Many boys with good family conditions are always afraid of encountering gold worshippers and brothers and demons when they get married, but in fact, girls with good family conditions are also afraid of meeting men who like to carry their original families on their shoulders. Because no matter who it is, when you get married, you just want to live with your other half, not to have a pro-poor marriage.
So this is a lot of male families to reflect, they hate the gold worship, and they ask the daughter-in-law's grandmother's family to bear all kinds of responsibilities, in fact, is the same. And they should not be so double-standard, to understand that as daughter-in-law, as the daughter-in-law's mother-in-law, there is no obligation for them as a man's family.
So now many mothers-in-law force daughters-in-law to add dowries for sister-in-law, or force rich daughters-in-law to buy houses for their brothers-in-law, in fact, there is no reason at all, the so-called responsibility of you, but also just moral kidnapping. Therefore, girls must recognize this, but also consider the attitude of the husband, if the husband is still more reasonable, then the marriage can continue, if the husband does not understand, then the marriage does not need to persist.
01. The idea of playing the daughter-in-law's dowry room
Before Chen Ying and Zhao Ke got married, the mother-in-law was particularly enthusiastic and attentive to Chen Ying, and at that time, she did not mention any excessive conditions, but said that she would treat Chen Ying as her own daughter and let Chen Ying marry Zhao Ke.
However, Chen Ying is not a fool, and there are many people who have seen her work for so many years, chen Ying also understands what her mother-in-law is so enthusiastic about, but because her family conditions are good, and her work is not bad.
Chen Ying was born in a particularly wealthy family, her father had a company, her mother was a university professor, and Zhao Ke was one of the graduate students brought by her mother. Chen Ying was often visiting her mother at school that she gradually came together with Zhao Ke.
At that time, Chen Ying felt that Zhao Ke had the ability, and people also worked hard to make progress, but she did not expect to meet Zhao Ke's mother near marriage, only to find that the mother and son did not have any similarities at all. When she didn't know Chen Ying's family situation, Zhao Ke's mother was actually a little proud, saying everywhere how good her son was.
After knowing Chen Ying's family situation, he said that he would treat Chen Ying as his daughter. Therefore, Chen Ying also understands that her mother-in-law is a snobbish eye, and if she marries into it, she may not be asked by her mother-in-law in the future. However, on the one hand, Chen Ying was reluctant to feel the feelings of the two people, on the other hand, the current mother-in-law did not mention anything, so Chen Ying still had a fluke and chose to marry Zhao Ke.
In order to let the two people have a better development, they naturally choose to stay in the city where Chen Ying is located, but in this way, the house naturally has to be chen Ying. Chen Ying's family has long understood that this is inevitable, so they did not feel that there was anything wrong, Chen Ying's parents married Chen Ying to a 200-square-meter house under their name, as Chen Ying's marriage room.
Zhao Ke is also very grateful for this, and also said that now Zan lives in Chen Ying's dowry room, wait until Zhao Ke has saved enough money in the future, or want a house bought by two people, Chen Ying is also very supportive, but after the mother-in-law heard the news, she asked Zhao Ke anxiously, if the two people move out after that, what should this dowry room do?
The two people who heard this frowned at once, and looking at the faces of both of them were not good-looking, the mother-in-law laughed a few times in embarrassment, indicating that she only cared about it and had no other ideas.
But Chen Ying heard the urgency from it, and her mother-in-law must have an idea about this dowry room.
02. The mother-in-law came to live with her
But because the mother-in-law returned to her hometown after the wedding, Chen Ying did not think about it carefully, thinking that as long as she paid attention and had a tough attitude, her mother-in-law would not be cheeky to ask for it.
But Chen Ying still thinks too simple, because after two months of marriage, the mother-in-law directly comes uninvited, and said that she wants to help two people share, saying that even if two people earn a lot, it will cost a lot of money to hire a nanny a month.
However, the area of the family is already large, Zhao Ke and Chen Ying are usually too busy and can't help, so how can they let the mother-in-law take on all the housework as an old man, but the mother-in-law made up her mind to do this, and even took advantage of the fact that Chen Ying and Zhao Ke were not at home, and secretly quit the nanny.
