The TV series "Meet the Season" is currently airing. Before the show started, the audience's expectations were very high. After all, the producer is always known for its high quality of the noon time, the screenwriter and the original author is still the author of "All is Good", "Big River" and other popular dramas Such as Anai.
However, soon after the TV series began broadcasting, word of mouth was polarized. On the one hand, the acting skills of Yuan Quan, Lei Jiayin and other actors are praised, on the other hand, the plot in the play is incomprehensible, and the most magical of them is Ning You's married life.
Ning Yu is a strong woman with an annual salary of 2 million, but she is willing to endure her cheating husband, knowing that her husband is likely to borrow money for her lover, and generously transferred 10,000 yuan to him.
Watching the TV series alone, perhaps many people can't understand Ning You, when I finished reading the original work, I found that Ning Yu's choice in marriage was because of the influence of her mother Ning Hui'er.
1. Ning Hui'er "forced" her husband to die, and after her husband's death, she committed herself to Tang Zhizhong, laying the groundwork for Ning You's marriage tragedy
In the 1980s, Ning Hui'er and Cui Hao married because of free love. After marriage, Ning Hui was admitted to college and became a pharmacist in the hospital. Cui Hao did not get admitted and still works in the factory.
Cui Hao worked hard to catch up with his wife, and once there was a sudden flood in the factory, Cui Hao jumped off the ice water to repair the equipment, and then fell ill.
Later, the state-owned factories were restructured and became a self-financing contracting system. Because the efficiency of the factory was not good, the director of the factory, Jian Zhiguo, assigned Cui Hao to a workshop that required physical strength. But Cui Hao was not in good health and could not do physical work at all.
The day after Cui Hao was transferred, he gambled in bed and did not go to work, and said: "I am laid off, I will not make money in the future, let me die!" ”
Ning Hui'er, who had been tired for several days, was not angry at all, walked to the bed, grabbed her husband's thin shoulder and shook it twice, and said: "You still have a reason?!" Get up. ”
Ning Hui'er's toughness made Cui Hao feel that he was very embarrassed, and he was immediately angry: "I am reasonable! The factory closed the photo studio, and the director of the factory asked me to either go to the sand turning workshop as a worker or stop going to work. He forced me, you forced me, you joined forces to force me to die! ”
Ning Hui'er trembled with anger and said fiercely, "You save the province." Then she slammed the curtain contemptuously and left. Cui Hao felt that his anger was like a joke, and he had always been timid, and he actually took the initiative to negotiate with the factory director, Jian Zhiming.
The two sides quarreled during the negotiations, Cui Hao lost his hand and stabbed Jian Zhiming, and the battered Cui Hao jumped from the roof. In the end, Cui Hao's life screamed, and Jian Zhiming was rescued. The two families became complete enemies.
After jian minmin, the eldest daughter of the Jian family, learned that her father was injured, she made a big fuss about the Jian family, causing Ning Hui'er to lose her job, and even pushed Ning Shu down by mistake, so that Ning Shu had epilepsy.
In order to calm the people and hide from the wealthy Jian family, Ning Hui'er moved away with the family and let her children take their surnames and change their names to Ning You and Ning Shu.
After that, in order not to be discovered by people she knew, Every two years, Ning Hui'er would take her children to move home. In order to maintain her life, Ning Hui'er turned to her former friend Tang Yingjie, and the two developed a lover relationship.
Writer Wu Zhihong once said that the feeling of being in love is nothing more than two sentences: relive the beauty of childhood and correct the mistakes of childhood. The same applies to marriage.
If the marriage of the parents is good, the children will most likely repeat the parents' marriage choices when they become adults. If the marriage of the parents is painful, the children will correct the parents' mistakes in the marriage and tend to make the opposite choices to the parents.
In Ning Yu's memory, on the day of his father's death, he quarreled with his mother, and his father's sentence "He forced me, you forced me, you joined forces to force me to die!" "Become a shadow for her whole life.
Ning Yu believes that if her mother had not quarreled with her father, her father would not have theorized with Jian Zhiming, and there would have been no subsequent tragedy.
