Yan Renmei
From ancient times to the present, beauty has always been a woman's valuable capital, but the appearance is born, is given by parents, even if born beautiful as a flower, the day after tomorrow does not work hard to cultivate, the qualifications are flat, and eventually the beautiful appearance will be useless, and even bring disasters to themselves.
Yan Renmei was one of the most beautiful women in the Republic of China period, her life was full of ups and downs, although appearance was her advantage, but she valued her inner qualities more.
When she was young, she was once remembered by the Japanese because of her beautiful appearance, so she had no choice but to ask 10 bodyguards to do a wedding, and with the blessing of her own wisdom, she is still happy to live at the age of 106.
First, from a famous and prestigious family
Family origin often plays a crucial role in a person's growth experience, family background directly determines the communication level of the person, and the family environment affects the internal behavior of the person.
A century ago, China was still in the last years of a feudal society where the old and the new alternated. Unlike most families who were persecuted and impoverished by feudal society, Yan Renmei was born into a family that was deeply influenced by the trend of social progress.
Yan Renmei's great-grandfather, who had befriended Li Hongzhang, was the founder of China's first bank, and both his grandfather and father were young sons who inherited the family business, and with the joint efforts of three generations, the Yan family has increasingly become a famous family with a flourishing incense and a bell ringing.
In the Shanghai officialdom and shopping malls at that time, the Yan family was in the limelight and had important influence and discourse power.
Greater Shanghai during the Republic of China
In the early part of the last century, Yan Renmei was born in this wealthy home with many family members and servants. Born with a golden spoon, the education and experience received from childhood are naturally extraordinary.
Yan Renmei is the eldest daughter in the family, born chuchu and moving when she was a child, coupled with a lively and lovely personality, she is very popular at home.
Because there are wise and industrious elders in the family who handle all the big and small affairs, Yan Renmei, as a young child, only needs to snuggle up next to her parents, ignorant and innocent play, and the childhood life can be described as carefree.
However, "the sky is unpredictable", when she was six years old, her mother suddenly died of illness, losing her mother's care and care, and Yan Renmei, who was young, was like a helpless boat, sailing from a warm harbor to the rough sea.
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The first taste of the cold and warm of the world, in the full of loneliness and cold, she can only survive in this big family more well-behaved and clever, and since then she has begun to truly grow.
Soon, Yan Renmei entered the academy and received systematic cultural knowledge education.
Although she lacks her mother's care in her life, in view of her excellent family situation, she still enjoys a high-quality growth environment and resources that many people can not hope for.
Needless to say, the basic brocade and jade food are in and out of the luxurious transportation, and the friends they make are also the children of the nobles in the circle.
In such a family environment, Yan Renmei's path to study is smooth.
Originally, according to Yan Renmei's development plan, she would grow into a new era intellectual woman with progressive ideas. If she wants to continue her studies, she can get a college diploma like her aunts. However, under the persecution of her father, under such a last resort, she scrawled off marriage before she graduated from junior high school.
Yan Renmei was 14 years old, and at her aunt's wedding, she was favored by a family surnamed Ma in Suzhou.
In order to give a seriously ill wife Chong Xi, the Ma family wants to marry the beautiful Yan Renmei back home, and marry the eldest son of their family who is the same age as Yan Renmei.
Considering the women who had previously been baptized by progressive ideas at school and ran away from marriage, Yan Renmei's father suddenly raised an eyebrow, and he thought that it would be better to take advantage of this to cut off Yan Renmei's way to school, so that she could become a woman who was safe and respectful.
So after hearing about the Ma family's intentions, her father immediately agreed to her marriage to the Ma family's son.
The son of the Ma family is named Ma Guanliang, and like the Yan family, the Ma family also has a family wealth of ten thousand guan, which is one of the best in the Suzhou area. Ma Guanliang himself is handsome and handsome, and this marriage can also be regarded as a door-to-door and a combination of pearls.
All along, Yan Renmei's greatest wish is to be able to learn and study safely, her academic performance is very good, and she herself likes to live freely and freely in school.
However, her father's hasty decision completely broke her beautiful dreams and prospects, which of course did not meet her ideal pursuit.
In order to fight against her father, she shut herself in the house without eating, drinking or seeing anyone. Depressed and anxious, coupled with malnutrition, Yan Renmei soon developed a serious lung disease.
Fortunately, the family on grandma's side knew in time, and with their vigorous treatment, Yan Renmei's condition was controlled and she was relieved from danger.
However, at the strong request of her father's righteous words, Yan Renmei could not escape her father's insistence in the end. In order to avoid the family from getting into trouble, she has always been sensible and chose to compromise and marry Ma Guanliang.
In this way, Yan Renmei, who was born from a superior background, married a woman prematurely at the age of teenagers, far away from her beloved campus life, and gave up the bright future that she once insisted on pursuing.
Sometimes seeking perfection does not lead to true fulfillment, but on the contrary, sticking to one's own opinions may lead to a satisfactory ending.
