Family has a difficult to read the scriptures, no one's marriage feelings are smooth, there will rarely be no quarrel between husband and wife, not abandoned, as the time between two people get along more and more, the lack of freshness and tolerance gradually no longer have, sleeplessness will therefore deepen the contradictions between each other, affecting the feelings between husband and wife.
In the face of emotional contradictions, some people will use peaceful communication to re-create a sense of freshness and let the marital relationship develop in a better direction, while some people will choose the way of cold treatment and are unwilling to change the mode of getting along, which will naturally make the marriage feelings of two people gradually drift apart, and infidelity will follow.
So for women who have not thought about divorce, why should they cheat? What is the purpose of the derailment? A middle-aged woman's self-description: Cheating brought me three things that made me reluctant to give up extramarital affairs.
Ms. Liu: If my marriage is happy enough, I naturally don't want to cheat
I have been married for ten years, and now I am 36 years old, and at my current age, in fact, life and work have become very stable, down-to-earth, no surprises, no accidents, no emotions, no romance, more is plain and day-to-day life.
Before I cheated, I didn't think I would cheat, and I never wanted to betray the marriage in the past, but the feelings are sometimes so wonderful, it seems that whenever your marital feelings have problems, after you start to be disappointed in your feelings, there will always be a new relationship, there will always be a new person, and then from strangers at the beginning, to chat, to comfort each other, care for each other, become the person I like in my heart, and I am also caught up in this feeling.
Now this relationship has lasted for two years, and the three things that the infidelity has brought me make me reluctant to give up my extramarital affair
The first thing: the nourishment of love
For women, no matter what age they are, no matter when and at what stage, they will be eager to be pampered, to be taken care of, to desire a sweet love, but also to long for a life full of romance, and the nourishment of love.
I have been married for ten years, there are not too many surprises in my life, but because of the long-term day and night together, the topic between us is less and less, the tolerance between each other is also less and less, and the vision of love is gone, there is no care, no romance, no love nourishment makes me more and more disappointed, but also makes me more and more sad.
In fact, after a woman reaches middle age, although she does not have the ignorance and simplicity of her youth, she will still have her own inner yearning, want to get the nourishment of love, find a man who can give herself gentleness, and at this time, if there is such a man, it is naturally very eager to continue.
The second thing: prove your charm
Now after middle age, I am actually ignored by my husband a lot of times, and I am also disliked by my husband, and his attitude towards me in life has gradually become very perfunctory, so gradually I have begun to be helpless, I also want to prove my charm in the past, to make my husband look at me with admiration, but I get it again and again without what I want, and finally I began to be disappointed, and I no longer hope for marriage.
And in the extramarital affair I also got the purpose I wanted, some people to like me, some people to express concern for me, I am naturally very happy, can be liked, can be recognized, in fact, many middle-aged women want the most, to be recognized, to prove their charm, is also what I want most.
The third thing: trying to find your own new life
Now divorce is already a very normal thing, many couples do not have a special topic between themselves, many problems can not be solved, it seems that they will choose divorce, twisted melon is not sweet, living together is also disrespectful to themselves, disrespect for feelings, so remarriage after divorce is also a very normal thing.
So for me, it is also with the purpose of looking forward to a new life to choose feelings, the disappointment of marriage makes me want to give up, and the beginning of extramarital affairs is also what I am looking forward to, I want to know someone who is really good to me, I want to find someone who is really good to me, so I will invest in new feelings, look forward to getting feelings that I cherish more and like more.
Today's extramarital affair has lasted for two years, and I also like this state, we did not interfere with our respective lives, but we were very tacit to maintain this relationship, maybe one day we will choose to be together, but at least we are not ready for it now.
Write at the end:
Women in marriage are actually more ordinary most of the time, and they are more easily ignored by their husbands, so in the long run, they will naturally be disappointed in their marriage, and eventually want to satisfy themselves through other feelings, and extramarital affairs will occur because of this.
Therefore, couples in marriage should also communicate well, care about each other, and understand each other, so that they can make each other's feelings better and avoid the occurrence of extramarital affairs.