Author: Jin Shanyue Editor: Li Jin
Source: Journal of Marriage and Family
ID：hunyinyujiating99
Some time ago, the nationally praised drama "The World of Man" made the 71-year-old actor Song Chunli once again enter the public eye.
In the play, she starred as the governor's wife "Jin Yueji", and portrayed the character's shrewdness, calmness, indifference and sadness with superb acting skills.
After many netizens watched it, they sighed: Who is the old drama bone? Teacher Song Chunli is the real old drama bone!
As a well-known actor familiar to the three generations of old, middle-aged and young people, the classic screen image created by Song Chunli can be described as countless.
She is the bitter mother in "Nine Fragrances", and a "bowl licking" shot is unforgettable for a long time;
She is the "crazy mother-in-law" who has been wronged for her children in the "Circuit Inspection Team", unkempt and dirty, obedient behavior, but it is deeply moving and makes people cry.
She is the kind and shrewd empress dowager in "Yanxi Raiders", and the noble atmosphere emitted from the inside out is not at all lost to the "red little flower".
In the more than 40 years since her debut, Song Chunli has starred in nearly 100 works, winning awards such as Feitian, Golden Rooster and Hundred Flowers, and is a veritable "award-winning professional household".
However, behind the opening of her career, she has an unknown heartache.
In the eyes of the outside world, Song Chunli is avant-garde and has been filming "Dink" for 40 years; in fact, "childless and childless" is an eternal pain for her and her husband.
What is quite surprising is that when they were nearly sixty years old, Song Chunli and his wife not only had a son, but also a daughter, forming a complete family of four.
What's going on here?
01
The best way to find love is to run yourself
In 1951, Song Chunli was born in a large courtyard in the North China Plain, and grew up in the bustle of fireworks in the world.
In the 1960s and 1970s, when there was widespread poverty, Song Chunli, who came from a working family, without exception, lived a life of poor food and clothing.
Recalling her childhood many years later, Song Chunli was most impressed by the fact that her parents went out to work, and she and her brother cooked and ate at home, and every meal was nest head and pickles.
Later, my brother went to the Ningxia Construction Corps, and Song Chunli's life seemed to fall into loneliness at once.
Speaking of the past, Song Chunli said bluntly: "The suffering at that time was the suffering that I ate in my heart. ”
In 1964, Song Chunli, who had just turned 13, was selected by the teacher of the Guangzhou Military Region Song and Dance Troupe and became a literary and artistic soldier.
Soon, she left her parents and went south to Guangzhou for hard physical training.
After 5 consecutive years, she performed with the troupe, and the hardships during this period are self-evident.
Whether it is a barren mountainous area, or a humid seashore, whether it is a hot summer, or a cold day, Song Chunli has never been absent and has never flinched.
At a young age, she has cultivated a calmer and more tenacious heart than her peers.
After joining the work, Song Chunli went to the drama troupe, and she was preoccupied with her work, not knowing that the "fate" of this life was already on the way.
One day, an enthusiastic colleague Zhang Luo introduced her to Sun Weixi of the Central Conservatory of Music, a folk music professor 6 years older than her.
As soon as she heard that the other party was a professor, Song Chunli couldn't help but mutter, afraid that it was too high and cold to get along with, so she didn't rush to meet.
She wanted to exchange letters first and find out.
Who knows, just after a few letters, the two of them feel as if they have known each other for several lifetimes, and they have nothing to talk about.
Song Chunli admired Sun Weixi's elegance, and Sun Weixi admired Song Chunli's fighting spirit.
They naturally came together, and after two years of acquaintance, they entered the palace of marriage.
At that time, the salary was not high, and Sun Weixi could not come up with a new house, a bride price, and a promise letter until he got married.
But Song Chunli did not care, she understood that a person's sincerity is more precious than anything.
As the saying goes: plant a plane tree and attract a phoenix.
If you bloom, the butterflies will come, and if you are wonderful, the heavens will arrange themselves.
If we want to find the other half of the spiritual fit, what we need to do is not to blindly search for it, but to converge inward and manage ourselves well.
02
"Understanding" is the most beautiful vow of love
Although the days after marriage are sweet, Song Chunli's young heart always yearns for a distant place.
At that time, the film industry had just recovered, and many studios went to the literary troupe to pick actors, but no matter how hard Song Chunli tried, all of them failed.
The reason is simple, she is not beautiful enough.
After losing the election more often, she began to feel inferior, and as soon as someone came to pick an actor, she hid in the house.
In this regard, her husband Sun Weixi saw it in his eyes and hurt in his heart, encouraging her to turn passive into active.
After careful consideration, Song Chunli went to talk to the head of the group and asked to go to the movie. The head of the group reminded her that filmmaking may become famous in one fell swoop, or it may fail in one fell swoop. But Song Chunli decided to take a gamble.
In 1979, she finally got a small role as a nurse.
Unexpectedly, this small person, who was originally dispensable, was brilliantly interpreted by Song Chunli.
Soon, Song Chunli was discovered by director Hao Guang, who let her play the female number one in the movie "Adultery".
Here, Song Chunli rushed to the ideal with excitement, and on the other side, Sun Weixi watched her silently, not disturbing or obstructing.
After the filming of "Adulterous Details" began, Song Chunli went to the northeast and stayed for a long time in the extremely cold weather of minus thirty degrees.
One day, she suddenly felt light-headed, almost fainted, and hurried to find the doctor in the crew.
