Chen Songling was once a popular actress of TVB, film and television song development, each field has won numerous awards, and firmly occupies the position of a front-line Huadan.
I didn't want to be the most trusted good sister and agent at her peak, and she was solid and solid, and she was penniless not only frustrated in her career, but even eating became a big problem.
Just when she felt that the hardest thing was this, bad news followed, she was diagnosed with an ovarian tumor, and she lost the opportunity to be a mother forever.
Heartbroken, Chen Songling decided to start over in a new environment, and then came to the mainland to develop.
In 2006, because of filming TV dramas, she met Zhang Duo, a brilliant actor who was 8 years younger than her, and her boyfriend knew everything about her, but still proposed to her.
After 4 years of love, they walked into the door of the Civil Affairs Bureau with a brisk pace.
After many years of marriage, they are still as happy as when they were in love, even in the family the two often hold hands, Zhang Duo used his strength to spoil her as a child.
But through the show "Mother-in-Law", we see her relationship with other members of the family.
When she heard that her mother-in-law was coming to the house, she was so nervous that her voice changed.
This couple, who are obviously very loving and happy and very compatible, even have the mother-in-law's dislike and difficulties behind them.
Even, directly reprimanding Chen Songling in front of the national audience, it is really difficult to imagine how she has survived all these years.
However, this seemingly beautiful her has actually experienced a lot of suffering behind her.
1. Childhood experiences
Chen Songling's parents, both overseas Indonesians, had to return to Hong Kong to settle down because the family business was hit hard.
But fortunately, the skinny camel was older than the horse, and when she was born until she was 3 years old, the family conditions were still good.
Those years were probably the most carefree time of her life, and her parents were extremely fond of this cute little princess.
Eating and wearing are the best, all kinds of expensive toys are also said to buy, during this period the father tried his best to bring the company back to life, but to no avail.
In the end, she could only declare bankruptcy, and her desperate parents were already unable to protect themselves, and when she was chased by people everywhere, she had to be sent to her mother's house to raise her.
Until the 80s, her mother saw that those rising female stars could earn a lot of money, and the poor and scared Chen Mother gritted her teeth and stomped her feet, fiercely pushing her daughter to the entertainment circle.
She was only 14 years old that year, not only was she tender enough to pinch out water, but she was 1.69 tall, and most importantly, she was born with a good voice.
Under the pressure of her mother, she practiced singing at home, and when a singing contest was held in Hong Kong at that time, her mother registered for her.
On the day of the competition, people from all walks of life with musical dreams gathered on the scene, and when they saw her young face, a person next to her laughed: "Little sister, this is not a children's song competition." ”
Unexpectedly, she was shocked as soon as she opened her mouth on stage, and finally after several rounds of competition, she won the first place in one fell swoop.
Immediately after the competition, a record company came to her to sign a contract, and her mother picked a company that gave the highest remuneration to sign a contract.
But she had no intention of developing in the entertainment industry, and she desperately resisted her mother, in exchange for a beating.
At its worst, she had to call the police, but when the police wanted to take her mother away, she softened her heart, told the police not to arrest her mother, and said: "As long as she doesn't hit me." ”
Since then, although she began to listen to her mother's arrangement, the mother-daughter relationship has been in crisis, entering the record company, and then Chen Songling quickly became famous in the circle with her singing voice.
After she became a fire, the company saw the business opportunity and pushed her to the direction of film and television, and after the works starring her were broadcast, Chen Songling officially became a well-known female artist in Hong Kong.
How hot was she at that time? Even when the four heavenly kings came, they all had to give her a supporting role.
However, even if outsiders look at the scenery no matter how beautiful, they still want to continue to return to school, and their mother is kenyi, and finally the two quarrel.
She packed her bags in a huff and lived in the home of her mother, who had brought her when she was a child, and her mother was a family friend of their family, and her mother no longer cared about her when she learned that she lived here.
Gan's mother treated her very "well", not only supporting her to continue her studies, but also arranging for her daughter Ah Bao to be her agent.
In this way, Chen Songling read while filming and making money, and as she became busier and busier, she had more and more things to deal with.
She didn't have time to take care of it herself, so she gave all her property to the most trusted Ah Bao.
She did not expect that at this time, all her properties were written in the name of Ah Bao, and Ah Bao re-planned the route for her in the name of the agent.
But she did not get her approval, she said: "I have my own ideas, I don't want to be manipulated, please don't make decisions for my life, okay?" ”
It was this that made Ah Bao angry, and at the same time made Ah Bao have the idea that since he couldn't control you, he would destroy you!
This sentence comes from a rumor personally told by the agent: Chen Songling likes women.
How lethal this sentence is to Chen Songling, just look at her later encounters and you will know.
Because all the assets are in the hands of the agent, she was kicked out of the house to know what the world is hot and what is not a disaster.
