Wang Xiaobo said: "We can't decide how to live and how to die, but we can decide how to love and how to live." ”
Life is uncertain, fate is bumpy, one second the scenery is proud, the next second may fall to the bottom.
In the face of difficulties, some people give up on themselves and are devastated;
Some people, on the other hand, can face the ups and downs of life and learn to live well from suffering.
Just like the protagonist of the Swedish writer Buckman's novel "A Man Named Ove Decides to Die", Ovie, he was bent on dying, but in the process of seeking death, he accidentally learned how to love.
Through Ovie's life, we have understood that reconciling with the difficulties in life and learning to love are the necessary courses in our lives.
The adult world is the rest of your life
When Ovie was 7 years old, his mother died of tuberculosis, leaving him and his father to live together.
On the day he was admitted to college at the age of 15, his father accidentally got hit by a train and left him.
Ove became an orphan and had no money to go to college, so he took his father's place and became a train repairman.
Because of his young age, the workers ostracized him, and the dirty work was thrown to him;
Local developers also bullied him for having no father and no mother, and even set fire to his house for his family's land.
Ovi's life has since fallen to the bottom, and he has nothing but to live on the train with two of his old clothes.
At this time, fate took a turn for the better, and Ovie met the beautiful girl Zoya.
After marriage, with the encouragement and companionship of Sawyer, he regained his strength and was full of hope for life.
But fate had just given Ovie a little sugar, and immediately gave him a blow to the head.
During one trip, the bus they were riding had an accident and flipped into the cliff with the car.
Sawyer lost both legs and their children were killed in a car accident.
Ovie's life was already miserable enough, but the suffering did not seem to let him go.
When Ovie was 59 years old, his wife Sawa died of cancer, and even she did not accompany Ovie to the end.
The pain of bereavement has not yet dissipated, and the railway station where she has worked for more than 40 years has also allowed Ovie to retire early.
Ovie's life was completely devoid of sustenance and fell into a great emptiness.
Unfortunate fate makes Ovie have an odd temper and a short temper, and he wants to find something to do and enrich his life, so he helps in the community every day.
Move the bicycle that has not stopped in the grid line, check whether the neighbor's garbage is sorted according to the regulations, and remind whose lawn is time to trim...
But Ovie's doing this was not approved by his neighbors, and everyone thought he was nosy and respectful of him.
Ovie became an island, and he felt abandoned by the whole world.
In the adult world, no one is not bitter, and no one is not difficult.
As the old man said, "Everywhere there is true suffering, false joy." ”
Like Ovie, many people's lives are like a purgatory:
Some people get up early every day for a meager salary, and they are busy;
Some people toss and turn for a relationship;
Someone has to take care of elderly parents, but also to educate young children, and there is no way...
Heartache and bitterness are the norm of life, and you and I are no exception.
Living well is the best response to misfortune
Ovie, who had a bleak evening view, tried to commit suicide 6 times, but he did not get his wish.
The newly moved neighbor, Parvana, is an outgoing and cheerful woman who always comes to trouble Ovi when she sees her living alone.
On the first day of moving in, Parwana's husband, who did not know the road, drove the car into the courtyard of Ovi's house, and Ovi had to give up suicide, go out to direct traffic, and even help park the car in the garage.
Parwana's husband broke his leg, and she asked Ovie to help take them to the hospital and entrusted her two daughters to Ovi's care, which once again interrupted Ovie's suicide plan.
Parwana also asked Ovi to teach her to drive and keep the stray cat she had picked up in the neighborhood at Ovi's house, so that Ovi's suicide plan had to continue to delay.
After his wife's death, Ove has been alone, and although he hates loneliness, he has to try to get used to this situation.
The appearance of Parvana made Ovi's life lively.
Ovie also gradually opened his heart and stopped living with anger.
He helped Mrs. Rooney repair radiators, told stories to Parwana's daughter, and took in his wife's former students to live at home.
Ovie forgets that he is going to commit suicide, and he gradually learns how to live a good life every day filled with fireworks.
Ordinary as you and me, who has not been stung by life?
We have all walked alone on a dark road, alone tasting the helplessness and pain of life.
Some people, decadent and depressed, choose to give up;
But some people can be redeemed in suffering and vigorously fight back against an unjust fate.
Life is a sea, the tide rises and falls, and nothing cannot be passed.
As the line in "My Name Is Kim Sam Soon" says:
Be brave and love as if you had never been hurt; dance as if no one would appreciate it; sing as if no one would listen; go to work as if you didn't need money; live as if it were the end of time.
Life throws me arsenic, I respect the sugar of life.
Living well is the best response to a tragic fate.
Love and giving can heal all suffering
Ove gradually realized the true meaning of the phrase "distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors".
By chance, he confided to his neighbors a hurdle he hadn't been able to get over for years.
The car accident that paralyzed his wife, Sawyer, was caused by the driver's drunk driving, but after the incident, neither the driver nor the travel agency was punished.
So Ovie kept writing letters, trying to get justice for himself, but he annoyed the relevant departments, and everyone regarded him as a thorn in the eye.
Ovie has always been grumpy about this matter, he has suffered great grievances, and he has never had anywhere to vent, so he is full of hostility to the world.
The neighbors burst into tears when they heard this, and everyone decided to release the previous suspicion with Ovi Bing and reach out to him.
They contacted a reporter and uncovered the inside story of collusion between government departments and investigated evidence of tax evasion by the developer who burned Ovi's house that year.
Everyone works together to help Ovie get justice, but also to untie the knots that have been in his heart for many years.
Ovie finally understands that by giving love, you can harvest more love.
He felt the warmth between his neighbors, he had a new concern for the world, and all the sufferings of the past were healed.
Ovie's later years have helped everyone a lot, and in the process of giving, they have found a new meaning in life.
In the last part of his life, Ove did not choose to die, but learned how to live.
There is a saying in the Bible that only by releasing goodwill to the world can we attain salvation for the soul.
The past suffering made Ovie fight life with hatred and anger, and fate also hit back at his endless anger, and his life fell to the bottom.
The emergence of the Parwana family taught Ovi how to give love.
He stretched out his hands to release kindness, and fate gave him a lot of love back.
These loves are enough to heal all the wounds that Ovie has experienced.
True feelings can make time gentle; kindness can withstand the long years.
All suffering will be redeemed in goodness.
I saw a sentence on the Internet: "Kindness is the elixir of hope in this world, which can inject love and warmth into every lonely soul." ”
Ove explains this sentence very well.
He once fought against the world with anger, complaining about the injustice of fate, but his life did not get better.
And when he continues to help his neighbors and become a kind person, he not only gains the love of the neighbors, but also enjoys the joy of heaven.
Life is like the sea, ups and downs, changeable, and love and dedication are a bright light in the vast sea.
Today, you build bridges for others, and in the coming day, others will pave the way for you.
Someone said, "Every sugar you give out goes to the place where it should go, the earth is round, and the love you give will eventually come back to you." ”
If you cross the people, the heavens will cross you.
May you and I all be reconciled to suffering, and in every ordinary day, light the light of life with love and hope.
Author | Qingyi, learn and learn from time to time, not to mention.
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