Living a good life is what everyone wants. However, the road of life is tortuous and full of ups and downs, and it is not easy to live this life well.
There are always so-called "people who come over" around you, hoping to instill such a truth in you, to avoid being deceived, suffering losses, and taking detours. Despite this, you spent a lot of time, suffered a lot, took a lot of detours, and didn't have a smooth ride.
Time flies by, and in the blink of an eye, half a lifetime has passed. After experiencing twists and turns, life is like a drama, one after another performances, so that you are physically and mentally exhausted, soul exhausted, but still do not know what the tranquility of the real years is like. Life always brings problems to itself. The road ahead is long and always can't see the direction.
Life is like a drama, everyone is the protagonist of their own life. In this big drama of life, a person has to decorate many sides, the script of each role is different, and if you want to play all the roles well, you have to bear a lot. So we always feel physically and mentally exhausted.
The more people strive for perfection, the more uncomfortable they feel in their hearts. If you want to live comfortably, you need to have trade-offs. Personally, it is enough to play these three roles in the drama of life.
01. Kids
All people in the world have a common identity – children.
The role of the child has been from birth to old age. When I was young, I didn't understand things, I didn't know how to play this role well, and I gave everything to my temper and made my parents sad.
I was very sorry for what I heard not long ago. It happened in her hometown county, an 11-year-old girl addicted to mobile phones, hiding in her room every day during the winter vacation, and the door could not go out of two doors. When relatives came to visit the house during the New Year, her mother asked her to help with housework, she did not listen, and was still playing with her mobile phone. Her mother scolded her angrily and confiscated her phone. It was already eight o'clock in the evening, it was already dark, and the girl left the house angrily, went straight to the river bridge, stood by the bridge for a while, and suddenly jumped. The river rushed and nothing has been found so far. The vivid life was gone. Her parents grieve, blame, regret, and can't accept it, but things have reached such a point that no amount of discomfort can change.
As a child, when there is a conflict with the parents, retaliation in this extreme way is the greatest filial piety. Human life is only once, and nothing is more important than living well. Many rebellious children, even adults, encounter setbacks, or momentary impulses, or when they can't think of anything, let the white-haired people send the black-haired people, completely without considering how sad their parents are, and embark on a desperate road.
A person's life should play the role of a good child. First of all, we must cherish our own lives. Life is given by parents. Especially the mother, pregnant until October, the ghost door closed once in exchange for you. Second, parents may age, slowly lose their workforce, and suffer from disease, when the only thing they can rely on is their children. As children, you must not hate them, but take care of them with your heart. If a person can play the role of a good child, it is the greatest kindness.
02. Parents
Not everyone gets married and has children as parents, but most people do. Therefore, it is as important to play the role of a good parent as to play the role of a good child. We often say that the love of the father is like the mountain, and the love of the mother is like water, singing the greatness of the love of the parents. However, not all parents can play their part well and give their children deep love. In the case of complete lack of preparation, adolescents who passively become parents are reluctant to accept their identity changes, and even hold grudges against their children, believing that children are a burden and a burden. In their eyes, children have deprived them of dashing and freedom. So, if something unsatisfactory happens, take the child out of the air. There are many parents in this world who love their children, and there are many parents who do not love their children. In the relationship between men and women, both love and being loved are right, but in the parent-child relationship, love is taken for granted, and not loving is a big mistake. Because it gives life to children, loving and raising children is an unshirkable responsibility.
There is a house in the hometown, and the son and daughter-in-law are free to love, so they have children without opening a marriage license. Two years later, the daughter-in-law followed a man from the same village to work in the field, and the two desperately gave birth to children together. The woman followed the man behind, leaving her ex-husband and the children born to her ex-husband behind, not asking for years, and never going over there when she returned to the village. It didn't seem like the child had been born at all. Everyone said that this woman was cruel and did not even know her own child.
In fact, there are so many irresponsible mothers and fathers like this that are in life. Maybe they have their own difficulties, but the children are innocent. The role of parents is to take on the responsibility of parenting, to give children a lot of love, if a person can play the role of parents well, even if a lifetime is ordinary, it is also great
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03. Yourself
To live in this world is to face all kinds of relationships. Play different roles in different relationships. In addition to the above-mentioned children and parents, there are brothers and sisters, lovers, couples, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, colleagues, friends, etc. In many roles, some can do well, and some can't do well. For example, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law does not know how to get along with the daughter-in-law, and is afraid of intimacy and is hated, and feels that it is not appropriate, so it has been awkward, and can only promise. The daughter-in-law can never treat the mother-in-law as a mother, and she is always uncomfortable in front of the mother-in-law, so how to be a qualified daughter-in-law.
Life is like a drama, all rely on acting skills, but we are not professional actors. Many characters are doomed to fail. At this time, it is necessary to work hard for important roles. What are the most important roles? Individuals think of themselves. Only by being good at themselves can people be truly comfortable, happy and happy. So, how to play your role well? First, we must have a clear understanding of ourselves. There are likes, good at, short boards. Second, accept your imperfect self from the heart. Don't deceive yourself and shake hands with your truest self. Finally, try to live as you like. In your own world, constantly improve yourself and improve yourself at your own pace. When you really do your role well, you should no longer be confused, no longer wandering, full of heart, rich in soul, and full in life. It's you.
conclusion:
It is rare for people to play the three roles of good children, parents, and themselves in their lifetime. Others can actually be tolerated and don't need to ask too much. Maybe you could argue that you don't need to seriously play the two roles of husband and wife in a couple relationship. Of course, it is necessary, but its role is more important than that of husband and wife. People who strive to maintain the image of a good wife and a good husband, who have completely lost themselves in their married life, actually do not seem so happy. People have to have their own personality and perseverance. Emotionally humble and flattering, the pursuit of perfection in marriage, are all disappointments in themselves. We must understand that playing a good role is the basis for a happy life. The two roles of children and parents must be performed affectionately no matter what. It is enough for a person to have three roles in life: good children, parents and himself.