For all couples, the foundation of marriage is trust.
Once someone chooses to cheat, it undoubtedly breaks the foundation of trust between them. Even if the cheating party realizes its problem and chooses the prodigal son to turn back. However, it is also difficult for the derailed party to truly forgive the other party, let alone rebuild trust!
I once met such a trainee, her name is Haruko, she is a full-time housewife.
At the beginning of this year, Haruko accidentally found that her husband was hooking up with another woman. She was very angry, but she looked at the baby that was about to be born in her belly, and she couldn't bear to divorce.
Fortunately, Haruko's husband also realized his problem, deleted the woman's WeChat in front of his wife, and the phone was blocked! He cried and said to Haruko:
"Wife, I know I'm wrong, and I swear I'll never dare again!"
Considering the children in her belly, and thinking that they have been married for less than a year, and the emotional basis is also there, Haruko still chose to forgive the man!
Later, however, Haruko finds herself becoming more and more sensitive.
When her husband came back late, she suspected that the man had gone to fool around again; when her husband went on a business trip, she suspected that the man had found an excuse to meet with Xiao San again! But Haruko had no evidence, and she could only swallow her suspicions into her stomach.
Such a life is simply a kind of torture for Haruko.
Later, Haruko found me, and she hoped that she could rebuild her trust with her husband! Under my guidance, It took Haruko less than a month to reconcile with her husband. How did she do it?
Get rid of the "grudge" mentality and don't have to look at men with colored glasses
To rebuild trust, you must get rid of the "grudge" mentality! How?
01
Re-recognize the problems that exist in your relationship
Men cheating is like a cold, just a complication.
Only by following the vine and finding the real cause of men's cheating can you completely eradicate the hidden dangers of men's cheating. Only in this way can your suspicions be completely recovered!
02
Take a long-term view and focus on your own interests
If you put all your attention on your partner, it is not only easy to make your husband feel suffocated and breathless, but also easy to make yourself think about things and think about things all day, but you can't see the most critical problems in the relationship between two people.
Marriage is a long-term intimate relationship, to maintain and run their own family, we must look at the overall situation to consider:
What is your bottom line? What exactly are you seeking in your marriage?
Only by thinking about these problems can women better face the wind and waves in marriage and not let the boat of husband and wife's feelings be overturned.
Comb through the list of doubts and guide men to take the initiative to tell you the answer
You can always pass on your feelings to men, for example, Haruko always feels that men come back late from work and are fooling around, so I let Haruko say to her husband:
"Honey, what time do you come back from work at night?" You came back so late last night that the food I cooked was cold! ”
For example, If Haruko suspects that her husband is on a business trip to meet with Xiao San, then she can say to the man like this:
"Honey, you have to go on a business trip for a week, do you know that a day is like three autumns?" I wish I could see your big pig's head every day! ”
This is the expression of feelings, essentially the making of needs. However, the way you express your feelings will not make men always feel that you are still jealous of him.
Before asking a man, do what you say!
This method is essentially a soft "compulsion". For example, when you come back from work, you talk to him about what you encountered at work, and you can even tell him that a new male colleague has a good feeling for you, but you are still unmoved.
Under your leadership, he will naturally tell you about his work, and slowly, the communication between you will increase.
The NG of the movie is for the next more perfect shot, and so is the feeling.
Marriage on the rocks is not necessarily a completely bad thing. Please see it as an opportunity to progress, husband and wife through the valley and low tide of life together, the relationship between the two will be closer, the future will be more brilliant.
Well, hope it helps your marriage, if you are trapped by marital troubles, you can comment on the message or private message I tell you the specific situation, I will help you analyze for free.
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