The mother-in-law's practice of cutting first and playing later made Chen Ying have no way, and could only let the mother-in-law live like this, but even if the mother-in-law said that she wanted to come to help, the things at home were not so good, but it was Chen Ying and Zhao Ke's room, and every time Chen Ying came back, she would find traces of being turned over by her mother-in-law.
Chen Ying hates others to move their own things the most, but because her mother-in-law is an elder, Chen Ying can only knock on the side to say. However, the mother-in-law pretended to be deaf and dumb every time, and Chen Ying could only give up.
But Chen Ying did not think that her mother-in-law would become more intense, and after her mother-in-law lived for half a year, she did not consult with the two people and called the little uncle over. In the evening, when Chen Ying came home from work, she saw the little uncle wearing a vest and shorts and playing games on the sofa, and saw Chen Ying and Zhao Ke come back and casually said hello.
Chen Ying's brow immediately frowned, and Zhao Ke also hurried to ask his mother, but the mother-in-law did not feel that she was wrong, and even criticized Zhao Ke, "You are such a good brother now, why don't you know how to help your brother?" Anyway, this house is also big, after your brother also lives here, you arrange a job as soon as possible, it is best to introduce a girl as good as Chen Ying to your brother. ”
03. Blocked the back road of the mother-in-law
Zhao Ke and Chen Ying were speechless at once, because everything that Zhao Ke had now actually had little to do with Chen Ying, it was entirely because of Zhao Ke's own efforts, and he also had academic qualifications, but Zhao Ke's brother was different, because he was spoiled since childhood, so he did not learn no skills and had no ability, but the mother-in-law's words were obviously unwilling to let his younger son be wronged.
Chen Ying had had enough of her mother-in-law's prying eyes on her life, so she finally couldn't help but reply directly, "Mom, how much ability to do, little uncle, we are afraid we can't help." ”
"Why can't I help?" Didn't your dad have a company? Arrange a manager position for your uncle, won't it be done? And people like you, there must be that kind of good friend who is right at the door, and my son is such a good talent, don't they still look at it? No more, you two don't worry about buying a house first, first buy a set for your brother-in-law, you are brothers and sisters-in-law, this is what it should be. "The mother-in-law was immediately unhappy, and a bunch of long talks were actually moral kidnapping."
"I can't agree to these 3 points you said, and you don't even think about them." Chen Ying was directly angry and directly released harsh words.
Who knew that the mother-in-law simply did not pretend, threw down the apron and pulled up the little uncle and went outside, "You don't buy a house for the uncle, right?" Then I will go out with your uncle to sleep in the park, and I see that your conscience can't go? ”
Chen Ying pulled Zhao Ke without stopping, and the mother-in-law left so gamble, but Chen Ying did not eat this set at all, and after careful discussion with Zhao Ke, decided to block the mother-in-law's back road with factual actions.
So in the three days when the mother-in-law slept in the park, Chen Ying and Zhao Ke quickly rented out the house and then temporarily moved to Chen Ying's mother's house. When the mother-in-law finally couldn't bear to go home, she found that they had really been swept out of the house and completely collapsed.
The mother-in-law rushed in front of Chen Ying, but did not dare to fool around in front of Chen Ying's parents, so in the end she could only take her younger son back to the gray slippery, and Zhao Ke and Chen Ying only promised to give living expenses every month, and the rest was ignored.
When many girls marry, their parents will carefully consider the man's family, sometimes the man's parents have no salary, no pension, and there are younger siblings in the family, and the parents of the girls are not very approveable. Although this is very realistic, it has some truth, because in any case, a boy's responsibility to the family is always greater, and it is more difficult to separate from the original family.
In addition to the man's own ideas and responsibilities, there are also some unclear in-laws and mothers-in-law, always feel that the daughter-in-law married in is to bear the family responsibilities with the son, so not only will the family affairs be thrown to the son, but also thrown to the daughter-in-law. Didn't Chen Ying just meet such a mother-in-law? Fortunately, Chen Ying and Zhao Ke were able to carry it clearly, so they did not ruin the marriage because of it.
In fact, there are many such things in society, in the end, it is because of the traditional thinking of the past, but in fact, the daughter-in-law has no responsibility for the in-laws, and after a man gets married, he should also learn to put the small family first. In addition to their obligation to support their in-laws, they do not have so much responsibility for their brothers and sisters, and they should not give up the harmony of their families for the sake of so-called family affection.