That is to say, in Ning Yu's view, the marriage of the parents was wrong. This also determines that Ning Yu's choices in later feelings and marriages are all aimed at constantly correcting the mistakes in her parents' marriage.
2. Marry Hao Qinglin, who does not love, only because of Ning Hui'er's "escape" way of doing things
After Cui Hao's death, Ning Hui'er's family suffered from the hurt and hatred from the Jian family, the family was smashed and dared not speak out, and Ning Shu was hurt and bitter. In the face of these injuries, Ning Hui'er never taught her children how to deal with them, but just blindly evaded, thinking that as long as they escaped, everything would be fine.
This personality of using "escape" to solve problems was passed on to Ning You without any mistake.
During her schooling, Jian Yu refused all the honors that would make her appear, and also suppressed her interest and enthusiasm, trying not to let her teachers and classmates notice her, lest someone point out that Ning You was Cui Hao's daughter. After growing up, Ning Yu faced emotional problems and was accustomed to solving them with escape.
In the original work, Ning You and Jian Hongcheng are high school classmates, and the two are in love, but it is a pity that Jian Hongcheng is the son of Jian Zhiming, in other words, the two have a vendetta. In order to avoid having anything to do with Jian Hongcheng, Ning Yu has been evading.
In his senior year, Jian Hongcheng went to the university to find Ning You. At that time, Hao Qinglin was chasing Ning You, and Ning Yu had never agreed. But as soon as he saw Jian Hongcheng, Ning Yu deliberately took Hao Qinglin's hand in front of Jian Hongcheng, and the two of them both left.
Jian Hongcheng was furious and rushed up to look at Ning Yu with glowing eyes, "I'll wait and see how you play this drama." Ning Yu replied crisply and neatly, "You made me make up my mind." "After that the two really came together.
Years later, Jian Hongcheng recalled this scene and found that Ning Yu was with Hao Qinglin in order to escape from himself. In fact, Ning Yu not only escapes from her feelings with Jian Hongcheng, but in her marriage with Hao Qinglin, once there is a problem, her solution is also to escape.
3. Endure Hao Qinglin's lack of ambition and sensitivity and vulnerability, only because Ning Hui'er had "forced to die" Cui Hao
After falling in love, Hao Qinglin took good care of Ning You, and soon after graduation, the two naturally entered into marriage.
After marriage, Ning You, who was born in a poor family, only wanted to improve the family life as much as possible, and with his own efforts, climbed from a small clerk to the position of director, with an annual salary of 2 million.
Hao Qinglin, who was born into a family of intellectuals, was busy enjoying life, neglecting his job, and repeatedly passed by promotions, and over time, his salary was two-thirds lower than Ning You's.
Hao Qinglin already has a strong sense of self-esteem and high self-esteem, and when he recognizes the reality that his wife is stronger than himself, he becomes sensitive and vulnerable.
Ning Yu was worried that his salary was not enough and did not want him to give it to the family, Hao Qinglin felt that his wife looked down on him; Ning Yu was afraid of hurting his self-esteem, and no longer urged him to read the information at work, hao Qinglin felt that his wife had completely given up on himself.
Once, the two talked about the man's hairstyle, Ning Yu said that the back of Hao Qinglin's head was a little flat, suggested that he change his hairstyle to cover up, Hao Qinglin felt that Ning Yu satirized his small brain capacity and low IQ.
Many people can't understand that Ning Yu herself is capable, and she doesn't love Hao Qinglin at all, so why is her husband who can't stand to be self-motivated everywhere? All this is also closely related to Ning Hui'er's attitude in marriage.
The marriage between Ning You and Hao Qinglin is very similar to the marriage of Ning Hui'er and Cui Hao, the woman is strong and the man is weak, and the man has become extremely sensitive and inferior because his work is inferior to the woman.
At first, ning hui'er, faced with her husband's sensitivity and inferiority, chose to go back, and Ning Yu believed that Ning Hui'er's toughness had indirectly forced Cui Hao to a dead end. Ning Yu was afraid of taking her mother's old path, so she tolerated and concealed her husband again and again.
