In the nineties, he was admitted to college, his parents did everything for him, did their best to train him, for him to enter the university, he did not disappoint his parents, admitted to a good university, became the only college student in the village, his parents are proud of him.
Before Tao Lei was admitted to college, she already had a girlfriend, her girlfriend was called Xiuying, and she was Tao Lei's classmate, because her family had no conditions for her to continue her studies, and she went out to work after junior high school.
A school, a part-time job, the gap came out at once, but Tao Lei did not dislike his girlfriend's low culture, he asked her to wait for him to come back after graduating from college to marry her, Xiuying also has a deep affection for Tao Lei, after Tao Lei went to college to go to Tao Lei's city to work, has been waiting for Tao Lei.
Finally, Tao Lei graduated from college and was assigned a job, and at that time, with this condition of Tao Lei, a large number of matchmakers rushed to introduce him to excellent objects, but Tao Lei all refused.
Tao Lei and his parents said that he only wanted to marry Xiuying, but his parents hated that Xiuying was not a college student, felt that she was not worthy of his son, and resolutely refused to let Tao Lei marry her.
Tao Lei loves Xiuying deeply and threatens his parents with a hunger strike, and if he is not allowed to marry Xiuying, he would rather die.
The mother saw that her son was very distressed, and also began to waver in her promise to let him marry Xiuying, and chose a day to go to Xiuying's house to propose to him, hearing his mother say this, he was happy to jump up, he couldn't wait to run to tell Xiuying the good news, so that Xiuying would be at home waiting for him to come and propose.
But Xiuying waited and waited, did not see Tao Lei to propose to the family, thinking that it should be the day of the election has not yet arrived, right?
Tao Lei's mother originally promised Tao Lei to marry Xiuying, but his father was unwilling, even if his mother agreed, his father did not agree to count, Tao Lei also wanted to threaten his father with a hunger strike, his father saw him so "out of the ordinary", on his terms, how good a woman do you want? He had to marry that Xiuying, and his father felt that Xiuying could not help Tao Lei in his career, so he resolutely opposed it.
Father and son did not give in to each other, and finally, the father was angry and fainted on the ground, Tao Lei and his mother sent their father to the hospital, the doctor said that the father could not be stimulated anymore, his body could not bear it.
In the end, Tao Lei did not dare to mention the matter of marrying Xiuying again, and he did not have the face to see Xiuying again, but poor Xiuying did not know anything, and was still foolishly waiting for Tao Lei to mention his relatives.
Tao Lei accepted the blind date arranged by the family, he was not satisfied, because he could not let go of Xiuying in his heart, but he did not dare to show it, after each blind date, he just said that he could not talk to others, and his parents could not take him.
He didn't want to marry someone else, but he couldn't delay Xiuying, so he asked someone to tell Xiuying to ask her not to wait for him anymore, maybe they had no luck.
A few years have passed, I heard that Xiuying is married, he is sad for a long time, Tao Lei still has to be on a blind date, but he does not want to get married, the blind date is just to cope with his parents, his parents see that he is not young, and he is bitterly advised to find one quickly.
He and a colleague in the work unit chatted about the comparison, anyway, Xiuying is married, he marries whoever he marries, it is better to find a chat.
Tao Lei took his colleague home to see his parents, since that Xiuying, so many years, Tao Lei is still the first time to take a girl home, not to mention how happy, or a colleague in the same unit, presumably not too bad.
But later after inquiring, the parents heard that this girl had a problem with her style, she had a boyfriend before, and it was time to talk about marriage, but she didn't know why she didn't get married later, and she also had a fetus, Tao Lei's parents thought that this girl was not worthy of being their daughter-in-law, and did not let their son marry her.
Tao Lei was helpless, he could only follow his parents, and later Tao Lei talked about several more, and his parents didn't like it, he didn't know what kind of daughter-in-law his parents wanted.
Maybe he is excellent in the eyes of others, but he can't even decide his own marriage, he can't go against his father's will, his father can't be stimulated, so he can only obey, he feels that he is very sad to live, he prefers to be "ordinary" like others, go out to work after graduating from junior high school, have the freedom to choose the person he likes, rather than always being a son that his parents are proud of, and obey his parents' arrangements.
For marrying a wife, he has a dead heart, anyway, as long as he chooses himself, his parents will certainly not be satisfied, he compromised, and now he does not care what he wants.
He helplessly asked his parents: "What kind of daughter-in-law do you really want, you choose, you are satisfied with me to marry." He didn't want to resist anymore.
Later, his parents arranged a blind date for him, saying how much this girl is excellent, is the daughter of their friend, the family is innocent, the conditions are not bad, it will help Tao Lei's career, Tao Lei only symbolically met a face, if the parents are satisfied, then get married, the parents see him so obedient, happily go to the girl's home to propose, the next thing is to arrange the marriage.
Tao Lei and the girl married, at the beginning, the girl behaved quite virtuously, but slowly, the parents found that this daughter-in-law was very grumpy, angry at every turn, not very respectful of them, and often picked Tao Lei's faults, and her parents did not dare to say anything about her.