After an examination, I found out that she was actually pregnant at this juncture.
At night, Song Chunli tossed and turned, on the one hand, she had a hard-won "female number one", and on the other hand, her and her husband's first child.
How exactly is the trade-off? She decided to ask Sun Weixi.
After the phone was called, Sun Weixi read her choice from his wife's intermittent choking voice.
Sun Weixi said, "This child still doesn't want it first." However, abortion surgery has to be done back to Beijing, where your medical conditions are not good and you are prone to infection. ”
Soon after, she followed her husband's advice and returned to Beijing for surgery.
In fact, Sun Weixi is not sad, this is the child he has been looking forward to for a long time, but he understands his wife more and understands her dedication and love for her career.
The "Adulterous Spy", which made the couple lose their children, was not only a great success, but also sent Song Chunli to the Beijing Bayi Film Studio.
After being transferred back to Beijing, Song Chunli studied while acting, and at the age of 34, she was admitted to the acting department of the Beijing Film Academy.
After further study, Song Chunli's acting career finally ushered in her "golden age".
In 1992, she won two awards for "Feitian" Best Actress and Supporting Actress in one fell swoop; after that, she won the "Golden Rooster" and "Hundred Flowers" and became a spire-like figure in the showbiz circle.
Talking about the enviable achievements, Song Chunli said more than once:
"So far, my acting career, or my achievements, can be attributed to my husband."
Song Chunli knows that the reason why she can have today is inseparable from her husband's understanding and support.
What is the longest confession of affection in the world, perhaps it is willing to understand and be willing to silently guard it.
03
Family harmony is the best family style
If you compare life to a river, Song Chunli is a torrent, while Sun Weixi is more like an undercurrent.
Over the years, Sun Weixi has supported his wife unconditionally, and he has even played a supporting role in order to help Song Chunli.
It was the time of filming "Glacier", the crew urgently needed a supporting role, and Song Chunli called Sun Weixi by phone.
Unexpectedly, Sun Weixi actually acted very well and solved Song Chunli's urgent needs.
In addition to career, family life is also inseparable from Sun Weixi's careful care.
Song Chunli has been out filming for many years, taking care of the burden of a family, which naturally falls on sun Weixi's shoulders.
In 1983, Song Chunli's father was seriously ill, and she could not rush back because of work, so Sun Weixi took care of the elderly until his death, and took care of the aftermath properly.
Over the years, no matter what they encounter, the couple has been harmonious and can be called a "model couple" in the circle.
However, this "model couple" has their unspeakable secret, that is, since the miscarriage, they have not been able to have children.
As we get older, the "kids" thing becomes more and more out of reach.
Gradually, Song Chunli gave up the idea of having a child. At the age of 61, she and her husband adopted a daughter.
Today, they live happily, full of laughter and laughter.
Song Chunli will follow her daughter's instructions to buy her McDonald's, afraid of forgetting, she will repeat it repeatedly: the drink should also be hot soy milk.
On her birthday, her daughter would naughtily smear the cake on her father Sun Weixi's face...
The cute and lively daughter brought joy to the family and made the couple feel warm.
On Chongyang Festival, they will receive gifts from their daughters; on birthdays, they will get hugs from their daughters; and in life, they also like to play with their daughters to play something new.
In addition to her daughter, the daily interaction between Song Chunli and her husband and wife is more chai rice oil and salt, three meals a day.
Sometimes, it is Sun Weixi who shows her cooking skills, and sometimes it is Song Chunli who makes some small dishes of congee.
After a lifetime of hard work, Song Chunli and his wife, who are already rare years, ushered in their years of quiet good.
As the saying goes: chickens chirp for a thousand years, dogs bark and everything is happy, and good luck comes.
A happy family is inseparable from the understanding, concession and assistance between husband and wife; it is inseparable from the communication, interaction and care between parents and children.
A family, only one heart, hard to make a place, can get better and better, more and more prosperous.
04
Song Chunli on the screen seems to have a thousand faces.
Sometimes bold and enthusiastic artists, sometimes hard-working village women, sometimes heroic revolutionaries, sometimes shrewd bureaucrats...
As an actress all her life, she seems to have interpreted countless kinds of life with her works.
However, people always have to return to reality, always have to live in real life, walk through the spring and autumn, and survive the cold and heat.
It is true that life is not satisfactory, but in a life full of regrets, the greatest luck is "to finally have a heart, and the white head is not separated."
Just like Song Chunli, she has experienced the years of poverty, endured the pain of parting, and felt the desolation of loneliness, but fortunately, Sun Weixi has always guarded her side.
And her heart for her husband is also full of gratitude and cherishing.
Their love is like the poet Mu Xin's "Once Upon a Time Slow".
"The old days became slower, the cars, the horses, the mail were slow, and there was only enough to love one person in a lifetime."
Time passes quickly, a lifetime is fast, but as long as you are willing to love someone well, it is enough.
May you also find that person, standing with you at dusk in your spare time, laughing in front of the stove and asking for porridge to be warm.
bibliography:
1. Chinese film report "Blue Feather Parlor";
2. Chinese Film Report: "Song Chunli: Dedicate her life to performance, no complaints and no regrets|Forty Years of golden rooster awards";
3. Yu Sheng Movie: "Actor Song Chunli: I played a mother all my life, but I didn't give birth to a son and a half daughter for my husband"
4. Beijing Radio and Television News: "The World of People" as Director Jin Chunli: Preparing for "Defeat" when acting in a movie for the first time