There is a cloud in the "Vegetable Root Tan": "Those who live in abundance, if the water will overflow but not overflow, do not add another drop." ”
Everything under the heavens has a degree. If you don't master the good degree of doing things, it is easy to backfire.
Instead of pursuing extreme self-discipline, it is better to find your own rhythm, not to be anxious, and to relax.
Mastering a good balance, impartiality, and naturally, is a high level of self-discipline.
01
Know when to hang out
"Zhuangzi Deliberate" said: "If you work without end, you will do harm, if you use it diligently, you will work hard, and if you work hard, you will exhaust it." ”
The body is overworked and lacks rest, and people are easily tired. Excessive consumption of energy will damage vitality. This eventually leads to strain depletion.
Smart people know when to run hard and when to sit down and take a look.
I once heard a story like this:
A farmer leads the cattle to work hard every day, and one day the old cow says to the farmer, "Master, the weather is too hot today, I am too tired to walk, can you let me rest?" ”
The farmer happily agreed to the old cow's request. Autumn has arrived, and the farmers' fields have been harvested. The neighbors were curious to ask him if there was any way.
The farmer smiled and said, "There is no good way, I just let the cows rest when they are tired, thirsty for water, hungry for grass." ”
If the strings of life are too tight, they will break, too loose to adjust, and they need to be tightened moderately in order to play a calm and abundant sound. Combining work and leisure, there is naturally a harvest.
Su Shi wrote in the "Zhongyintang Poem": "Good ancient people are born late, and they are idle and tired for a long time. ”
Diligence and self-discipline are a virtue, but if you work too hard for a long time and make yourself too bitter, you lose your fun.
Life should not be trapped by "self-discipline" and avoid overdraft.
Instead of being non-stop, it is better to be an "idle person" once in a while. Only in this way can we better think about life and better find the right direction.
Idleness, the correction of life, is also a reward for life.
02
Understand that the time is right to slow down
There is a saying in the Book of Rites: The depth of the water is slow.
The deeper the water, the slower the flow rate. If you are bent on seeking speed and always looking for shortcuts, it is inevitable that you will miss many scenery and even lose yourself.
People who are really powerful are often "mavericks". They know when to speed up and when to slow down.
To be a human being, we must have the wisdom of "taking pleasure in slowness". And Feng Zikai is such a person.
In the past, Hangzhou and Shimen only had a two- or three-hour journey, but he chose the most "slow" way, each round trip, it took two or three days to take a boat, slowly enjoy the scenery along the boat during the day, and hang out on the shore at night to see the customs and customs of different places.
It's not pleasant to play all the way.
haste makes waste. Sometimes the choice is slow, but it is for the sake of being faster.
"Slow" is not laziness and procrastination, but knows how to slow down and look up at the stars while tired of running.
"Slow" is not to go with the flow and follow the clouds, but to have a calm and calm mentality, and will not mess up their positions because of the influence of the people around them.
Tao Yuanming loves Ju alone, and Zhou Dunyi loves Lotus alone. One escapes from the world and pursues pastoral retreat; one faces the world and pursues the essence of incorruptibility.
Everyone has their own path to go, and they don't have to panic and follow in the footsteps of others.
Quality life should not be impatient, and the best things always appear inadvertently.
Slow down, it doesn't matter, it is nothing more than "big things late".
03
Understand that sometimes put it down
"Xunzi Tianlun" has a tao: Therefore, great coincidence is not done, and great wisdom is not worried.
People with great wisdom know that there are some things that cannot be considered and are not worth considering, and they should let go of them.
Insisting too much becomes stubbornness.
An old monk, the abbot of a temple, was looking for a successor due to his advanced age.
One day, the old monk said to two proud disciples, Zhi Jian and Zhi Yuan, "Whoever of you can climb up from the bottom of the cliff of the back mountain will preside over the temple." ”
Zhi Jian worked very hard, desperately climbing up from the bottom of the cliff, climbing and falling repeatedly, repeatedly falling and climbing, refusing to give up, and finally falling down and breaking his head and bleeding, leaving only a trace of breath.
Zhiyuan climbed under the cliff several times, but failed. He followed the stream under the cliff, went down the water, went sightseeing and attended school, and returned to the temple a year later. The old monk did not blame him for giving up halfway, but instead designated him as his successor.
The monks were puzzled, and the old monk explained with a smile: "The cliff behind the temple is steep and beyond the reach of human beings. But next to the cliff, there is a way to find it. If you are tempted by fame and fortune, you are naturally trapped under the cliff; if you let go, you have a way to find and be happy. ”
Sometimes, let go of the blind pursuit, let go of the attachment to perfection, let go of unnecessary "greed", in order to find a way out, willow dark flowers.
In "Lü's Spring and Autumn, The Use of The Crowd", it is said that things are not long, they are not short, and so are people.
There is no perfection in people and things, and there is no absolute standard.
Why envy those who are highly self-disciplined, each has its own strengths.
It is better to live your own life and do it seriously for what you can control. For things that cannot be controlled, just accept it.
Look away from everything, and the years are precious.
04
Learn to lower it instantly
Zeng Guofan once said: "Erudite and earnest, so widely known; high practice and micro speech, so self-cultivation."
Lower the posture and lower the body to grow. A person who thinks too highly of himself often does not put himself in the right position.
There is a gap between people and people, and acknowledging their own shortcomings is the great wisdom of doing things. Recognizing your own indiscipline is the beginning of self-discipline.
When Zeng Guofan was young, when he first entered the Hanlin Academy, because he could not find a few fellow villagers, he felt that he was very remarkable, thinking that there were tens of millions of people in Hunan, there were few Hanlin, and he was naturally "a dragon and phoenix among people".
His temper and arrogance grew day by day, and he often quarreled with people. But every time he finished arguing, he would reflect on himself in his diary and tell himself: You can't do this, be modest, and pay attention to curbing your temper.
In the course of making mistakes and introspecting himself again and again, Zeng Guofan finally realized the principle of being a man: "Don't talk big, don't make a name for yourself, don't do things that are empty, and don't talk about excessive reasons." Since then, he has been in the clouds, deeply loved by his subordinates and trusted by the emperor, and has become a big winner in life.
A person who puts himself too high is easy to see everything and often ends up at a loss.
Those who lower their positions, do not show the mountains and water, and always remain humble, often go in and out of their way, and make a splash.
The ancients said that "the curve is complete, and the depression is profitable".
Lower your own positioning, lower your own requirements, lower your pursuits, lower your position.
Lowering does not mean that there is no pursuit, does not mean that there is no principle, but that it recognizes itself and enters a period of dormancy.
Learn to be down-to-earth, start from the lowest, calmly and calmly, and live out your own life.
In this way, we will walk more steadily, go farther, and walk longer.
The ancients said: "It is better to be absent than to be finished."
It is better to feel some shortcomings than to be overly complete. The most comfortable state of life is to be small and full, but there is still room for it.
Work hard, be self-disciplined, but don't be too anxious and choose your path in a panic.
Knowing when to idle and have a degree of progress is the right happiness.
Understand that slowing down at the right time and taking it step by step is the real shortcut.
Knowing that sometimes letting go and following the fate is the beginning of acquisition.
Learning to lower immediately and be humble is rapid growth.
People have many ways of living, as long as they are measured in their hearts and act in a measured manner, the self-disciplined life you want, do not seek self-help.