A study survey showed that in a relationship, 93.7% of women will meet men who play ambiguous, but only 18.4% eventually become boyfriend and girlfriend, and the remaining 81.6% say that "the other party does not really want to be together".
The reason for throwing this data is not to criticize how much men like to play ambiguous (playing ambiguous is not related to gender), but to tell everyone that in the process of feelings, those who like to play ambiguous do not want to go down with you.
Therefore, please be good men and women must stop the loss in time.
Not rejected or held responsible
Some people say that ambiguity often occurs above youda, between two people who have not yet reached the lover.
But in fact, this interpretation is not accurate. Because you will find such a phenomenon, even if some people's relationship has not yet reached the stage of friends, they have been hovering in the ambiguous "position" for a long time.
The acceleration of the pace of life has led to many people being unable to digest things like feelings that require a long period of precipitation. The result of this social symptom is that more and more people are trapped in a kind of "fast food feedback".
For example: fast-food love. You will catch you at a certain moment because of a look, an action, a greeting, or even a stem that he has caught you at a certain moment, and you will feel that this is a divine destiny, a divine blessing.
Modern people's emotional appeal is sometimes so simple. In this regard, the eyes of the stamp age may be full of incredulity.
Something good must be simple, but something simple isn't necessarily good. Therefore, some people are obsessed with creating unpleasantness in simplicity.
Cana Nan is the head of the company and works vigorously on weekdays. Recently, she found herself always bumping into a boy at the company, intentionally or unintentionally, and she didn't pay much attention at first.
Once, Because of her aunt's pain, Jian Nan was lying on her desk dying during her lunch break, but the boy handed her a cup of brown sugar water, said: It should be better to drink, and walked away.
This is simply a scene in the TV series, and Jiannan, who has not been in love for a long time, was suddenly dazzled by this boy. For the next six months, the boy would sometimes bring her breakfast, sometimes remind her to remember to take the umbrella, and she was used to saying good morning and good night to the boy.
At the party a few days ago, everyone coaxed her and the boy, and she took the opportunity to confess to the boy, but unexpectedly, the boy said that he only took her as a boss, and he had just recently made a girlfriend.
Cana, who has always been hot and windy, is like an eggplant hit by frost, she does not understand, since she does not like herself, why should she give her extra care to cause her to be wrong? Since she didn't like it, why didn't she have a no-no attitude when she told him good morning and good night?
After being ambiguous for more than half a year, in the end, I had to be forced to accept the embarrassing situation of self-inflicted sentimentality.
People who like ambiguity are like this, they learn how big your feelings are in the temptation again and again, and mark it for the convenience of going out, once they feel the crisis, they immediately withdraw, turn around, and throw you a label that makes you have to accept: You are not worthy!
Do not reject your contribution to him, and are not responsible for the results after giving.
Jealousy is not qualified, and love has no reputation
Ambiguity is never a pastime of love. People who like to play ambiguous must remember this sentence, and so do people who don't like it.
From the ambiguity itself, it is actually a very beautiful thing, it is like a bud protruding from the head, emerald green and full of life. It symbolizes the blossoming and fruiting of the future, and symbolizes the laws of life.
It is precisely in this way that we are obsessed with and yearn for the anxiety and expectation that this desire is about to be satisfied.
But when we are in an ambiguous situation, do we really feel that our state of mind is positive all the time? I don't think so.
Ambiguity must have a shelf life. This deadline can be a month, it can be half a year, but it is definitely not indefinite, so that you can't see where the next stop is. Because we know that expired things are not delicious, and the endless wait is always only the desert.
The normal direction of ambiguity is to push you closer to love, rather than to linger for a long time on the road.
Looking at the hesitant faces, we understand that many times their pain is unbearable and only weighs the left and right. He weighs you and others about who is more suitable for development and who can meet the need for stimulation.
I don't think anyone can get used to or enjoy the feeling of being picked up like a commodity. What's more, he doesn't necessarily "buy" you home.
When he also threw an olive branch to others, you asked him why he was half-hearted, and he replied: What qualifications do you have to say such a thing?
Your affectionate efforts are taken for granted, and when you express your love to him, he tells you in turn: inappropriate. Yes, in what name should your so-called love be expressed?
Jealousy is not qualified, and love has no reputation. It was really uncomfortable and uncomfortable.
Adults are no longer suitable for using the word "play" when facing things, which is a necessary attitude. Because playing ambiguous is one of the ways to play with fire and self-immolation.
If you attribute ambiguity to the pastime of love, then in the kingdom of love you are nothing more than a clown.
Ambiguity is a psychological warfare, fascinating and dangerous
People who often use ambiguous means can be roughly regarded as two categories: either they are inferior and cowardly, or they are wrong-minded.
This kind of person who is not brave enough, they obviously like each other, but they never say it explicitly, because they are afraid of losing. Fear of speaking out not only puts oneself in the position of "self-indulgent", but also cannot even be an ordinary friend with the other party.
But what such people need to understand is that people are bound to have many regrets in this life. We would rather be rejected for life for bravely speaking out than regret the mistakes caused by timidity and cowardice!
And those who use ambiguity as a means are mostly wrong-minded. He knows that ambiguity will hurt others and hurt himself, but he still knows that he is guilty.
The reason why they can play ambiguous on the road of "like a fish in the water" is because they more or less grasp the psychology of each other's inferiority and lack of love, and use this to lay a trap for others within the scope of no responsibility.
On the first date of a boy and a girl, the boy behaved extremely gentlemanly, and when they played the game, the boy took the girl in his arms, and the two had a lot of fun.
But after the date, when it comes to feedback on how the two feel about each other, the answer is far from the same.
The girl told her girlfriend that she liked the boy very much, and the boy made her feel safe. The boy went back and asked his buddy: Is it a little bad that I hugged her today?
It seems obvious that both parties should like each other, at least have a good feeling, especially the attitude of the girl, who has made it clear that they like each other.
But in fact, boys don't like girls.
Creating physical touch on the first date is a boy's means, and he asks the buddies "Is it a little bad to hold the girl" is not to express inner apologies, but a naked show-off!
People who like to show off often have such a characteristic: what is missing, they try their best to show what they have.
It looks like a lot of butterflies, bees, flowers and grasses around ta, but is there really a careful care of fertilizer nutrients behind this "full of life"? This makes us suspicious.
To put it bluntly, this is actually a manifestation of a lack of inner security, and this emotional lack leads them to want to decorate a kind of unimaginable "rich scenery", since it is decoration, the composition of the performance is obvious.
The girl is deeply trapped in the so-called care given by the boy, and her insecure personality traits that are easy to lose herself are also in the arms of the boy, so a meaningless ambiguity is born.
If you love, love deeply, and if you don't love, let go.
When we like it enough, love it enough, we are eager to establish a relationship with him. The establishment of relationships represents the particularity and uniqueness of him in my place, and I am the same for him.
Ambiguous eyes, greetings, and care may be charming, but behind this charm lurks the danger of losing the other person or losing oneself.
The knife on the head of the word "danger" also tells us at all times that whether it is a person who likes to play ambiguous or a person trapped in ambiguity, he must stop the loss in time, which is both to stop the "loss" of others and to stop his own "loss".
— END —
Thanks for paying attention, more emotional wonderful content, you can also pay attention to the public number [Tu Lei] (ID: tuleigongzhonghao).