Yan Renmei and Ma Guanliang
After Yan Renmei married Ma Guanliang, behind the seemingly loving and harmonious marriage was actually a chicken feather, and in the end she did not escape the fate of divorce.
Second, the husband cheats and divorces
After getting married, the couple bought a house in Shanghai, living in Shanghai for a long time, the Ma family also has an industry in Shanghai, as the saying goes, "ten miles of fireworks, the wind and clouds will be on the beach", and compared with Suzhou, shanghai's prosperity is also very attractive, especially the children of rich families like Ma Guanliang.
Because Yan Renmei is younger, she can continue to study at school, so although she has become a family, she loves to learn and still goes to school as usual.
Just as Yan Renmei went to school as usual, surprisingly, she became pregnant. Of course, after becoming pregnant, she could not go to school, so she had no choice but to study at home.
The second from the right in the back row is Yan Renmei
To this end, she and her husband Ma Guanliang also specially hired a British tutor as their Own English teacher, striving to be a newcomer who has the courage to accept new things in the new era and new ideas.
In addition, Yan Renmei will also try to pour into Shanghai with her good friends in the sister group in her leisure time, such as learning to make Western-style pastries, going to the cinema to watch movies, and watching horse racing at the racecourse, etc., living a happy and comfortable life.
Newlywed Yan'er, at first, is sweet and sweet, but the days to come will become more and more messy. The same is true of Yan Renmei's marriage.
In the early stage, the couple was still in love with each other, but in the later period, they became tit-for-tat and even tortured each other.
Yan Renmei and her friends, yan Renmei in the middle
Ma Guanliang's father is a Suzhou traditional knowledge molecule, who grew up in such a family atmosphere, and unlike Yan Renmei, he also carries many traditional and conventional ideas and habits.
Even traditional men have times of restlessness in their hearts. Not long after the sweet newlywed life, Ma Guanliang's nature was revealed.
Because the affairs of the family in Shanghai need to be handled by him, it is inevitable to go in and out of various places and deal with various people, and living such a life for a long time, Ma Guanliang's self-control is not strong, and he soon fell into the wind and moon place, and there are other women outside.
At first, Yan Renmei did not know, as always, took care of the children, doing what he wanted to do, and the two occasionally met without interfering with each other.
However, there is no impermeable wall in the world, and later Yan Renmei heard about Ma Guanliang's behavior of meeting with other women outside, and she was sad inside, and at the same time she felt indignant.
The one on the right is Yan Renmei
So she found Ma Guanliang and began to negotiate with Ma Guanliang.
After all, men like the new and hate the old, and deeply influenced by the remnants of traditional feudal ideas, Ma Guanliang did not feel that what he did outside was too excessive, and he said that he did not want to give up on women outside for the time being.
In the face of her husband's cheating and later attitude, Yan Renmei wanted to cry without tears, and she was even more angry, although she did not want to disappoint the families of both sides and was reluctant to have children, but it was also unacceptable for her to continue to live in this family.
Once she was a docile but also stubborn person, never because of the fault of others blindly wronged herself, even her father forced herself to quit school she still had to resist, and married into this family, she was gradually smoothed out by the life of chai rice oil and salt, and gradually compromised to life, losing herself.
At this moment, she suddenly felt as if she had lived in a dream before, and all the sweet happiness seemed to be an illusion.
After thinking about it, Yan Renmei decided to divorce and she wanted to take the children out to live on her own.
Soon, she told her friends and family about her thoughts. Surprisingly, her family did not have a support, but several good friends approved of her choice.
In this way, with the help and help of friends, Yan Renmei successfully divorced. The only thing that made her feel sad was that the child was not brought out, and the Ma family threatened not to divorce the child by taking the child, and the child had to stay in the Ma family.
Third, because of beauty, I am remembered
After leaving the Ma family and breaking off relations with Ma Guanliang, Yan Renmei resumed her single life.
Since her father and family did not support her divorce, she naturally could not and did not live in her own home after the divorce, so after resuming her single life, her residence and basic life still depended on friends.
Xinkang Garden during the Republic of China period
It is gratifying that the friends are still quite reliable, whether it is when she was deeply involved in the pain of her husband's cheating, or in the process of divorcing her husband, the friends gave great care and help.
Just when she was struggling to find a stable temporary residence, Her mother Sheng Guanyi was about to leave Shanghai, and the house in Xinkang Garden on Huaihai Middle Road was temporarily unoccupied, so at the invitation of Sheng Guanyi, Yan Renmei packed up and lived in it.
As the scope of Japanese aggression in China expanded, Shanghai became an important stronghold for the Japanese to control China and fight against other countries, and many Japanese officials were stationed in Shanghai, living in various high-end residences in the bustling area of Shanghai.
The Xinkang Garden, where Sheng Guan Yi lived, was designed by Ma Haiyangxing, a well-known architectural design firm in Shanghai, and a new-style apartment built in 1934, the design and quality of the house were among the best at the time, and many foreigners lived here, including some Japanese officials.
After Yan Renmei moved in, her colorful figure hovered near the apartment.
