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Confucius once mentioned the criteria for choosing friends: friendship and directness, friendship and forgiveness, and friendship and hearing.
A friend may just be a passer-by in our lives, but he will also subtly change the trajectory of his life.
To get along with people, on the one hand, we should have a good heart and a good heart; on the other hand, we should also soberly realize that not all of us deserve deep friendship and trust.
If you know a new person, please do not rush to dig out your lungs and pour out your heart at the beginning, but first keep a certain distance from this person and observe whether he has bad behavior characteristics.
Have deep friendships with people with unhealthy hearts, and trust people with unhealthy hearts, and in the end, you will suffer losses. Eat a trench, grow a wisdom. Having been used and pushed away by people with bad hearts, of course, they have recognized their true face and naturally made friends with them.
Crowds of people, in the road of life we will meet all kinds of people. How to distinguish and treat these people is something we must learn in the process of growing up. People with particularly bad hearts and eyes, do not need to be tempted, look at these three points to be clear.
One set in front of the face, one set behind the back.
Some people are very deep in the city, always face to face a set of backs, in front of others smiling and smiling, behind the ground
Some people are prone to double-handedness, especially if they are not firm, and they may even betray you in a critical period. When you are with this kind of person, the most important thing you need is not to reveal your core secrets to the other party, and beware of some people who will use your information to betray you.
This kind of person is smiling at everyone. But what you don't expect is that he will stab you in the back. Try everything possible to benefit him.
In the face of such a person, be careful and wary. Because you have no idea which of what he said is true and which is false, if you are friends with such a person, you will not know which day you will be pitted.
Likes to play right and wrong.
There is a saying in the "Aphorisms": "Sit quietly and think about yourself, and gossip should not be discussed." ”
People with bad hearts and eyes are good at lying and provoking right and wrong. For them, gossip is no big deal, they are not ashamed of it, but proud of it. The best at chewing the root of the tongue, talking more, seeing the wind is the rain, as long as they grasp this handle, they will talk everywhere, they make fun of people.
Such people had better stay away, otherwise if they were with them for a long time, they would unconsciously get used to discussing others behind their backs and setting themselves on fire.
It is not a bad thing for a person to be a little clever and clever, but it is very frightening for him to use this little mind to stir up dissension between others.
The heart and mouth are all gentlemen, the heart and mouth are not the villains, away from the villains, is a kind of wisdom to live alone in the world. If there are friends who like to manipulate right and wrong, we must stay away from them, and after being with them for a long time, our personality will inevitably have an impact.
Jealousy, not good to others.
People with too much jealousy are prone to psychological imbalance, habitually attack others, narrow-minded, unable to tolerate others, often have no bottom line, and will stop at nothing to achieve their goals.
There is such a person in society, when there is no money, he looks down on you, and slowly your life is better than his, and he is jealous of you. They seem to be peaceful and kind, and they are happy with you. But when your life becomes depressed, they will fall into the well, and most of these people are "wrong-minded".
When encountering people with these characteristics, it is best to keep their distance in case they are counted. If you encounter such a person, you must be prepared in advance, and do not let people with unhealthy hearts harm themselves.
Wheat message: Stay away from people with bad hearts and eyes, in order to avoid eating big losses.
In interpersonal communication, every friend around you may have an impact on your life.
Good friends are like a beacon, can walk hand in hand through the wind and rain of the world, illuminate life, and people with unhealthy hearts often cause harm to others in interpersonal relationships, and we have better stay away from such people as soon as possible.
"If the heart is not correct, you will know it at a glance", people with these three characteristics are not much better in their hearts and eyes. With this kind of person, you often can't get along with each other, because the other party has no compassion, and it is easy to make yourself the prey of the other party by interacting with them.
Honest people, frank and frank, can stand up to scrutiny in their work, only those who have an incorrect heart and bad heart and eyes will often have a little crooked mind in their hearts, and it is easy to show their feet, and they cannot hide it for a long time.
People's lives are very long, and we always have to face all kinds of people. When dealing with people, we must always maintain a vigilant attitude. For people with bad hearts and eyes, don't communicate too deeply and too closely, otherwise it will only harm yourself and affect your future!