In this lifetime, if people live a thorough life, they will have a lot of troubles.
Some people have not lived their whole lives, let alone know why they live.
In fact, when we reach a certain age, we suddenly look back and find that many of the roads we have traveled are wrong, but you can't do anything about it if you want to change.
The most feared thing in life is regret, but many people can't change it, just like the truth that children want to raise and don't wait, when you understand, you can't change it.
Life is a one-way train, can only go all the way forward, then, choose the right direction, in order to go to poetry and far away, and the wrong direction, you may enter the quagmire.
Everyone feels that they are unique, but when they are alive, they have been repeating the same mistakes and cannot see the way forward.
In fact, everyone is moving towards their dreams, as long as they insist on the right, they will definitely encounter beauty.
Once people have dreams, there is hope, there is such an old grandmother in Japan, he lived more than ninety years old, wrote a book, called "Worth it in the world", she used her life experience, according to her own experience in the industry for more than seventy years to tell us a profound philosophy of life, no matter what tribulations we have encountered, the human world is worth our walk.
This grandmother has devoted her life to summing up many life views, which is worth learning from us.
First, she said that the essence of work is to make money, and earning money is to serve us to live better.
Many people who are just starting out of society will feel very confused.
They don't know why they want to work, why they want to live, they are messing around every day, they can't see the direction, they don't see a better future.
This is mainly because they don't see how to achieve self-growth at work. Don't know what the ultimate purpose of work is?
In fact, we have to think clearly that we do not necessarily work to realize our own value, but to live more decently.
Of course, if you can realize your life dreams and reflect the value of your life at work, it will be more complete.
We work just to live better, so we must understand this truth, while doing our own work, to ensure our own life, on this basis, we can realize the value of life, it is easier, because only based on the foundation, can we better live and create the future.
Second, we can't change others, but we can change ourselves.
The ninety-year-old grandmother, named Tsuniko Nakamura, also experienced painful marriages when she was young, and her husband was an alcoholic, and the two often quarreled.
She had tried to change the other person, but this way of imposing on others did not work at all, so if she could not change, she tried to accept the other party.
Whenever her husband came back from drinking too much, she stopped arguing with him and handed him a cup of tea.
In this way, the relationship between the two became better and better, and they no longer divorced, and her husband also understood her good intentions, and gradually quit drinking.
Sometimes, things are so strange, when you are bent on changing other people's minds, you are often rejected, and when you accept it through appropriate methods and let the other party understand you, things will turn around.
That is, don't try to change others, but change your own mindset, and maybe you've found a solution to the problem.
Third, we must understand that life is not all happiness, but more pain and sadness.
When we come into this world, we always feel unhappy for one reason or another.
Because what you want to get is not available, you will be disappointed.
People are occupied by desires and conquests, so once you can't satisfy your inner desires, you will be disappointed, and then suffering will follow.
Everyone is an independent individual, with their own ideas and judgments.
Not everyone will meet your requirements, then, you will feel unpleasant, even painful.
Because of this, many people are not satisfied, and if they are not satisfied, they will be unhappy, they will feel that the world is not interesting, and they will make themselves more and more sad.
Yang Dai once said: There is no absolute happiness in the world, and happiness is always mixed with troubles.
When we understand this truth, we have to keep a normal mind, we have to know that suffering is only a process, but when we understand that this is only a tool for us to grow, you will become calm.
When you are relieved after suffering, you will be reborn and become stronger.
Fourth, we must maintain good interpersonal relationships, but we must also have a sense of distance.
Many people live to understand a truth until they are old, no matter who they are with, even if it is relatives and friends, they must maintain a sense of distance.
No matter how close the two people are, they must also know how to maintain their measure and boundaries, because everyone has their own privacy and secrets that they do not want others to know.
Adults, in particular, have their own unspeakable secrets in their hearts, and if the sense of boundaries is too weak, it will make others feel pain.
There is a saying called curiosity kills cats, once you are too enthusiastic and curious about other people's things, when you see a person too thoroughly, you lose the right to be friends.
Although people are social animals, they all have places that they do not want others to reach, so maintaining a certain distance will enhance each other's good feelings.
Just like in many marriages, although the husband and wife are very close, they don't want each other to know the secrets of their mobile phones, because some things are best only clear to themselves.
Therefore, if you don't want to embarrass the other party and want to maintain an intimate relationship for a long time, you must also have a certain sense of distance.
Fifth, learn to let go in order to have more.
Life is not complicated, it is enough to do the things in front of you, but many people often can't see through it.
People are not so cruel in life, we know how to get along with people, understand what the meaning of life is, learn how to get along with people, this is the truth we have to understand.
However, the ultimate goal is to learn how to let go, because the more you want to get, the easier it is to lose.
When you let go of your attachments and let go of distractions, you will find that, in fact, you have understood the world.
Life is not complicated, see through and let go to be at ease.
If people live simply, the world will be simple, and if you are complex, the world will be more complicated.
And what determines all this is the change in your mindset.
As the saying goes, the concept of the world becomes wide, willing, there is a sacrifice to get, when you understand this truth, your eyes are beautiful.
So, what determines what you get is not to take, but to give and let go.
Life is not smooth sailing, we can't change the things of the past, as long as we learn to let go, we can see farther.
In fact, the past can not be repeated, the future we only have to look forward to, and living in the present, is the best choice. Because, only today is truly yours.
Live every day, cherish the present possession, you are the winner in life.
Grandma Hengzi told us: Only after a thousand sails, you still feel that the world is worth it.
Therefore, when you feel confused in life, when life is at a low point, I suggest that you look at this "Worth it in the world", which will make you have more sense of life, let you get through the difficulties, have hope, and be your true self.