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Marriage reminders are given every year, and there are many Spring Festivals.
Because of what? The Spring Festival holiday, there is time and opportunity. The children are back to the front, unlike when they go to work, they can only remotely control the urging, and whether the child is willing to listen to the parents' nagging or not depends on the speed at which he hangs up your phone.
Now, the Spring Festival holiday, all back home, face to face urging, more effective.
Parents urged again, grandparents and grandparents urged again, and then relatives and elders urged again, and finally the villagers urged again, urging the children to feel that going home for the New Year was simply a sin and a burden.
Therefore, some people are looking forward to the New Year, and some people are afraid of the New Year.
But if you solve the single problem yourself, then you are not afraid of marriage, but become your own initiative to show off. They began to look forward to the New Year, so that they could bring their lovers home to meet their parents.
Therefore, during the Spring Festival, it is also the time when children's boyfriends and girlfriends appear one after another.
Cui Yi and Qiu Mingrui have been in love for more than half a year, and their relationship has been very stable. Cui Yi deliberately asked the family to see Qiu Mingrui and then see if it was possible to get the marriage engaged.
After consulting Mingrui's opinion and receiving a positive reply, the two embarked on the road back to their hometown in advance.
Along the way, both were excited. Because Mingrui's parents had a good impression of Cui Yi, there was basically no objection, but they only proposed some marriage conditions and let Cui Yi go home to discuss with the family.
The conditions of Mingrui's family are not high, and Cui Yi feels that the family should be able to accept it. At least in his opinion, getting married after a few years should be fine.
But he never thought that Mingrui was going to return to the city after only half a day at his house, and after returning to the city, he proposed to Cui Yi to break up.
Cui Yi knew in his heart that Mingrui was not doing this entirely against him, but because of his family.
Mingrui has always been a very independent person, the only daughter in the family, and her parents have never been pampered. Therefore, Mingrui has been very assertive since she was a child, and she is also very calm in the face of things, which can be seen from the fact that although she loves Cui Yi, she still wants to break up with Cui Yi, and she has her own judgment on the pros and cons of this marriage.
We often say that love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two families.
But only people with clear minds and decisive words and deeds can truly distinguish the difference between the affairs of two people and the affairs of two families, and will not fall into love, IQ offline, thinking that marriage can be maintained as long as there is love, but only marry love, but not marry reality.
Mingrui is not such a girl who only has a love brain, she can speculate from the reality she has seen with her own eyes about what her marriage will become in the future. If it wasn't for what she imagined, she'd rather not step in from the start.
Speaking of which, Cui Yi and Qiu Mingrui's home is not far away, and it is more than three hours by car by high-speed rail. It's just that Qiu Mingrui is a city girl, and Cui Yi's family is in the countryside.
Although it is in the countryside, Cui Yijia is not poor. According to Cui Yi, a few years ago, when the high-speed rail was built to acquire land, their family compensated more than 300,000 yuan, and spent more than 100,000 yuan in the town to build a small building with two floors above and below, and the remaining land in the family was also rented to others to plant. My parents opened a food stall in town and earned 40,000 or 50,000 yuan a year. He also has a younger brother, but he's already working. So the conditions at home are fairly passable.
That day, when Cui Yi took Mingrui into the door, he happened to encounter Cui Yi's parents pulling and pulling on the ground, and they both had a red face. It looked as if the mother was stopping the father from going out.
Turning his head to find Cui Yimingrui and the two of them, his mother's hand was loose, and his father took the opportunity to go outside the door. The mother caught up and shouted, "Your son is back." ”
The father waved his hand: "I am not blind, I will come back in a moment." ”
When he passed by Mingrui's side, Mingrui smelled a large smell of wine.
Cui Yi's mother disguisedly wiped her face with her sleeve, piled up a smiling face, grabbed Mingrui's hand and said, "You are Mingrui, right?" Listening to Cui Yi, he looks really good. You rest first, and I'll cook. ”
After saying that, he explained to Cui Yi and entertained Mingrui well, so he went to the kitchen.
Mingrui only had time to look at the house. She stood in the snack bar, the tables and chairs were relatively clean, but the ground was a little sticky, and it was estimated that it was not yet time to clean.
Following Cui Yi to the back room, Mingrui found that there was not much furniture in the house, only a three-person sofa, a low coffee table and a bed. It's just that the sofa is pitch black and can't see any color, there is also a layer of ash on the coffee table, the bed is full of clothes, a big pile of crumpled, and I don't know if it's dirty or clean.
Upstairs, there are two rooms. One is the room of Cui Yi's parents, and the other is the room of Cui Yi and his brother.
Maybe Cui Yi they arrived in a hurry, the room has not yet had time to clean up, pushing open the door is a musty smell, some choking.
They put the luggage down first, Cui Yi wiped the stool with a rag hanging behind the door, let Mingrui sit down first, embarrassed to say that his mother is usually too busy, it is estimated that he has not had time to clean up the house, sit down and rest first, and when he has eaten, he will come to clean up.
Mingrui felt that when he arrived at Cui Yi's house, he was not embarrassed to throw up his hands and wait for the meal to eat, and wanted to go downstairs to help Cui Yi's mother cook. Cui Yi did not let him, saying that he would go down and let Mingrui sit in the room for a while, and call her when he was eating.