Here the daughter-in-law also likes to play mahjong, and when she does not go to work, she plays mahjong, and a dozen is a whole day. Housework is not done, parents originally looked forward to holding their grandchildren, but the marriage has been for a while, and I have not seen her stomach moving, inevitably a little anxious, they can only persuade the daughter-in-law to play mahjong less, at home to raise a good body, but this daughter-in-law did not listen to their old two words, did not put them in the eyes, still do their own thing, Tao Lei does not want to manage, can not manage.
When encountering such a strong daughter-in-law, her parents can't take her, here the daughter-in-law looks at as long as she loses her temper, the in-laws are afraid of her, think that this mother-in-law is easy to hold, and it is even more intense, simply sometimes go out to play mahjong for a night and do not go home.
Later, rumors spread among neighbors, what ugly words were there, saying that the daughter-in-law here hooked up with whoever hooked up, hearing these words, Tao Lei's father was even more angry and lived in the hospital again, and his mother asked Tao Lei to take good care of his wife.
Although Tao Lei and this wife did not have any feelings, but seeing that his parents were angry like this, he could not ignore it, and he promised his parents to wait for his father to be discharged from the hospital and return to persuade him.
When the father was discharged from the hospital and returned, he saw that the family was in a mess, and at first he thought that the family had entered the thief, and the neighbors told them that their daughter-in-law had taken a man to the house the night before they returned, and kindly reminded them to look for any valuables that had been lost, and wanted to know that the daughter-in-law of the family must have swept away valuable things and ran away with her lover.
The neighbor looks like a drama, let you usually have a sergeant, the son is a great college student, pick and choose such a daughter-in-law.
Tao Lei's parents were not in the mood to pay attention to the neighbors, his father sat on the sofa, thinking that he had lived for dozens of years, thinking that he had read countless people, and that his son's carefully selected wife was actually such a thing, and he laughed at himself for being too self-righteous.
He was angry, went to find his friend, that is, his family theory, his family knew that it was wrong, it was he did not teach his daughter well, returned the bride price to him, he still wanted to say something, heard more and more people who came to see the liveliness, he had to give up, he could not afford to lose this face, and pulled his son back home.
After returning home, he looked at the ransacked home, and knowing that he was sorry for Tao Lei, he said to Tao Lei: "Dad thought he could find a good wife for you, but he didn't expect to hurt you, and I don't care what kind of wife you want to find in the future."
Tao Lei didn't speak, he was now in his thirties, not to mention that the person he wanted to marry was already a man,, and whether he married or not was not important to him.
Time flickered, and several years passed, the parents saw that Tao Lei did not have the intention of finding a girlfriend again, they were anxious, but it was not good to say anything more.
On this day, Tao Lei's friend came to the house to drink, and the friend told him that Xiuying's husband has been abusing her domestically, she is not good, she is preparing for divorce, Tao Lei is very excited after hearing it, she divorced, is he going to have a chance? The woman he had always wanted to marry, why did others get it but didn't cherish it.
After Xiuying divorced, Tao Lei went to find Xiuying, he said he wanted to marry her, although she was divorced, but there were still children, she brought the child back to her mother's house, her ex-husband was not willing after divorcing, he had been pestering Xiuying on the grounds of seeing the child, just happened to be heard by tao Lei said to marry Xiuying, Xiuying's ex-husband scolded, scolded Xiuying for not having a face, and just divorced and hooked up with other men.
Xiuying's ex-husband may feel that he has just divorced Xiuying and has a man chasing him, and his psychology is unbalanced.
The more he thought about it, the more angry he became, saying that he also grabbed the stone from the ground and exhaled to Xiuying's head, and when Tao Lei came back, Xiuying was already full of blood, Xiuying's ex-husband was afraid of making a scene, and fled in a panic, Tao Lei sent Xiuying to the hospital, but the person could not save it.
Tao Lei just watched her die, so many years, he has not been able to marry Xiuying as he wished, it is not easy for his parents not to interfere in his affairs, Xiuying is divorced again, he thought he could stay with Xiuying, but she left like this, he was painful, unwilling, but powerless.
He went home and shut himself in the room, no one saw him, his parents told him that Xiuying's ex-husband had been ambushed, it was not easy for him to go out, but because he could not withstand such a blow, the whole person was in a trance, the mouth was chanting, the parents could not believe that he was so crazy, seeing him like this, the parents also deeply blamed themselves, only blamed them for interfering too much with him, if they had let him marry Xiuying at the beginning, now they would not come to this point, and finally the parents had to send him to the psychiatric hospital.
Maybe Tao Lei has complained about his parents, but he can't blame them, and his parents say every time: "We are all for your own good." But he was forced to do what he did not want to do, and he could only compromise again and again, for nothing else, because they were his parents.
In fact, many people are facing the love of parents who "we are all for your own good", as parents, I hope to listen to my children's ideas more, and don't blindly force my children to do what they don't want to do...