Betrayed by the most trusted people, and at the same time her career was hit hard, she could only live in a small rental house, and with a heavy heart and a harsh environment, she fell ill.
When she woke up, the doctor told her, "You have an ovarian tumor that needs to be removed immediately, but after the successful operation, you will not be able to have children for the rest of your life." ”
At that moment, her heart was going to be broken, but no matter how difficult it was, she had to live.
2. Fall in love with your husband
After the successful operation, Chen Songling no longer wanted to stay in this place that made her sad.
After coming here, she met Zhang Duo, who was just popular when filming her first work, "Blood Is Not Cold".
In the crew, this boy who was 8 years younger than her showed maturity beyond her age, and her Mandarin was not good, and Zhang Duo patiently taught her word by word.
When she accidentally fell asleep on a stool on the set, Zhang Duo was afraid that she would catch a cold and would find a blanket to carefully cover her.
After filming the night scene, she sneezed, and Zhang Duo hurriedly poured a cup of hot water and handed it to her intimately.
Chen Songling felt warmth that she had never felt before and began to open her heart to the boy, but when Zhang Duo proposed to her, she refused.
Zhang Duo asked why incomprehensibly, and she said slowly: "I can't have children anymore, no one wants to marry a woman who won't have children." ”
Zhang Duo said busily: "I do, it just so happens that I don't like children, because I can't guarantee that I can educate an excellent child in the future, so I don't care at all whether I have children or not." ”
In the days that followed, Zhang Duo worried that her inner wounds had not yet healed, and always took her there wherever she went.
Under Zhang Duo's meticulous care, she slowly returned to her original appearance and eliminated the barrier with her biological mother.
In 2011, the two successfully upgraded to a husband and wife relationship, at first the mother-in-law felt that she was older than Zhang Duo, she was not very satisfied with her, and after contact, she found that she was a good daughter-in-law with an easy-going personality, filial piety and kindness.
After the mother-in-law learned that Chen Songling was already her daughter-in-law, she accepted her.
Then the mother-in-law began to promote in the open and in the dark, every time she smiled and did not speak, Zhang Duo would rush to the front of the surface attitude, saying: "I don't want it, I don't like children." ”
But after a long time, Chen Songling could not bear to let her husband bear this unfilial name and took the initiative to tell her in-laws about her own problems.
3. Mother-in-law dislikes
Since then, her mother-in-law's attitude towards her has undergone a 360-degree change.
The mother-in-law was originally very precious to the only son in the family.
Her wish is to watch Zhang Duo get married and have children as soon as possible, so that she can live a life of teasing her grandson.
Now that Chen Songling had completely extinguished her flame of hope, how could she not be angry.
In the program, due to the need for her mother-in-law to appear on camera, Zhang Duo's mother came from the northeast happily.
As soon as she entered the door, she hugged her son with a smile on her face and cried out, "Duoduo, Duoduo".
For Chen Songling, who was also standing at the door to greet her, she regarded it as air.
He also immediately picked out the fault and said: "You can't say that you are welcome to our house, you are welcome back to your home"
Because in the eyes of the mother-in-law, the son's home is her home.
When she arrived at home, her mother-in-law wrote her dissatisfaction completely on her face.
For her low-profile flattery, her mother-in-law only gave her a few bags of garlic that she did not like to eat, and casually sent them away.
Later, the mother-in-law also labeled everything in the house, indicating that it belonged to her.
He also told Chen Songling that chen Songling could not move whatever he had labeled and where he had labeled himself.
When making dumplings, she took the initiative to chat with her mother-in-law and ask her hobbies, but her mother-in-law simply regarded her as air, and the scene was once very embarrassing.
You must know that this is a program to be broadcast in front of the people of the whole country, and the mother-in-law has not given her any face.
It can be seen that in ordinary life, she has not suffered from her mother-in-law's dislike because of infertility.
When it came to the questioning session, the program team looked at the hilarity and asked: "Who has more shortcomings in the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?" ”
Chen Songling dared to say that her mother-in-law was not, so she had to accept punishment.
But the mother-in-law complained about a lot of her shortcomings, and even the father-in-law next to her couldn't look at it and said: "She has a lot of advantages, I haven't heard you say a good word about her." ”
Of course, Chen Songling knew why her mother-in-law treated her like this, but she didn't want children.
She and her husband Dink were also forced to be helpless, but fortunately, Zhang Duo spoiled her as a little princess, which was enough.
epilogue:
There are too many such women in life, in order to be able to meet the wishes of their in-laws and families, regardless of their physical condition, they are actively preparing to conceive and have babies.
Know that women are not just tools for having children, they also have the life they want.
We should respect everyone's way of life, and maybe we can't understand her from her point of view.
But we should not condemn them from the moral high ground.
In a big family, only by being tolerant and considerate of each other can life be harmonious and beautiful.
If it's something that can't be changed, then try to accept it, and then you'll find that the willow is dark and the flowers are bright and another village!