In fact, a man loves you, not how good you are to him
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Some people say that true love relies on wishful thinking, not on the pleasing payment of one party.
Indeed, what is touched is not love. Love, perhaps, is an unspeakable feeling.
Because of love, people can't help but be fascinated by each other and pay for each other regardless of returns.
The love between men and women is mostly based on the level of spiritual resonance and heart-to-heart communication.
Due to the effort between the two partners, it may also lead to the misunderstanding of some people that the other person is in love with themselves.
Just pay more for each other.
In fact, the truth of love is not so.
The efforts of one party, the acceptance and response of the other party, are not in vain.
Some people like you because you are good to him, and some people love you because they can see your goodness.
In the same way, a man loves you not because you treat him well.
After all, men are looking for a partner, not a meticulous, responsive "loving mother".
The writer Wilde once said: "The good-looking skin bag is the same, and the interesting soul is one in a hundred." ”
Beauty, the reason why she is called a beauty, is not only because of her natural beauty appearance, but also because she has a smart and interesting heart.
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Even if the face is good and charming;
You can get the favor of men for a while, but when you are old and fading, it is difficult to ensure that men will not lose interest in it.
An Lingrong in the TV series "The Biography of Zhen Huan", in order to win the favor of the emperor, did not hesitate to eat "breath muscle pills".
Make your body beautiful and moving.
Although the goal was achieved, it also damaged his body because of it.
On the other hand, Zhen Huan, who entered the palace together, never resorted to any means to win the favor of the emperor.
Always sober and self-sustaining, quietly be yourself.
At the Mid-Autumn Festival Night Banquet, with a moving dance, the emperor let her "sleep and think".
It is no wonder that some netizens commented on the TV series "The Biography of Zhen Huan", saying that "even if Zhen Huan stands still, the emperor will be impressed with her." ”
In gender relations, men mostly play the role of "hunters", and some are too active in their dedication.
All kinds of overtures may not make men feel compassion.
If you grow up on the "aesthetic point" of men, even if you don't do anything, men will not hesitate to pay deep love for you.
As the saying goes, "Turnip cabbage, each has its own love." ”
Some men like to admire beautiful women, but some men are willing to pour their hearts into talented women.
The ancients also said: "The chest is full of ink and ink, and the belly has poetry and books." ”
Talented women, like a good book, let people read the haunting dream, can not be forgotten for a long time.
Legend has it that there was a strange woman in the Southern Dynasty, who liked to write ink, and every good sentence was passed down through the ears of the people, and there was no anger to shoot the case.
Therefore, there are many men who come to see the flowers of talented women.
How can the woman be arrogant by nature;
Unwilling to have too much intersection with the "ordinary people", he came out with a couplet, saying that someone could understand it, and then he married him happily.
It just so happens that a prince, surnamed Han Mingqing, unveiled the mystery and was the woman's favorite.
Sometimes, fate is wonderful, and the more you force it, the more it does not come.
Just like the man you love, the more you give without a bottom line, the delusional "tether" to him.
The more the other party wants to flee, the farther away it is.
Good men come by attraction.
When the other party has not noticed you, remember to calm down and cultivate yourself, if you bloom, the "butterfly" will come.
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As the saying goes, "Being smart is a talent, and being kind is a choice." ”
Kind women, or gentle as water, or playful and cute, have an inexplicable attraction to men.
Lin Pinru in the TV series "The Desire to Go Home", after being hurt by her husband Hong Shixian, is determined to change her face.
With a new identity, let Hong Shixian pay the price he deserves.
Under the careful teaching of Gao Mu, Lin Pin really had a new look.
Just as she planned, Hong Shixian fell into her "trap" step by step.
But at the last critical moment, Lin Pinru still chose to forgive.
During this time, Gao Wenyan, the adopted son of Gao Mu, was deeply attracted to this strong and kind woman.
At the same time, Gao Wenyan's sister Gao Shanshan is hopelessly in love with this brother who is not related by blood.
Gao Shanshan gives Wen Yan persistent love and tries to "kidnap" him in the name of love, but "the twisted melon is not sweet".
And this self-directed and self-acting love;
It is also the end of Shanshan's rebuke to Wen Yan's "Am I not good enough for you?"
Sometimes, love is really not fair at all, and it is common to give and get not proportionally.
When a man loves you, you don't have to play the beggar of love because he can't bear it and can't bear it.
But when men don't love you;
Even if you are more devoted and forgetful, the other party is just indifferent, and your love is as light as a feather.
Love is not a scale and cannot be weighed.
Most of the time, men are obsessed with irreplaceable feelings, and unique perceptions;
And these are not what you can get for his kindness.
At the same time, you pay unilaterally;
If you don't get the other party's appreciation, it will inevitably hurt yourself and harass others.
Because, for men who don't love you, since they don't love, they are doomed to "love can't help" your needs.
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Don't try to trade your efforts for a man's love.
If a man really loves you, even if you ignore him, he will find ways to refresh his presence in front of you.
On the contrary, no matter how much you pay, the other party is just indifferent.
Love is not an upgrade to fight monsters, and it is not a full blood resurrection with full skill.
It doesn't force it, and it doesn't even have anything to do with effort. Although it is a little sad, it is also necessary to face up to the real feelings.
