Slip to a film that Oscar queen Kate Winslet shot last month for a maintenance brand.
Wearing perfect makeup, she said in her first sentence, "I'm worth it!" and said that if she dared to say these words, it would be enough to make the soul feel infinitely powerful, "I deserve it", which is a magical sentence. However, Kate Winslet believes that many people are afraid to say this sentence without shame.
Comparison and attachment are the root causes of human unhappiness
Knowing how to say "I deserve it" to yourself is a magical healing
Kate Winslet mentioned that people will definitely think of an Oscar-winning actress with exquisite makeup and hair saying "I deserve it" here, which is really not convincing.
Kate Winslet removed her hair ornaments, picked up a cotton pad, and removed her makeup in front of the film, saying, "Beauty is a superpower?" You think so, right? But I think the biggest challenge for women is how to say to others, "I deserve it, even if you don't wear makeup at all."
Kate Winslet looks straight into the camera and admits that there is no way to be perfect all the time, but what woman can?
"When we were young, we felt that the value was 'face' or 'body', or it depended on how much attention we got, how popular we were, or trying to find our own position in comparison with others, but then I found that these had nothing to do with value," she said.
Women pursue appearance, fame, wealth, and crazy plastic surgery, and feel that this is a manifestation of love for themselves, but in Kate Winslet's eyes, once people start chasing those appearances that will change or disappear over time, it is easy to produce self-loathing in the process of clinging to it.
"I think it comes from the right to be myself."
What is being yourself? In the definition of Kate Winslet, people should first be clear about their own strengths and weaknesses, choose to accept the flaws, focus on their own strengths, and when others criticize you, you have to evaluate whether the other party's evaluation is reasonable and whether it is a suggestion that needs to be improved.
If not, you have to know how to speak up for yourself.
The plain-faced Kate Winslet finally said firmly, "Our imperfections, where we are different, you have to know that is the key to 'why you are you.'"
Becoming a mother, Kate Winslet truly awakens
"Human beings don't need to find value through comparison!"
Kate Winslet will have this concept because after the movie "Titanic" became popular, she was teased by the outside world for nearly 10 years old, criticizing her for being fat and asking her to lose weight, Kate Winslet has been in a state of impostor syndrome for a long time, thinking that she is not worthy of popularity, does not deserve these lucky, only because she is "too fat".
The late comedian Joan Rivers said on the livestream: "If Kate Winslet only had to lose 5 pounds, Leonardo DiCaprio would have been on a raft."
Joan Rivers, a joke but a disservice to young Kate Winslet, said in an interview: "When I was in my 20s, people would often talk about my weight, and I used to defend it, but I got a 'rebellious' evaluation." 」
At a charity event in 2017, Kate Winslet shared with children the memories of being bullied because of their body shape, "When I first came into acting, I was often told that I could only play the role of 'fat girl', and I heard again and again that you were not 'what we wanted' Kate Winslet!" 」
As she grew older, Kate Winslet slowly digested and released the self-doubt formed by these external evaluations, and finally was willing to say to herself in different states, "I deserve it!"
Especially as a mother, Kate Winslet is more certain of the power of "I deserve", she is shocked to realize that the baby is born from the beginning of the immaculate divine existence, so in other words, is not she herself? If every child is a priceless treasure in the eyes of her parents, why can't she see herself that way?
"When I am with my children, I feel proud and happy, I see how they grow into the most wonderful, affectionate and humble beings, and let me see where the true value of a human being lies." 」
The value of all things is "existence" itself.
Even if a person does not reach the appearance of the world's requirements, he must firmly believe that he is "worthy of good treatment", which is not self-consolation, this is the truth of the world.
People who live consciously can grasp themselves without relying on "comparison"
Looking back on my growth experience, I don't think of myself as a beautiful woman, I don't think I'm well-written, I feel like an inferior person, right?
To be honest, I am often dissatisfied with my abilities, but paradoxically, I am sure that I will never compare myself with others, which is a completely affirmative consciousness, although this "too much living in my own world" personality is often unaccustomed, I have suffered a lot of losses when I was young, and I am constantly finding a balance with others.
However, I often say to my friends around me, "Everyone is 'different,' there's nothing like that."
Even if I become the object of comparison by others, I still don't hate those people, in fact, I like to dig out the characteristics of different people, the advantages and disadvantages are like, I perceive that many people can't see their own strengths, but I can see, I know their beauty, to some extent this is one of my strengths.
However, even if I see the advantages of others, I still feel that I am different, and I never take the advantages of others to make me inferior.
I once saw a saying that man is to be self-aware through "comparison."
In my opinion, it is not necessarily true, because "comparison" is usually the source of unhappiness, only people who are determined enough can use "comparison" to find positioning without being affected by others, which is a minority of the few, and he must cherish such advantages.
My idea is closer to Kate Winslet, you don't need to compare yourself to others to find value, you just focus on your current life, dig out what you want to do from the heart, make you feel happy and abundant.
After watching this video, I learned Kate Winslet, word by word, with determination, saying the three words "I deserve it", and the moment I said this sentence, my whole body produced an electric current like goosebumps.
I think it's a very powerful magic.
Even I believe that even if you don't lose weight, even if you are lazy, you still deserve to live in this world.