In the journey of life, we and our partners know each other and face the storms of life together.
In this process, two people need to constantly grind their personalities, values, and lifestyles to find the most comfortable way to get along with each other.
How to make the feelings last for a long time, calm but not mediocre, simple but not monotonous, and achieve a perfect transition in the marriage stage?
Today's article, we will take you to see the most comfortable appearance in love.
When encountering difficulties, in each ordinary day, what kind of "condiments" should be added to the marriage between husband and wife, so that the love will continue?
In an era when everyone is encouraging young people to bravely pursue love, many couples have learned how to be romantic and how to stay together.
But I forget that the first compulsory lesson in love is actually: learn how to separate.
The so-called separation is not a breakup, but when the two people are at their most rubbery, they still maintain the independence of their thoughts and personalities.
I have a reader friend in my circle of friends who have been married for eight years but are still in "love mode."
Performance includes, but is not limited to—
Every week, we will exercise and walk together, and occasionally take shadow photos of holding hands while walking and send them to the circle of friends, which is very loving.
Anniversaries are rare, but each anniversary is prepared for each other, such as making a dinner for each other and going to an old book stall to find books from each other's birth year.
The wife sometimes shares the content of her late-night conversation with her husband, from the philosophy of the universe to the fact that today I did not buy a toy car for my children, whether it is right or wrong.
I have seen a paragraph on the Internet before, "Middle-aged couples kiss each other, nightmares can do a few nights."
But this middle-aged couple has no sense of anger in everyone's mouth, they love unabashedly, and they talk all the time.
I always thought that they had such a good relationship that they must have spent a lot of time and thought.
As a result, an interview a few days ago found that his wife is a lawyer and her husband is an algorithm engineer in a large factory.
They are busy at work every day and don't have much time together, but they cherish the "effective time" in their relationship: "I would rather than two people spending 1 night silently brushing their phones on the couch, I would rather him share 10 minutes of happiness and sadness with me today." ”
Perhaps it was the 5-year-long Shanghai-Beijing long-distance relationship that taught them that true love doesn't have to be glued together all the time.
When they were together, the two spent all their energy to play and love, and after separation, they each worked hard for the goal.
The wife said: "When we are in a long-distance relationship, we can cook a night of telephone porridge, or we can only talk a few words a week.
When we were together, I was eager to get into his pocket to accompany him here and there, but after separating, I was a professional legal beauty. ”
They can tolerate traveling separately, but they can't stand being bored together —
One year during the May Day holiday, the couple discussed where to travel, and the final conclusion was that the wife went to the streets of Chengdu, and the husband went to Mohe to feel the silence of the snowy day.
They can tolerate long-distance relationships, but they can't stand their careers and developments being compromised —
"Let the other person sacrifice for their future, in fact, no one will really be happy, if the other party is the right person, then why don't we meet at the top?" 」
Together for so many years, they fought together from a different place to Beijing, from having nothing to settling their own small home.
Two people in the busy life to find their own comfortable mode of getting along, intimate and independent, a sense of proportion and do not hinder each other to grow together.
It is often said that no one can continue to love a person, and the so-called true love is actually to fall in love with each other again and again in a long life.
Brave yourself and let love renew and iterate in each other's growth, perhaps this is the secret of their long marriage.
If you say that from sweet to bland, it is the initial stage of the partner's rhythm in marriage.
Then it is not so easy to go from flat to stable.
This process requires a lot of trust, tolerance, understanding, and firm belief that the person in front of you is the one you spend the rest of your life with.
My friend Guo Guo confessed to me that in the 5 years of her marriage, she had at least 100 thoughts of divorcing her husband.
The two people argue constantly on small things, how many degrees the air conditioner is turned on, whether the socks are balled or folded, and who goes back to their home for the New Year..... They are all the fuse of the mouth.
From bland to stable, this young marriage experienced the ups and downs of life like an electrocardiogram.
And what really stabilized the marriage was the big things they went through together.
Guo Guo and her husband met when they were in graduate school, and later her husband applied for a doctorate at a university in Nanjing, and she also decided to take the civil service examination in Nanjing to plan for the future life of the two.
