If the father is not kind, the son is not filial, the brother is not friendly, the brother is not respectful, and if the husband is unrighteous, the woman is not smooth.
My hometown is a suburban village, five years ago the shantytown transformation and demolition, the model is to pay the demolition money first, and then buy back the demolition house, the elderly over 60 years old, most of them buy houses for their children, the rest of the money is basically distributed to the children, almost no old people buy houses for themselves alone, and there is not much pension money left. Some buy a small house in the countryside, rent a house, or live in a dark garage in a new community.
Eccentricity causes trouble. A few days ago, I went back to my hometown to see the old woman, and I heard the old woman say that one of my old sisters-in-law had just died, very cute, and when she was alive, she rented a small house in the countryside, and her body was sick, and her son and daughter almost did not go. One winter, a thin bed, dirty, called her daughter, and her daughter just wouldn't pick up. When he died, the eldest daughter was reluctant to give some gifts, the younger daughter did not come at all, and the son handled the funeral independently, which was quite good. Villagers privately talked about it, the original root is still the matter of demolition money, when the house is demolished, the demolition money is all given to the son to buy a house, the two daughters have not given a cent, which is a customary practice in the countryside at the moment, prevailing over sons, marrying out of the daughter spilled water, the family property basically has no daughter's share, the rural elderly think that it is very normal. As everyone knows, the reality is very cruel, eccentricity causes trouble, and the daughter does not come and go from then on.
People do not suffer from poverty and injustice, parents in the distribution of property, because of eccentricity and uneven distribution, leading to contradictions and troubles, abound, between children and parents, between sons, between sons and daughters, conflicts continue, some even old and dead do not interact with each other, laying hidden dangers for their own pension.
Planting melons to get melons to plant beans to get beans, planting eccentric harvest sadness. In reality, many families are full of contradictions, brothers and sisters are not in harmony with each other, and even conflicts are constant. Parents do not support each other when they are old, do not bear medical expenses when they are sick, their children blame each other, their affection is weak, and they ignore the responsibility of supporting their parents. The three principles and five permanents of Confucianism are not necessarily all suitable for modern society, but also must be perfected and developed, the times are different, men and women are the same, the palms of the hands and the backs of the hands are meat. Parents should treat their children equally, a bowl of water is flat, all are treated equally, regardless of men and women, regardless of size, regardless of rich or poor, fair, equal, equal distribution, regardless of distance and proximity, regardless of likes and dislikes, in the public heart. In the disposal of property, "affection" is the key to contradictions, and it is not advisable to favor sons over daughters, kill the rich and help the poor, parents in the world hurt children, parents in the world hurt poor children, poor children and rich daughters, and so on.
When parents are in charge of the house, they must think that they will eventually grow old, there will be a day when they will not be able to be the lord of the wrong home, the children will grow up, it is no longer the parents who say one thing, and the affection may become worthless in the face of money. When dividing property, we talk about traditional customs, and when we share the responsibility for the elderly, our children are treated equally, and our children cannot accept them, and the real society does not understand them. Traditional bad habits kill people, raise children to prevent aging, jigu to prevent hunger, in fact, adopted daughters to prevent aging is better. The son is a leather jacket, the daughter is a small cotton jacket, the son is the Construction Bank, the daughter is the China Merchants Bank, the key is that the parents can not be eccentric, once there is an eccentric eye, the child may not be anything?
Father's love is like a mountain, and mother's love is like water. If you want to be at home and enjoy your old age when you are old, parents must treat their children fairly, be impartial, and let their children feel a strong maternal love and deep fatherly affection.