In the past two days, after three months of divorce from Wang Xiaofei, Big S has married his first love, Gu Junye, whom he has never met in 20 years! This kind of "love beyond time and space" has surprised the public. Some people say that big S is worthy of being a big woman, dare to love and dare to love, dare to be brave in love, love is love, dare to bear the consequences, dare to make a choice. After experiencing the 4-year love breakup with Lan Zhenglong, he quickly fell in love with Zhou Yumin's sister and brother, and after breaking up with Zhou Yumin, he had an empty window for a period of time, met Wang Xiaofei, one of the "four young people in Beijing", met for 20 days and quickly married, and now three months after the divorce, the speed of light is connected with the first love. Is this big S brave or scheming about love? Or a stupid woman who doesn't understand love?
Ju Junye big S
Big S has been the courage of the four women in the family since he was a child, because he was born in a single-parent family, Xu's mother is strong on the outside, and she always cries helplessly when she encounters things at home. Although Big S is the second eldest in the family, Big S sees that her sister has no sense of strength, and in order to protect her family, she slowly becomes the person who is least afraid of things. And when she debuted with the small S combination, it was also Xu's mother who saw that the small S was not enough, so that the big S took the small S, so the two sisters broke into the entertainment circle for so many years, and the big S has always been the "guardian messenger" of the small S.
Big S
For her family, she has the courage and courage of a chivalrous woman, but in the face of love, she has completely shed this hard shell and become a full little woman, she longs for men to give her meticulous love, longing for warm and delicate love. Maybe she has not received her father's love since she was a child, so she always has no resistance to love, and every time she loves to forget herself, which is very similar to Wang Xiaofei's predecessor Zhang Yuqi, all because of the lack of her father's love since childhood, so on the surface she has been sharpened by life into a big woman, in fact, in her heart is a little girl who longs to be loved.
Zhang Yuqi
But this kind of child who lacks love from childhood, her desire for feelings is like a sponge, men are particularly happy with a little love for her, men feel warm love for her with a little heart, this kind of girl has no immunity to love, it is easy to fall into it. Therefore, big S and Zhang Yuqi are both women who have crossed the river of men, repeatedly defeated, and repeatedly defeated, and their courage is commendable, but this practice will only make them more and more confused on the emotional road. When you love, you are so passionate that you completely forget yourself, but when you feel uncomfortable in your feelings, it is easy to have the idea of fleeing, because no matter how good your conditions are and how big a woman she is on the surface, she is actually not confident in her bones, and she has always doubted whether she is worthy of love, and it is not easy to find a sense of security in her feelings. It is easy for them to leave when they feel uncomfortable, and before the other party has proposed to break up, they first propose to break up, because they no longer want to be "abandoned" like when their father quietly left, and they no longer want to bear the feeling of abandonment. Instead of being abandoned, it is better to abandon the relationship that makes you uncomfortable, at least feel that you have the initiative.
Size S
In fact, what this kind of girl needs most is not love, but reconciliation with her past self, reconciliation with the wounded little girl, finding the real self, and then establishing a very strong sense of self, finding her own sense of value, so that you can manage the relationship well in the next relationship. If not, the path of affection is always a bad cycle.
Love is beautiful, and it feels very happy to be loved, but the only unconditional relationship in this world is only blood relations with parents, and all other relationships are conditional. Many girls who did not get unconditional love when they were young, the road to love is extremely bumpy, why? Because they are always trying to find this unconditional love in love. But love is a conditional game, women think that love, are very emotional, very emotional, and the love in the eyes of men is more of a game, is the optimization of various needs after integration, they are rational, is clear, is the optimization of trade-offs, love can not provide unconditional love.
Women want to manage good feelings, must not talk too much about feelings, to learn to think like men, to learn to balance pros and cons. I suggest that female friends read two books to understand the difference in thinking between men and women, these two books are "Women's Things" and "Men's Things", after reading them, you may re-examine the love thing.
After reading it, let's discuss your feelings!