Unfortunately, Hao Qinglin could not accept that Ning Yu was stronger than himself, and even less could he understand Ning Yu's tolerance and forbearance. In order to regain his self-confidence, Hao Qinglin cheated on the young Gu Weiwei.
4. Taking money to subsidize her husband's cheating was actually because of Ning Hui'er and Tang Zhizhong's extramarital affair
There is no impermeable wall in the world, and although Hao Qinglin covers it well, Ning Yu still finds him cheating. After reading the chat records of Hao Qinglin and his lover, Ning Yu learned that the husband who once loved him to the bone actually called himself a "countryman" behind his back and "it was ugly to eat".
But even so, Ning Yu was still unwilling to divorce. What is even more difficult to accept is that knowing that Hao Qinglin's borrowing money on the grounds that his colleague is ill is false, and the money is most likely lent to Xiao San, Ning Yu still transferred 10,000 yuan to Hao Qinglin.
Later, his son Ashes punctured Hao Qinglin's lies, accusing him of borrowing money not to see a colleague, but to go to the hotel to meet Xiao San privately. While lying for Hao Qinglin, Ning Yu agreed to the other party's request for divorce, and did not hesitate to share Hao Qinglin's suite and 500,000 deposits. You must know that all this money and the house are earned by Ning Yu alone.
(To add, later Ning Yu learned that Hao Qinglin wanted money to start a business, not for Xiao San.) But before the incident, Ning Yu really wanted to complete Hao Qinglin and Gu Weiwei. ）
Seeing this, I believe that many friends will feel incredible, Ning Yu is obviously rich and beautiful, why is he willing to take money to subsidize her husband's cheating, even if it is for the sake of her son, she does not have to do this step, right?
In fact, taking care of the mood of gray ash is on the one hand, the deepest reason is the extramarital affair developed by Ning Hui'er and Tang Zhizhong 20 years ago in order to maintain her livelihood.
In the original work, when Ning You was in high school, Tang Zhizhong's wife went to find Ning Hui'er to settle the account, and when she left, she happened to run into Ning You, who had just returned home. Mrs. Tang looked at Peugeot's Ning Yu and said in a cold voice, "I hope that when you grow up, you will not rely on beauty and take a crooked road like your mother." ”
This scene became a disgrace for Ning Yu's life. After graduating from college, Ning Yu chose the most difficult technical post and became a deputy chief engineer by relying on excellent technology, and she always reminded herself that she could not rely on beauty to take a crooked road.
In addition, Ning Yu overheard the conversation between Ning Hui'er and Mrs. Tang outside the door.
It turned out that Mrs. Tang had long known about the relationship between Tang Zhizhong and Ning Hui'er, but she pitied Ning Hui'er's orphaned and widowed mother, so she did not puncture the two. It wasn't until Ning Hui'er, with the help of Tang Zhizhong, got a taxi license plate and stood firm, that she came to the door to settle the account.
After learning that Hao Qinglin had cheated on her, Ning Yu thought of Mrs. Tang's high hand and thought of her strong maintenance of the integrity of the Tang family even if she was hurt. Ning Yu tried to learn from Mrs. Tang's kindness and tolerance. Therefore, she would choose to turn a blind eye to Hao Qinglin's derailment, and even thought of completing Hao Qinglin.
Write at the end:
Today, the TV series "Meet the Season" is still popular, but in the original work, I am pleased to see that Ning Yu finally broke free of the shackles of her original family and bravely lived herself.
In order not to let Hao Qinglin take advantage of it, Ning Yu secretly transferred her hard-earned property, and she was even ready to marry Jian Hongcheng after divorcing Hao Qinglin.
Psychologists have proposed that one of the most unfortunate facts in life is that the first major tribulations we encounter come from families, and that this tribulation can be inherited.
The failed marriage of parents and the discordant relationship will have a great impact on the child's mate selection and handling of marital problems.
We cannot choose to be born, nor can we change the marital status of our parents. The only thing you can do is to change your own concept in time after realizing the impact of your original family on marriage, so that you can find true happiness.