Mingrui looked at Cui Yi's room and gave her the feeling that this room had not been entered for a long time. Because the quilts on the bed were a clump, the sheets were dusty, and the desks and spread out books were dusty.
Mingrui was uncomfortable looking at it. Although I don't have a cleaning habit, my room supplies must be neatly packed, and the mattress should be dry and clean, and there will never be this dust smell in this room.
Usually, Mingrui likes to read some psychology books, she understands too well the influence of the original family on a person in all aspects, and has some calculations in her heart.
Mingrui took a moment to clean Cui Yi's house. Sitting alone is also very boring, Mingrui still wants to go downstairs to have more contact with Cui Yi's family and learn more.
From this point, it can be seen that Mingrui is indeed very rational.
Marrying a person is actually the truth of marrying a family, Mingrui understands very well. It's just that she and Cui Yi have been working in the city and have little contact with Cui Yi's family. Since you have come and have plans to marry Cui Yi, let's take this opportunity to get to know it well.
This must remind the girls that you marry well or badly, have a relationship with men, but have a greater family relationship with men.
Because the original family had a deep influence on him. If the original family is harmonious and happy, and the family is reasonable, then you and his marriage are only you and him; if the original family is full of contradictions, and the family suppresses and calculates each other, then there are many people in your marriage with him, and you need to deal with all aspects of his family, and no matter which problem is not handled well, it will destroy your marriage.
Therefore, before marriage, it is necessary to go to the in-laws' house a few times and learn more.
When Mingrui had just walked to the bend of the stairs, he heard Cui Yi's father's drunken voice: "I only used a little, how to say, yes, yes, I lost." ”
"Dad, you tap, don't let Mingrui hear." Cui Yi lowered his voice and spoke.
Cui Yi's mother's voice was obviously crying: "Why didn't you lose the light?" Gamble every day, drink every day, the doctor says you have an addiction, and if you drink it again, you will die, you just don't listen. If you are not allowed to gamble, if you are not allowed to drink, you will steal the money from the family. Now that Cui Yi is getting married, you say, how much money can you come up with? You name it! ”
Cui Yi's father's voice lowered a little: "Hey hey, say that your hair is long and short." In fact, there is a way to make the family not want this 80,000 bride price. ”
"What's the solution?" Cui Yi's mother asked.
"Silly ladies, let them cook raw rice to cook mature rice, what dowry do you want?" Cui Yi's father's voice.
Mingrui was very angry to hear this, but she was more curious about How Cui Yi reacted.
Since falling in love, both of them have only been affectionate, stopped being polite, and did not cross the thunder pool one step. On the one hand, this is to listen to the mother's teachings and not to easily have relations with boys; on the other hand, it is also Cui Yi's respect for himself. She hoped that Cui Yi would be able to sternly rebuke her father's dirty thoughts at this time.
To her disappointment, Cui Yi has not made a sound, but Cui Yi's mother scolded: "You indecent billet." You can't harm a good girl. ”
Mingrui was both relieved and sad. It is gratifying that Cui Yi's mother spoke for herself, and it is sad that Cui Yi did not refute it. This actually made his usual forbearing behavior seem very deliberate.
Mingrui was very panicked, she went back upstairs, packed her bags, and crept away.
By the time Cui Yi called, she had already taken the last high-speed train back to the city.
She said to Cui Yi: "I'm sorry, this marriage, I still withdrew." Not just because I heard your conversations in the kitchen, but the bigger reason was that I couldn't accept your family. Our two are not suitable. ”
She said "we two are not suitable", not "the two of us are not suitable".
Some girls fall in love with a person, they will lose their judgment, even if they know that they will be wronged, and they think that this is a test for themselves.
Whether a man is worth marrying, a careful investigation before marriage will find clues.
Just like Cui Yi. Cui Yi himself is good, but he can't ignore the influence of his original family on him.
In love, everyone will involuntarily hide their bad side and try to show their excellent side. Once he enters marriage, there is no need to pretend, and the influence of his father's marriage patterns, personality characteristics, and behavior habits on him will be displayed.
And Mingrui does not agree with the behavior of Cui Yi's parents, Cui Yi's father is addicted to gambling and alcohol, and he is also extremely disrespectful to his wife, and there are some big paternalisms; while Cui Yi's mother is sloppy and sloppy, and the extensive living habits are not what Mingrui likes.
Cui Yi's parents' mode of getting along is likely to have an impact on Cui Yi's marriage.
It is difficult to say whether Cui Yi will be the same as his father after marriage. Even if there was a one-in-a-thousand chance, Mingrui did not want to take this risk.
She didn't want to gamble with her life. What she wants is a relationship that looks clear, fresh and warm.
Of course, there is no such thing as a perfect family, so what you have to examine is whether you can accept the worst part of their family, can you replace yourself, for example, the other father's attitude towards the mother, can you accept it? To what extent can you accept the worst words and deeds of the other parent?
If you can't accept it, if you love each other again, you must also cut off your love, don't wait until after marriage, and then regret your indecision.
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