In modern society, many people are reluctant to communicate with the outside world. In the face of strangers or in public, unconscious tension, and even fear.
Some people even refuse to talk on the phone, party, and prefer to be alone. That may suffer from social phobia.
Social phobia has a great impact on work and life, and it can also make people feel inferior, feeling that they are always worse than others, which leads to the fear of communicating.
Step out of your comfort zone! Reject social phobia!
1. Establish self-confidence and eliminate inferiority complex.
First of all, we must correctly understand ourselves and evaluate ourselves objectively. Positive psychological implication: There are so many people in the world who others don't keep their eyes on me.
Even if I keep staring at me, I just try to do what I have to do. Deeply understand that everyone is unique, has its own shining points, and has its own characteristics.
Don't care about the eyes of others, put your eyes on yourself, improve yourself well, and eliminate the psychology of inferiority.
2, the desire to control is the need for a sense of security.
People who suffer from social phobia are people with a strong desire to control, not only want to control everything outside the body, but also want to firmly control themselves.
They want their every move, their every move, their treatment of others to be perfect, and they will do it exactly according to their hearts.
This is due to the great insecurity in the hearts of people with social phobia. But nothing in this world can be completely controlled.
It is destined to be wishful thinking, and too much control can make people nervous, but things are more in the direction of uncontrolled.
3, start with a hello, slowly change.
At the beginning, others need a process of acceptance, and no one will pay attention to you when they say hello for the first time and the second time, but the number of greetings is more, and after meeting again, others will take the initiative to greet you.
For some problems that you can't solve on your own, you can ask for help from others, and the distance between people and people is slowly narrowing in conversations again and again, helping each other again and again.
Emotional summary: Although socializing is a very troublesome thing, making friends is also a very interesting thing, so you may wish to change your mentality and face things with different effects.