Face it as a young person
The last six months
Author: He Gui
At the beginning of the month, the chief of the political engineering section called me to his office and said that there was a forum for young cadres recently, and asked me to prepare for it and make a simple speech. I casually asked: What do young cadres mean?? Answer: Under 35 years old. I pinched my fingers and sighed: This should be the last time I will attend such a symposium.
Without a little defense, the "mid-life crisis" struck quietly, and I should have recognized this cruel reality long ago: "Sorry, I didn't pay attention to middle age."
Not being old and not wanting to grow up is the simple idea of many people. Just like in everyone's heart, "youth" lives on one side of the atrium and "youth" on the side of the ventricle. Of course, how to define and identify teenagers and youth, from the perspective of age division, is not fixed, and it will also fluctuate and adjust with the development of the times. Whether it is middle-aged or not, age is never a matter, mentality and temperament are. In the traditional cognition, "every middle age, there will be anxiety", there are old, there is a small, there is a home inside, there is a life outside, the pressure from all directions is exerted at the same time, if you are not satisfied with the current life, the mid-life crisis has become a psychological obstacle that is difficult to overcome. Unfortunately, our group of people have felt the anxiety, pressure and unwillingness that exist in the middle-aged stage very early, and the "middle age" in mentality and the "aging" in temperament are less vigorous.
I happened to chat on WeChat with an old classmate who rarely met after graduation. At the beginning of the conversation, he said half-jokingly: "I have to ask first, have you changed jobs?" Married? Do you have a baby? Suddenly, I found that in just a few years, we were quite unfamiliar with each other's lives, thinking that we had been in a dormitory for two full years, and the moment we suddenly chatted, there was even a kind of "ah, there was you" amazement.
At that time, I was young, I didn't know what the road ahead was, so I was full of enthusiasm and hope for the future, and time was like a white colt passing through the gap, and in the blink of an eye, I had entered the society for more than ten years, and I gradually adapted to such a life time rush, looking at myself in the mirror, I saw the figure of fafu day by day, and I was getting older and older. I have to sigh that the years are like knives, smoothing out our edges and corners.
From defining age to the "midlife crisis" on social networks, the style of painting has changed several times, with arrogance, self-deprecation and ridicule, but it also makes this group full of tension about reality and confusion about the future. How to understand the entanglement of "micro people, heavy heart"? Take a look at the time and space of history.
Our generation is taking a path that no one has ever taken before, in an unprecedented speed and in a very short period of time. We have more intuitively witnessed the strength of the country than our parents, enjoyed better education, had a broader vision, and had more opportunities to witness the virtualization of the world, more international, more open, more diverse, not only broadened our insights, enjoyed well-being, but also endured pressure. In a sense, the "mid-life crisis" that we came to early is not so much a representation of a certain age group as it is a mark of the development of the times.
On the other hand, we ourselves, in fact, our eagerness is to eagerly spend that dark and difficult time of struggle. If you don't experience miserable wind and rain, how can you keep the clouds open and see the moon? "When the book is used, there is less hatred, and it is not difficult to go through the matter." The simple and quick results you see are just the light breeze after others have experienced it, and the hard years behind it are only he who has chewed silently. Because there is no achievement just around the corner, there is no dream that can be easily grasped.
If you want to achieve your dreams, you have to imprint the traces of time on your dreams, so why be afraid of the long years of struggle? Anyway, every inch of time can give us a trace of joy of growth, and every inch of time can bring us a bit of truth enlightenment. If this is the time of youth, why don't teenagers groan and walk every step under their feet? Everything you want is already waiting for you.
Youth is not a "patent" of young people. A writer once said that youth is not age, but state of mind. No matter how old you are, as long as you have the ambition of "wanting to go to the blue sky and catch the bright moon", the heroism of "poor and strong, do not fall into the ambition of qingyun", and have the freedom of "old husband talking about juvenile madness", such a life will always be full of youth. Come to think of it, it is still the same sentence: If there is an ideal in the heart, there will be flowers blooming.
Reading "Ordinary World" many years later, the whole person was impressed by Sun Shaoping's life experience, and the struggle of fate was often scarred all over his body in special periods. In the struggle between confession and resistance, Sun Shaoping walked his own path indomitably. You can't change the times, you can only change yourself. Who in this world does not have pain and struggle? However, on the journey to achieve the ideal, everyone is in a different environment and opportunities.
Intermittent hesitation, but continuous mixed eating and waiting for death; lazy like a pig, but dare not be as lazy as a pig; countless times to make vows, countless times to work hard, but others easily shake a word.
The most terrible thing about life is that people find out in middle age that their current life is not worthy of their original ambitions, and they have also lived up to the suffering they have encountered.
Looking back over the years, what have you gained? Or what's the most regrettable thing? How many goals have been set in the past and have been achieved now? The pace of the years seems to be not slow, but when you look back, you will find that the years are so fast. Time will drift away, years will be lost, memories will be frozen, and beauty will last forever. The years do not spare, and you do not spare the years. You have not failed the years, and the years will not fail you.
About the Author
He Gui, a native of Pingjiang, Hunan, usually likes to read and occasionally writes, and currently works in a unit directly under Yueyang City.
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