wait until next year to get married.
Watching his daughter find happiness, Fang Chongcai was naturally happy. But Uncle Fang Chongqian was not happy. The boy is from Jiangxi, that means that Xiaofang will marry to Jiangxi, if Xiaofang is far away, then who will raise Fang Chongcai?
Fang Chongcai felt that as long as his daughter lived well, he didn't care. However, Fang Chongqian felt that some things must be made clear, otherwise the two sides would be too noisy to end in the future.
In 2010, on the eve of Xiaofang's marriage, the in-laws went to the house to propose to the family, and Fang Chongqian told Xiaofang's in-laws about this matter. However, the in-laws are also very reasonable, saying that this is a matter of course.
After XiaoFang got married, she took Fang Chongcai to the man's family, the in-laws' family was not rich, the ancestors were farmers, and the in-laws also dealt with the land all their lives.
Because Xiaofang and her husband still have to go out to work to earn money, they leave Fang Chongcai at home and let her in-laws usually help take care of them, and she will regularly pay living expenses to go home every month.
Originally, the two people's salaries were not high, and now they have the burden of the family, which makes the life of the two people who are not rich in the first place more stretched. In order to save money, both often do not go home for the New Year. Because the Cost of Returning to and From the New Year is high, the overtime pay given by the factory is several times that of usual.
Fang Chongcai originally thought that he could look at his daughter every day and be with her daughter. As a result, I can't see my daughter for a year, let alone feel uncomfortable doing anything in my own home.
There were several large cattle farms nearby, and he got a job herding there. During the day, I was basically not at home, so I came back at night to sleep for a night.
In the first year, the other party still did not embarrass him on the face. But over time, there were some complaints. In addition, neighbors often discuss his family behind his back, and marry a daughter-in-law and bring a drag oil bottle over.
The gossip was a headache, and Xiaofang's mother-in-law called Xiaofang and asked Xiaofang to come back and send Fang Chongcai back. Xiaofang was very embarrassed in the middle, on the one hand was her adoptive father, on the other side was her mother-in-law. I can only say that she will come back to deal with it before the New Year.
At the end of 2015, Xiaofang and her husband returned home. The mother-in-law and father-in-law all proposed that now she and Fang Chongcai could not see each other several times a year, so it was better to send Fang Chongcai home and have time to go and see.
Xiao Fang had no choice but to agree, and the family packed Fang Chongcai's things the next day and sent them back to the village. The in-laws promised to give some living expenses or living supplies every month.
In this way, Fang Chongcai began to live alone.
5. A paper complaint and termination of the adoption relationship
Unexpectedly, Fang Chongcai returned home, and the in-laws not only did not give materials and living expenses as promised in advance. Calling Xiaofang in the past is often no one to answer, it is difficult to get through, either the mobile phone is going to run out of battery, or busy at work. Only to say two words and hurriedly hung up the phone.
At the beginning of 2016, it was the Spring Festival. Xiaofang, who had gone out to work, returned to Guang'an, Sichuan. However, she did not go home to visit Fang Chongcai, but went to her biological parents' house.
If it weren't for the people in the neighboring villages telling them, they would still be in the dark. This made Fang Chongcai's brother Fang Chongqian very angry, he was not worth it for his brother, he directly called Xiaofang's in-laws to question, the two families quarreled on the phone.
A week later, Xiaofang's family came to visit Fang Chongcai with something, and after eating a meal together at a restaurant, Xiaofang secretly gave Fang Chongcai two hundred yuan, and the family returned to Jiangxi.
Originally, Fang Chongcai thought that Xiaofang had come to pick up him and live with him, but his expectations were disappointed. He also did not expect that this meal was actually the last meal that Xiao Fang ate.
In April 2016, 23-year-old Xiaofang filed a complaint against Fang Chongcai, asking the court to end his adoption relationship with Fang Chongcai.
The court ruled in favor of Xiaofang, and her adoption relationship with Fang Chongcai was dissolved because her adoption did not comply with the law.
The Adoption Law clearly stipulates that the adopter should meet 4 conditions for adoption at the same time before the adoption relationship is established.
1. Childless.
2. Have the ability to raise and educate adoptees.
3. Have not suffered from a disease that is not considered medically appropriate to adopt a child.
4. Be at least 30 years old. At the same time, if a male without a spouse adopts a woman, the age difference between the adopter and the adoptee shall be more than forty years.
Fang Chongcai was only 31 years old when he adopted Xiaofang, and the age of xiaofang, who was adopted, was not yet 40 years old. Moreover, he has a mental disorder and does not have the ability to raise an adopter alone.
As soon as the verdict came out, the people in the village boiled over. One after another for Fang Chongcai was uneven, Xiaofang was everyone watching a little bit of growth, when Fang Chongcai hugged home, it was pitifully small, only more than four pounds, everyone said that they could not feed. It was hard to feed the big, but now it turns its face and does not recognize people, is not what is a white-eyed wolf?
Fang Chongqian was not satisfied with the verdict and then appealed, and the court still upheld the original judgment, but the Fang family raised Xiaofang for more than ten years, and the expenses spent during this period could require Xiaofang to compensate.
Fang Chongcai was taken to court by his brother, but was told that Xiaofang did not want himself and did not want to call him father anymore. His heart twitched with pain.
At this time, Fang Chongcai was already 54 years old, and no one else wanted him to work odd jobs. He lost the ability to work, lost his financial resources, and could only rely on the minimum guarantee to survive.
He also had no heart to look around as much as he did when he was younger, and he often sat on a stone bench in front of his house, alone with the verdict, in a silent daze. I sat down all afternoon, and when night fell, I turned around and entered the house with my back to me.
Father and daughter, who were once dependent on each other, became strangers because of a paper verdict.
Fang Chongcai had not seen Xiaofang for a long time, and he wanted to call her and listen to her voice, but he was afraid of disturbing her life.
He was already old, and he didn't know if he would have a chance to wait until Xiaofang came to see him in his lifetime.
The law is ruthless, and in terms of the fairness of the law, this is in accordance with the law, and the adoption relationship is indeed invalid.
Outside the law, it is the grace of decades of nurturing. To bring her home from a baby girl waiting to be fed, there is no merit and hard work.
The rush to break off relations with his adoptive father after marriage is really heartless.
It is said that it is difficult to return without being born.
But she did not treat her adoptive father as a father, giving him a pension and sending him to the end, but treating him as a "drag oil bottle".
Some people also say that Xiaofang also has her helplessness.
The family conditions are not good, because of the trivialities of chai rice oil and salt, and then dragging a disabled "adoptive father", it is even more intensified the contradiction with the in-laws, in order to save the new home, can only endure the pain of abandoning the "adoptive father".
Supporting her "adoptive father" was originally a responsibility given to her by the family that once raised her, but her current situation is difficult to assume this responsibility.
She is also powerless.