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Ning You in the hit drama "Meet the Season" is a typical representative of women.
She is naturally beautiful, hard-working and very independent, and is a good person.
But when she faces her feelings, she is somewhat regrettable.
Ning You's campus love, let's not say more, but Ning You's marriage is worth our good thinking.
After Ning Yu married Hao Qinglin, there was a lot of chicken feathers in her life.
First, Hao Qinglin cheated, and Ning Yu chose to forgive for the sake of the child.
The reason for Hao Qinglin's derailment is also very strange, because Ning You's career is better developed than Hao Qinglin's, and his salary is also high, Hao Qinglin thinks that Ning You looks down on him, so he has to find comfort from the outside.
How much does a man have to have low self-esteem to be jealous that his woman is better than himself? Hao Qinglin's brain circuitry is so strange.
Ning Yu used his own salary to bear the family expenses, and Hao Qinglin used his own salary to support Xiao San.
Although Ning You chose to forgive Hao Qinglin's derailment two years ago, Hao Qinglin still did not realize his mistake and made it again and again.
True to that sentence, cheating is only the first and countless times.
When Hao Qinglin was once again discovered by Ning You for cheating, Ning Yu made up lies for his son's physical and mental health, giving him enough dignity.
When Hao Qinglin's illegal deeds were exposed, and the family's property was frozen, putting Ning You and her son's life into a difficult mode, Hao Qinglin did not care at all.
However, when Ning Yu cooperated with the investigation for his son's life and revealed the information about Hao Qinglin's cheating object, he was anxious.
To what extent is a man ruthless enough to ignore his family?
To put it bluntly, Hao Qinglin is selfish.
02
In Hao Qinglin's marriage with Ning You, Ning You's approach was a bit indecisive.
When Hao Qinglin first cheated, it meant that their marriage had been cracked.
Ning Yu chose to forgive for the sake of her children and wanted to maintain a complete home.
Even though Ning Yu forgave Hao Qinglin, the rift in their feelings was not repaired.
Why?
Because they began to separate from Hao Qinglin's first derailment, they have not lived together since then.
It is conceivable that Ning Yu's forgiveness was only verbal, and in her heart, this obstacle had never passed.
They simply treat each other like guests in front of their children and maintain a harmonious relationship.
Maintaining this relationship is very tiring, and both Ning You and Hao Qinglin feel the same way.
Even though Hao Qinglin was desperately showing goodwill in front of Ning You, trying to be a good father and a good husband, Ning You's spiritual purity did not give him this opportunity.
Unsatisfactory career, coupled with the disharmony of family life, Hao Qinglin, as a man, is very frustrated.
Ning Yu, as a wife, did not take care of his frustration.
So the gap between them has become bigger and bigger since Hao Qinglin first derailed.
Ning You, starting from Hao Qinglin's affair, has always been a state of general in her marriage, and she has been seeking perfection for the sake of her children.
Once a woman is in a state of complacency in marriage, then she has no expectations and feelings for her husband at all, and some are just a state of lukewarmity.
This state of masked couples can hurt both people.
Ning Yu's mistake in marriage is here, since hao Qinglin's cheating cannot be accepted, it should be separated, instead of using self-deception and indecisive ways to deal with problems in marriage, since forgiveness is unacceptable.
03
Chen Xin'er and Jian Hongcheng's marriage was even more cruel because they had no love in the first place.
Chen Xin'er is unrequited love Jian Hongcheng.
She knew about Jian Hongcheng and Ning You's campus love, which was where she was jealous of Ning You.
Because Ning Yu had received the love of Jian Hongcheng, and Chen Xin'er could not get it with all her strength.
So in the marriage between Jian Hongcheng and her, it has always been her hard work, and she hopes that her efforts can be exchanged for Jian Hongcheng's love.
But she didn't understand that the twisted melon was really not sweet.
Not only is it not sweet, but it is also a little bitter, it drives Chen Xin'er, who has always been strong, crazy.
So Chen Xin'er ran from Shenzhen to Shanghai again and again to find trouble for Jian Hongcheng and Ning You.
Because there is hatred and unwillingness in her heart.
I think that Chen Xin'er was a better woman than Ning You, but only for Jian Hongcheng she gave up her job to become a housewife.
A strong woman who loses her job for a man, she is regretful and unwilling.
And it is precisely because Jian Hongcheng does not love her and cannot fill her inner regret and unwillingness, which is why she will become so crazy and count the unwilling hatred on the man's head.
04
In the marriage of Ning You and Chen Xin'er, as women, they all made the same mistake.
This mistake is to be self-sufficient in marriage.
Many things in this world can be done, but feelings cannot be done.
Two people with different rhythms, different thoughts, and no love will be together, which is a bondage marriage.
Man is bound together, but the heart is a hundred thousand miles away.
Ning Yu will live a life after Hao Qinglin's derailment, and eventually exchange Hao Qinglin for cheating again, which is a double harm to her and her son.
Chen Xin'er knew that Jian Hongcheng obviously did not love himself, and had to force him to love her, and the more he forced Jian Hongcheng, the more he was far away from her.
The more crazy Chen Xin'er became, the more Jian Hongcheng hated her.
In this state of marriage, it is difficult to produce feelings and resentment.
But Chen Xin'er would rather lose herself than be tied to Jian Hongcheng.
So her relationship with Jian Hongcheng, no matter how much she makes a fuss, will not get any better.
Ning Yu still has a career to pin down, but Chen Xin'er doesn't even have a career, and it's not crazy to blame.
Ning You and Chen Xin'er are both failures of marriage, but Ning Yu knows how to run herself, while Chen Xin'er is bent on going her own way and insisting on her own obsession.
In fact, many women will be like this, thinking that they have paid everything for the family for men, and men should know how to be grateful.
But men and women think differently, and your efforts are only voluntary, and may not be what your husband wants.
To judge whether a relationship should continue is to see whether the advantages outweigh the disadvantages of the relationship and whether there is a possibility of repair.
If you can't seriously repair it, or after a long period of hard work, you still can't let the two people untie the knot, and they are depressed every day, which seriously affects their lives.
Then the relationship should be over.
Stop loss in time is a course that women with obsessive intentions should study well.
May all women live confidently and dashingly in marriage.
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