Author: Xuan Xiaolei
Follow me and accompany you to love
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First, true love is willing to be used
Rong Jiashang in "City of Streamers" learned that Feng Shizhen, whom he had been pursuing, was going to the township, so he also chased Feng Shizhen.
On the train, he repeatedly pleaded with her, repeatedly showing kindness, if he was a "dog", then it was estimated that he had wagged his tail in front of Feng Shizhen.
Humbly and carefully called her sir, pitifully and sincerely said, "I will try to like you a little less every day, so that after a while I will not be pestering you." Please sir show the patience that tamed me in the first place, tolerate me for a while, I will abide by the law of etiquette, and never do anything you don't like. ”
After learning that Feng Shizhen was really alive, he asked her if she wanted to track it down? He said that he could do a lot of things that Feng Shizhen couldn't do. And took her hand and said to her again, "Use me!" ”
Hearing these four words, my heart trembled again, alas, when I really love someone, it is like this, begging the other party to use it.
Not to mention knowing that he is using you, but he wants him to use it in turn, willingly, without complaint or regret, not afraid of being used by him, only afraid that he will not use it.
Second, true love is to meet is to be lucky
In Feng Shizhen, true love has another interpretation.
Fang Lin must be very happy after seeing her crush Yang Xiucheng and her fiancée Yu Zhihui break up, after all, she has a chance.
However, she soon found out that Yang Xiucheng had secretly crossed Chen Cang with her eldest brother's fiancée Du Lanxin, and Du Lanxin was pregnant.
This blow was too sudden, and it was several superpositions, and she was difficult to accept for a while, crying and asking Feng Shizhen: "Why are some people engaged and she still likes others?" ”
Feng Shizhen said: "I don't know what I have always been, feelings are such a thing, I can't control it, so there will be so many sorrows and joys, this may also be the charm of love." ”
Fang Lin asked again, "What is love?" ”
Feng Shizhen said: "I think it is lucky, people can meet that sincere feeling in this life, even if they can't get what they want, it is also a great fortune in life." ”
Indeed, true love is sometimes unreasonable, irrepressible joy or miss, even if the other party is not suitable for himself, even if there is no connection, even if there are many obstacles can not be together, I feel that knowing him and meeting him is a great fortune in this life.
True love is "as long as you want, as long as I have"
Just these two small scenes, small examples, you can see some of the basic truths of true love.
In real life, some people are very afraid of being deceived in their feelings, and half of them are afraid because they have suffered losses in real interests.
But the other half of the people, but afraid of their own interests damaged, their love premise is: to get, harvest, take, to meet their own needs.
Once there is a pay, it feels uncomfortable, reluctant, or afraid of not returning after investment.
Under this kind of psychology, if you are used by a lover or partner, you are naturally very unhappy and unwilling.
But when you really love someone, you will have that kind of "as long as you want, as long as I have" mentality, where will I be afraid of being used.
Of course, this also needs to distinguish whether the person you love is worth it or not, and what kind of character.
Just like Rong Jiashang, he begged Feng Shizhen to use him, because he understood what kind of person Feng Shizhen was.
Knowing that her essence is not bad, knowing that she is upright, there is no problem with the three views, knowing that she loves and hates clearly, and knowing that she will not harm herself.
Fourth, true love is to have is to have is to be happy
Under this premise, rest assured that the other party will use you, because such a person will not harm you for your own benefit.
Like Feng Shizhen, she loves Rong Jiashang, initially approaching him with a purpose, but later falling in love with a completely unfree lord.
Even in her eyes, Rong Jiashang was still a little naïve and naïve, a little juvenile, even if she knew that they were unlikely to be together and didn't look like the future, she couldn't restrain this kind of heartbeat.
Unable to restrain it, simply no longer resist, but accept "it is good to have it" and "love each other for a day together".
True love is also like this without thinking too much, can that person give you a future? Can it give you a name? Will it benefit you?
I don't think about it, just think about being together, love as long as I can, try to be good to him if I can be good to him, and as for what he can give himself, I don't care.
Because being with him is happiness in itself is happiness, you have already received some spiritual and spiritual satisfaction from the other person.
Fifth, true love is altruism
Chernyshevsky said: "To love a man means to be happy for his happiness, to do everything that needs to be done in order to make him happier, and to be happy from it." ”
So if you want to be used by the other party, you want to do something for the other person to his advantage. Seeing each other happy, you will feel happy yourself.
If one thing is torturing the other party, you must find a way to solve it to be at ease.
Demen also said, "If love is loved for the sake of self-interest, this love is not true love, but a desire." ”
So a clear sign of true love is "altruism", if you don't want to pay for each other, just want to get it from each other, it is naturally not love.
On the contrary, if you only want to do more for each other, pay more and more, that is naturally unquestionable true love.