Friends borrow money, you don't want to borrow, how to refuse? This formula is so great that it makes you "more than one sentence". People with high emotional intelligence are using this formula, capitalized suits!
Friends ask you to borrow money, how to refuse, not hurt and angry and can keep the wallet?
Friends borrow money, people with low emotional intelligence, there will be three results:
The first result: the money is gone, it is easy to lend out, it is difficult to get it back, and it is embarrassing to turn the other cheek with friends;
The second result: saved the money, the friend is gone, resolutely do not lend to the friend, and the friend has since cut off contact with him;
The third result: no friends, no money, and two losses.
Have you ever been in a situation like this?
How can a friend borrow money to keep his wallet and not lose this friend? People with high emotional intelligence are treated this way.
For example:
There is a buddy, looking for you to borrow money: "Brother, I have been a little tight on hand recently, borrow me 50 million, save the emergency." Pay you back next month. ”
You say, should you lend it to him? If you don't borrow it, can you still be a brother? If you borrow it, your brother has reached the point where 50 million can't get it out, when can you expect him to pay you back? That's a nonsense! In case he loses his job next month and has no source of income, do you mean to add fuel to the fire and ask him for money? In case you desperately need money, when you ask him for money, not only will you not come back, but you will even offend him, and you may lose this friend.
So, should I borrow it?
I tell you a train of thought: reject him, keep your money, keep your friendship, after reading it you will suddenly realize.
Their own good friends, looking for their own money to borrow, many people often make a very obvious mistake, can not wipe face, can not put down the shelf, untie unhappy knots.
How to say it?
I always feel that my brother, who has been together for a long time, finds himself to borrow money, and if he does not borrow it, his face is not good-looking, so he can't erase his face and is embarrassed to refuse.
Second, I have a little money in my hand, I usually love to put up a shelf, friends know that they have money, at this time, friends ask for themselves, and they can't put down their bodies to pretend to be poor and crying, and they are afraid of others gossiping about themselves, saying that they usually love to pretend, alas, this vanity, too helpless, finally, hesitant to lend money to friends, the heart is still nervous no, worried about not getting back, this is called punching the swollen face and filling the fat.
Third, unravel the unhappy knot.
Many people are unhappy because of friendship, so, in the face of friends to borrow money, they grind and chirp, hesitate, and finally give this friend a glimmer of hope, so, this friend will chase after the fierce, non-looking for you to borrow, no way, the heart is too soft, finally, borrow it, can not be because of such a little money, hurt the friendship between friends!
So the best thing to do is to reject him outright at first.
Note, next, I tell you a formula, reject other people's formula, suggest likes to save, go back and read it several times.
The formula goes like this:
Direct rejection + explain the reason + emotional resonance
First, direct refusal. Brother, you have found the wrong person, I would like to lend it to you, but there is no money!
Second, explain the reasons. You don't know, how tight my money is, every month the house, the car, the children are fixed expenses, a day can not wait, chai rice oil and salt, simply indispensable, I know this person, passing the god of wealth, you see I have recently been poor quit smoking and alcohol ... In short, find the mouth to spend money, tell him, you drag the family with the mouth, can not keep the money.
Third, give him some emotional resonance. Oh, to tell the truth, our brothers have reached this age, there are old and young, indeed everywhere use money, see you have difficulties, buddy this heart is also uncomfortable, you know, I have been living all these years, looking at the surface scenery only, in fact, the moonlight, sometimes have to find parents to borrow a little to slow down, people to middle age is not as good as a dog. I don't know what to do, take it one step at a time... Let him know that you have difficulties and common encounters with you, and he will not be able to borrow hard.
Everyone is poor, not to borrow, really can't, this is also helpless, if you have money, I don't want to talk to my friends, say this kind of rejection, so, talk about the scene well, learn to refuse, hello, he is good, everyone is good.
With this topic of "high emotional intelligence expression", I recommend a very practical book to you - "Chinese Scene Talk". This is a book that you can use after reading, which introduces real life scenes, workplaces, shopping malls, business fields and other scenes, with colleagues, leaders, subordinates, friends and other groups of people, so that you can learn to apply, there are stories, there are cases, there are interpretations, there are methods to summarize.
This "Chinese Scene Encyclopedia" recommends you to read it, so that you can deal with various scenes with ease and become a scene person who has seen the world.
For more information, click on the links below to make yourself less of your unexpressive losses!
【All 2 volumes】Chinese-style scene talk encyclopedia + learn to socialize for half a life without worry_ for people to live in the world to improve the book
