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Today is March 8Th International Women's Day, in this very commemorative festival, there is an explosive news, big S is married, married to Korean singer Gu Junye,
First of all, Gu Junye sent a civil official to announce that the two were married, he said that the two had fallen in love more than 20 years ago, and then broke up, when he knew the news of her divorce, he immediately contacted her, and the two continued the frontier, hoping to get everyone's support and blessings.
Then Big S himself also forwarded it ins, saying that life is impermanent, I cherish the happiness of the moment, and thank everything for letting me step by step to the present.
What shocked everyone was that Ming ming only divorced some time ago, Ming just came out of that unhappy marriage, how she jumped into a new pit, netizens discussed this matter very warmly, and also joked that the ex's phone should not be deleted.
Everyone is exaggerating S dare to love and dare to hate, love a person bravely with him, just like when I loved Wang Xiaofei, frank and frank, officially announced together, officially announced marriage, without hesitation. If you don't love, you can decisively put it down and separate from the other party.
The story of her and Gu Junye sounds like the plot of the TV series, more than 20 years ago, there was a year of dating, after the separation of less and more separation, After separation, Gu Junye did not talk about love again, but they are no longer in contact, and now they are in contact again after the divorce of big S, and they are married because of the epidemic, Gu Junye can not enter Taiwan to meet, in order to meet and get married, they did not tell their families first when they got married.
It sounds really crazy.
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This is very much in line with the style of Big S himself, she is such a person who dares to love and dare to hate.
But netizens are still very worried, we can understand everyone's concerns, after all, two people have not been in contact for more than 20 years, you don't know what kind of person the other party is, before marriage is only relying on network contact, so rushed to get married, too impulsive.
In case after the baptism of years, the other party is no longer the same as they once loved, in case the two people live together with different personalities, too much in case we are afraid of this.
We encourage everyone to dare to love and hate, but we do not encourage people like Big S, because Big S is not an ordinary person, and she can afford bad consequences.
Suppose that in the end two people may be together, or will cause discord for various reasons, it does not matter, she has the ability to divorce again, just think that she wants to get married, if she is really unhappy in the future, she can also divorce if she wants to divorce.
If you want to get married, you want to divorce, you need huge capital, not just rely on a lonely courage, because most ordinary people actually do not have such ability, nor are they so powerful.
This is the main reason why we don't encourage everyone to learn big S, didn't say that she didn't mean to do this badly, I believe that she must be very happy at this moment, if the other party does not bring her a sense of happiness, she can't marry each other so casually.
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Why can't we ordinary people easily emulate big S? The reason is simple, and it can be said in two ways.
First, we don't have the huge financial resources she has.
Whether it is marriage or divorce, it takes a lot of financial resources, of course, you can also say that as long as the man has money, the man bears all the expenses, which is indeed possible.
But what we say about having financial resources is not just about the financial resources of marriage, but the financial resources to deal with the misfortune of married life, because marriage is actually opening a blind box, and you never know what the blind box you open is, and whether it is happy or unhappy to step into marriage.
Maybe he was really nice to you before he got married, fulfilled all your needs, promised to raise you many times, and spoiled her like his daughter. But no one can guarantee that he will always spoil you like this.
What if he doesn't spoil you anymore? What if he cheats, what if he's going to dump you? At this time, you don't have any financial resources in yourself, so you can only reach out and ask him for money, and if he wants to give, he will give, and if he doesn't want to give, he won't give. If you want to spend a penny, you have to look at each other's faces.
But if you have the financial resources yourself, you can buy what you want for yourself, and what you want to do does not require his consent, because you can do it yourself, you don't have to be angry with him.
And if the marriage is not happy and there is no money, you can only suffer silently in the marriage, because a divorced person cannot afford to raise children, and may not even be able to raise his own. Where to dare to divorce.
But if you have money, you can shake your hair, stride away, and divorce him directly. You can live well on your own, without worrying about not having money to raise children or worrying about not having a place to go.
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Second, we ordinary people do not have the courage of her.
Big S is a very, very courageous person, which is reflected in her pursuit of her profession and the management of her own appearance. She works very, very hard, and it is precisely because she fights so hard that she will have such a rich wealth now, which will support her current choices.
She is really very, very strict about her appearance management, in terms of managing her body, she is really very, very harsh, the weight loss goals and plans set can really be said to be done, and she can restrain her appetite for her goals. In terms of whitening, as long as it can be whitened, she will definitely try.
This kind of boldness of hers is infused into all aspects of her life, so she will be such a person who dares to love and dare to hate in love, and when she loves, she will be brave to pursue love, and if she does not love, she will bravely let go, not at all entangled, not at all hesitant.
So she is not worried at all, what if she marries Gu Junye is unhappy, if she is unhappy, she will divorce ah, it is as simple as that.
But we ordinary people do not have such boldness as her, many times may face unhappy marriages, may be entangled, will hesitate, will be painful, and then continue to be hurt inside, there is no way to get out. And may never come out again.
Therefore, as an ordinary person, if you can't bear the consequences, don't easily go to this muddy water.
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Article illustration | Big S, With Junye