Married life is realistic, and in a way it's always good to be able to look at marriage in the most practical way possible.
When the trivialities of chai rice oil and salt, family expenses, and old-age childcare become the norm of married life, no couple can cross the real problem and directly embrace and love each other in the spiritual world.
Money, does it matter? The answer is indisputable.
As for where it is important, in addition to solving most of the problems of life, it also contains the problems of human nature to a great extent.
Human emotions always arise from interests, although this interest does not necessarily refer to material things, but also includes the acquisition of emotions. In the case of benefits, people's action and enthusiasm are also different, so marriage is also a relationship of interests, and there is a problem of matching interests.
A recently heard view that says "family harmony is the money behind it": if you think about it, it is actually well-founded.
1. Emotional stability.
Having money, to a great extent to ensure the stability of emotions, think about life is not short of food and clothing, want to buy anything can afford to buy, there is no too much pressure and burden, comfortable make people feel relaxed. The pace of life becomes slower, and you get full enjoyment from it, physically and mentally happy.
Without money, on the other hand, it is easy for people to become a cloud of irrational anger, complaining in the midst of hard work and busyness, which is inevitable.
At the same time, every day will also be very anxious, irritable, depressed, and then from the heavy feeling in the heart, directly determine the words and deeds, a word is not in line, it is possible to quarrel.
Yes, any small thing can become the trigger for the outbreak of contradictions, and the nerves that are tense all the time seem to have found an outlet at this moment.
The loss of the ability to speak well is because I have lost patience with life and can't help but be irritable.
2. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship.
I heard a very realistic saying that said:
"Dear mother-in-law, giving birth to a son is the original sin, you are useless to be a cow and a horse for your daughter-in-law, the son has the ability, the daughter-in-law has to catch up with the mother-in-law, the son has no ability, they all listen to the daughter-in-law, what you do is also in vain, why bother yourself?"
That is the reality.
There should be contradictions, and there may still be contradictions, but it is unlikely that there will be wildness and wanton behavior, which ensures to a great extent that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not be too stiff. Even if you don't like each other, meeting each other can be done like treating guests, superficially doing the same.
If the in-laws have money, they can stabilize the daughter-in-law's heart without being stingy, after all, who will hate and reject a person who can give themselves money? If there is still dissatisfaction, it is less money, even if the mother-in-law says a certain sentence is heavy, the daughter-in-law will not care too much.
There is a peaceful, family atmosphere full of laughter and laughter, and no one else is willing to spoil this tranquility.
3. Have money and leisure.
Rich and idle, a person will become particularly gentle and romantic, although life has a stressful part, but a romantic trip, or other ways of relaxing and romantic, can greatly alleviate the pressure part of life, in the busy and hard, debugging a quiet world.
In this way, in addition to busy and hard work, life is also romantic and comfortable, so the importance of money lies in maintaining a balance between the two. It is important to balance subjective feelings.
In addition, the expression of love also needs money to support, otherwise how do you prove your feelings? Just by mouth?
There is never an actual expression, or the ability and conditions are not enough to support the actual expression, just by saying "I love you", and soon this love will become a false love.
Especially for women, they need to feel love in pursuit of love in order to find a sense of security and belonging. If not, your love will become a banner to use her to complete the content of married life, more and more discouraged, more and more aggrieved.
4. Advantages and disadvantages.
What is the biggest difference between having money and not having money in married life? Without money, all the disadvantages will be infinitely magnified, and the advantages will be infinitely hidden. Especially when husband and wife quarrel, one party will always pinch the weakness of the other party's inability to make money and attack the other fiercely.
All the shortcomings have become intolerable, with no resilience to speak of. Going out to socialize is wrong, going home to play games is wrong, and even playing mobile phones has become irresponsible.
But having money is different, and your shortcomings can be greatly tolerated by your partner. Even if you socialize a lot, even if you like to play games, you can go home and be safe, because you can make money, because you have money, and it does not affect the quality of life because of your socializing and playing games.
Or maybe, because you have money, whatever you say carries weight and makes absolute sense for your partner. In turn, because you have no money, no matter how reasonable your words are, they will be denied and questioned, and they only need to say: "You know everything, why can't you make money?" ”
Dignity is pressed to the ground and rubbed, in fact, there is no fault that cannot be tolerated, but you cannot tolerate his shortcomings.
Some people say that the essence of marriage breakdown is the problem of money or the problem that money can solve, but all these forms are diverse and various forms. The most important thing is that this society is always full of pride and prejudice against the poor, and extremely inclusive of the rich.
For example, when couples quarrel, someone will always advise you, don't do it, go back to live a good life, and be content. There are always people who will persuade you that there is nothing to ask for, according to your conditions, what kind of can not be found, you have to follow him to be angry.
People will definitely be affected by the outside world, including all kinds of speeches, opinions, suggestions, when you are most emotionally unstable, but also the most likely to be biased.
Life is your own, the paradox is not completely controlled by yourself, especially when people around you say that your partner is not worth your persistence, you will always question your original choice at some moment, and fantasize about changing a partner, is it really happy. Many people's definition of worthiness, there is nothing wronged, no money, no grievances can not be endured, very sad and realistic.
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