A few days later, a Japanese official who came to rent a house happened to meet Yan Renmei, a single person. Seeing Yan Renmei's beautiful appearance, moving eyebrows, and swaying figure, I was immediately deeply attracted by her style.
At this time, Yan Renmei did not know that she had been remembered by the Japanese.
Since then, this Japanese official named Yamamoto has come to see the house every three to five years, and has used the excuse of renting a house to talk to Yan Renmei, frequently pestering at home.
Yan Renmei repeatedly refused, telling him that she was not the owner of the house and asking him to look elsewhere.
However, how could the arrogant Japanese Yamamoto give up easily?
After several fruitless entanglements, he asked a traitor to bring a message, saying that Mr. Yamamoto was still unmarried and had great power in the Japanese army, and that marrying such a high official as him would never suffer a loss.
Although Yan Renmei came from a wealthy family, she knew that the Japanese did no evil in China, and had committed heinous crimes on Chinese soil, and even if she had been single, it would be impossible to marry a Japanese.
Post-war Shanghai
So, in order to avoid Yamamoto's continued harassment, she moved out of the Shinkang Garden, which had just moved into.
At this time, her father and family also learned of this matter, and they were forced by the Japanese forces and did not want Yan Renmei to be hurt because of this incident, so they had to let her live in the Yan family temporarily.
After moving away from Xinkang Garden, the brazen Yamamoto unexpectedly found out about Yan Renmei's mother's family and chased after the Yan family.
Forced to do so, Yan Renmei hid in her uncle's house and the Zhu family where her sister-in-law was married, and as a result, without exception, Yamamoto got a clue and followed her.
Yamamoto has been pestering and harassing, which has caused panic among the whole family for a while.
Hiding in Tibet for a long time is not the way at all, so under the joint advice of the family, everyone agrees that the best way to get rid of Yamamoto is to find a family to marry out quickly.
At this time, Yan Renmei herself was deeply disturbed by it, and she had no choice but to obey everyone's arrangement, and she herself wanted to stay away from Yamamoto by finding a man to live with.
Immediately after, the family began to find a suitable marriage partner for Yan Renmei.
Fourth, ask a bodyguard to do the wedding
A few days later, the family found Yan Renmei and told her that a family surnamed Li in Ningbo had a son of a similar age, which looked quite suitable in all aspects, and hoped that she could meet with him and get to know each other.
Yan Renmei listened and left happily.
The prince surnamed Li zumin, not only belongs to a large family in the family situation, he is also a high-achieving student, graduated from Guanghua University majoring in economics, and most importantly, he has never become a family.
When the two met, they were like old friends, and they talked very happily, Yan Renmei was very satisfied with Li Zumin, who was highly educated and knowledgeable, and Li Zumin also liked Yan Renmei, who was smart and clever and beautiful as a flower.
Shanghai French General Association Gathering: The second from the right is Yan Renmei
In order to get rid of Yamamoto's nuisance as soon as possible and avoid complications, after only three months of getting along, the two decided to enter the palace of marriage and become a legal couple.
Soon, the wedding date is approaching, and they are not sure whether Yamamoto is willing to give up the pursuit of Yan Renmei, and they have been worried about it.
In order to prevent the accident on the wedding day, Li Zumin consulted with his parents and hired 10 bodyguards from the security company to ensure the safety of their wedding.
The wedding was very simple and low-key, except for the relatives and friends of both sides, almost no outsiders were invited to attend. At the scene, 10 bodyguards with extraordinary skills and large waists and round waists were particularly eye-catching, and they maintained the tranquility and peace of the wedding in an orderly manner.
The wedding ended smoothly, and since marrying Li Zumin, Yan Renmei has not been pestered by Yamamoto.
Yan Renmei and Li Zumin's marriage life is in agreement, always respecting each other as guests, and the two are plain and stable together.
Greater Shanghai
Later, Yan Renmei successfully obtained the custody of the child and took the child to his side to raise himself.
Unconsciously, the children have grown up, and the couple has more leisure time.
At this time, they chose to go south and go north and continue to get busy with the cause of building new China.
After years of silent baptism, Yan Renmei's beautiful appearance is aging, even if the young face is no longer there, she still loves beauty and loves to dress up, and still keeps herself fashionable and generous.
In Yan Renmei's heart, years can destroy beauty, but they cannot destroy the elegance of the heart.
Yan Renmei and Li Zumin have been together for more than 50 years as soon as they got married, and the children have grown up and scattered everywhere, and only the two of them have taken care of each other for a long time.
At the end of the 1990s, Mr. Li Zumin died, and the two people who were originally dependent on each other in Shanghai were only Yan Renmei.
Due to her advanced age and loneliness, her son did not trust her to live alone, and soon after her father's death, he took her to Shenzhen to take care of her personally.
Now that Yan Renmei is 107 years old, she still spends the rest of her life with her son in Shenzhen, and under her hard work and words and deeds, her children and grandchildren are very successful.
In this big family with dozens of people, she feels the last affection and warmth in the world in her meticulous care and care, and at the same time she also exudes the light and heat in her body, proving her wisdom and choice to the world.