After the current proposed to break up, many girls could not accept the reality, and then began to blindly redeem.
But no matter how many times you call your ex or cry "Let's be together!" The vast majority of boys will still be indifferent.
At this point, you wonder if you haven't done enough on your own. Some girls are affected by extreme emotions and will call their ex's parents, friends, or threaten boys with suicide.
But in the end, it is you who is injured all over the body, and it is you who is alone! In fact, it is best not to reunite with your ex immediately after the breakup!
Because since the boy chose to break up, it proves that at this moment, he feels that a person's life will make him feel more comfortable than with you.
If you disturb him at this time, isn't that the equivalent of pulling him back to the bad state he was in before?
But I also have a very euphemistic way to make my ex feel guilty about you and reach out to you.
01
Give enough men freedom during the transition period
In the early stages of the breakup, you must be patient enough, no matter how much you want to contact him, you must restrain your restless heart and break off contact with him.
In fact, the more important purpose of disconnection is to let your own mentality and emotions calm down and return to calm.
Disconnection is actually a two-way street, but people often only remember one-way and think that they can not contact each other.
So, when you break the connection, you have to pull the focus back to yourself.
Go for a morning swim in the swimming pool, or go to a Thai meal with your girlfriend for a long time? Remember to record all these activities and post them in your circle of friends.
When your ex is still glad that he has finally escaped the sea of suffering, and suddenly turns to your circle of friends, he will definitely be frightened.
Moreover, showing your positive attitude and increasing value in your state will also make him quietly ask himself:
"Wouldn't it be a wise choice for me to propose a breakup?"
When he has such doubts in his heart, your disconnection is considered a success!
02
After the disconnection, the reunion is ushered in
A compound is not a composite. At this stage, you don't need to say some truth confessions, let alone something akin to "I know I'm wrong" soft. This will take you further and further down the path of compounding!
Reunion is only the first step for you to get back together, if you want you and your ex to be able to successfully reunite, and after the reunion, you can take more control, then you need to pay attention to the following points:
1. Don't mention your feelings for him after the reunion;
2. Don't ask your ex why he broke up, and don't question him;
3. Don't talk at length about irrelevant things;
4. Don't say something sharp to irritate your ex.
This is the four reconnected minefields that I summarized for everyone, everyone must pay attention to it, do not step on the mine!
So what should the correct reunion look like?
In fact, there is no special explicit provision on what to say when the reunion is resumed. However, Wen Ji said that Ai has a series of special courses for the words during the reunion.
Today, I will share with you one of the compound tips - weakening the expression of purpose!
The purpose of weakening is to mean that when you reunite, do not express too obvious meaning of redemption, but through some unavoidable things or problems, seemingly naturally contact with the ex, and then use this connection to restore feelings, expand the recovery window, and then complete the compound.
How?
Case in point: You can tell your ex that your computer is broken and want him to come and take a look.
If your ex readily agrees, it will go smoothly.
If he is a little hesitant, then you can give him some more stimulation.
For example, put it this way:
"I don't care about a girl, you big man is struggling with something!"
Or you can also be gentle and cute with some points to say:
"Oh, I can't do it myself for a few days, so you're kind enough to help me see it."
Similar reasons include "changing light bulbs, dogs are sick, and a person can't be busy!" ”
As long as your reason for meeting is reasonable enough, forced enough!
Finally, when he has done you this favor, you have to thank him again, and you can also naturally offer to invite him to dinner in return, and the opportunity for you to rebuild your relationship has come.
Girls, at this point, your road to reunion has made a good start.
Well, hope it helps your marriage, if you are trapped by marital troubles, you can comment on the message or private message I tell you the specific situation, I will help you analyze for free.
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