That year, Guo Guo was 28 years old, and after 10 months of preparation, she tasted the taste of failing the examination for the first time.
After paying a lot of effort, but the bamboo basket was empty, seeing that it was almost thirty years old and had not yet stood up, she was worried about her future, and she was also worried that she would live up to the expectations of the elders for this small family.
In that lowest trough, although her husband was busy with thesis, he still insisted on writing encouragement text messages for his wife every day.
Usually, when I return to the rental house, I will also carry a bouquet of flowers for her, which reads "Wife is the best".
One of the things she was very impressed with was that one night when she returned to the rental house, her husband saw that she was still memorizing the question before going to bed, and suddenly wiped away her tears, and she was particularly panicked, thinking that this was going to break up with me.
As a result, my husband held back for half a day: "I just think I'm still studying and don't have money to support my wife. ”
Later, with the encouragement and comfort of her husband, Guo Guo still decided to fight a battle.
Regarding the bitter history of her preparation for the exam, I do not need to repeat it here.
After all, she has been ashore for three or four years now, and she and her husband have taken root in Nanjing, she can smile and tell me about the past.
Perhaps love, like life, will experience a lot of sour, sweet and bitter.
But every time you face those trivial quarrels, you still firmly choose the reason to join hands with each other for a lifetime-
It's the cup of warm water you take when you're sick, it's a hug when you're sad, or it's a smile you don't need to say to each other when you come home from work.
One "I'm in" is better than countless "I love you."
Husbands and wives heal each other and warm each other, and they feel that the wind and rain of life are not enough to be afraid.
Bing Xin once said: A good family is the root of all happiness and strength.
Imagine that in the twilight years, you think back to the experiences of marriage when you were young, will you feel that the ups and downs are also a kind of harvest, and the fireworks are particularly cute every day?
A relationship of growing up together and supporting each other will not only make ordinary days tasteful, but also make people's lives rich and endless.
Be independent of each other, don't put all your focus on each other, and don't give up on your own growth and goals. But at the critical time, it will appear in the most measured way, give each other love and dependence, and shield the lover from the wind and rain.
As Shu Ting described in "To the Oak Tree":
"We share the cold waves, the wind and thunder, the thunderbolts; we share the mist and the rainbow. It's as if they're separated forever, but they're all their lives together..."
In the journey of life, we and our loved ones go hand in hand to hold up an umbrella for each other.
In the journey to the future, SAIC Audi Q5 e-tron hopes to provide you and your family with better escort and companionship, so that you have more courage to face the future wind and rain and meet the challenges of life.
As SAIC Audi's first electric SUV, the SAIC Audi Q5 e-tron has always aimed at #Chuangshisheng# to encourage everyone to bravely move forward and challenge fearlessly when the wind and rain come.
As the first model of Audi's global "Roadjet Land Jet", SAIC Audi Q5 e-tron uses the brand's most cutting-edge technology crystallization, integrates classic art and fashion culture, global vision and local wisdom, and creates a "Haipai luxury pure electric travel experience" for Chinese users, accompanying everyone to face the storms of life.
The SAIC Audi Q5 e-tron adopts a "three-in-one" electric drive system and is equipped with a dual-motor quattro four-wheel drive system, creating a trend of electric age. Not only that, but there is also a real cruising range of up to 560km and an extremely effective charging system that only takes about 10 minutes to charge for 10 kilometers, allowing you to move forward worry-free and fearlessly.
In terms of appearance, SAIC Audi Q5 e-tron also brought great surprises, "Brocade Suit" is elegant and dazzling, "Mecha Suit" is charming and cool, and there is a "Yichuang Collector's Edition" model with an exclusive limited color "Big Holy Red", which is unique and unique.
These powerful features create a comfortable family living space, providing reliable escort and intimate care for everyone who yearns for a better future.
If you have a home, you will have a way back, and with the company of the SAIC Audi Q5 e-tron, you will have a more comfortable and peaceful happiness.
For the rest of your life, may everyone harvest the harmony and warmth of marriage in happy feelings.
And in the company of SAIC Audi Q5 e-tron, drive to a better future and go further ahead.