Recently, the media exposed a set of stills of Gao Yuanyuan.
In the photo, Gao Yuanyuanqi has hair and hair, wears a national flag robe, and has mature makeup.
After many netizens saw this group of photos, they talked about it:
"Is this a high circle?" I don't even recognize it! "Time is a pig-killing knife, the goddess is old" "The wrinkles on the face are so obvious, it shows old age!" ”
But Gao Yuanyuan plays a middle-aged Song Meiling in this drama, and her face is a little wrinkled, which is actually normal.
I remember that Gao Yuanyuan was photographed in the same frame of a family of three a year after giving birth to a child, in which Gao Yuanyuan's figure was a bit blessed and he was wearing a loose denim shirt.
So it was widely reported by the media as: "Gao Yuanyuan has become a big mother a year after giving birth", "in the past, the girl became a village girl", etc., and even mean netizens ridiculed her like a nanny.
Coincidentally, Ma Dongmei, played by Ma Dongmei in the movie "Charlotte Troubles", recently said in an interview: "I weighed up to 190 pounds when I was pregnant, and I was once anxious about my body after giving birth to a baby, and I haven't fully recovered until now, and many clothes can't be worn." ”
In fact, due to changes in hormone levels in the body, it is normal for women to become fat and emaciated because they are pregnant and have children.
Even more frightening than the ridicule of others is the indifference of the husband.
I have seen a news before that beauty executives were frantically pursued before marriage, but they were disliked by their husbands because they became 80 pounds fat after childbirth.
Such a man is really chilling.
The ridicule of the postpartum mother's appearance can be called the greatest evil of human nature.
Because the hardship behind women's fertility is unimaginable pain for others.
Have children
It's the women who are desperate
Chen Weijun, the director of "Shengmen", once said: "It is said that childbirth is a matter of two people, a matter of husband and wife, but it is not." It is the woman who really faces everything. ”
How much does it hurt for a woman to have a baby?
Wait until you open 10 fingers, you can have a smooth birth, and what is the concept of opening ten fingers, look at this diagram at a glance.
In the documentary "The First Time in Life", several fathers experienced the pain of giving birth to a child, and the fathers experienced a few seconds and shouted to stop, unable to bear the pain.
Sha Yi once experienced this kind of childbirth pain in a variety show, an incremental labor pain from 0 to 10, but he had already screamed when he reached level 8, and the pain at level 10 lasted for a few seconds before shouting to stop.
After the experience, he said: "This pain is like a lot of tractors pressing through the stomach. Hopefully, every husband can fully understand his wife and understand what she has done for the family. ”
Having a child is a woman who is desperately trying alone.
After experiencing the pain of childbirth, women also face various postpartum problems.
Xie Na postpartum lochia, the nurse needs to constantly press the uterine floor. She screamed in pain and shivered all the time.
Zhang Ziyi has been filming for many years, ligament tears, nails flying do not cry pain, but she said that milk is the biggest pain!
Ella said that after giving birth, she caused uterine and bladder prolapse and frequent urinary leakage.
"My sneezing, jumping in place, running, etc. all cause urinary incontinence, not a little bit of incontinence, but the whole pad is wet, and then the pants are also wet..."
Mary Jane Minkin, a professor at Yale School of Medicine, summed up postpartum body changes:
There will be stretch marks; the space between the left and right abdominal muscles, which may be widened by "rectus abdominis separation"; the skin will be more sensitive to the sun, prone to sunburn or spots; it may cause varicose veins, making your legs sore after standing for a long time...
An anonymous netizen posted photos of her 10 days after giving birth.
She said, "Sisters, maybe in addition to the pain of giving birth and stretch marks, there is something called pigmentation..."
Pregnancy in October, severe pain in giving birth, getting old after pregnancy, getting ugly, changing body shape, deteriorating body...
What pain is not borne by a woman alone?
But there are also husbands who are out on dates with other women, complaining that their wives show their breasts to feed their children, and they can't feel the feminine charm of their wives.
I have to sigh that childbearing is the biggest adventure of a woman's life.
After surviving the pain of pregnancy in October, he could not hide from her husband's indifference and change of heart.
Postpartum depression is not pretense
It's really sick
In addition to various changes in the body, women's psychological changes after giving birth need to be paid attention to.
After giving birth, the violent fluctuations of hormones in the body make the mothers' mood is also very unstable, and they are prone to collapse because of small things.
Coupled with the change of identity, the pressure of social family, and the sense of disparity brought about by physical changes, they are extremely fragile in their hearts and are prone to postpartum depression.
People with postpartum depression only know how difficult it is to experience it.
They said:
"I feel that I am not satisfied with how I feel, I feel that I can't do anything well, and I can't do anything about it" "I had a disease, but because I didn't cough and didn't have a runny nose, no one in the family knew that I was sick, but I was really sick..." "I look out the window and always want to jump out of the window."
Whenever a newborn arrives, almost everyone is immersed in the joy of welcoming the child.
But they often overlook the mothers who struggle with postpartum depression alone.
Japanese actress Yuko Takeuchi, known as the "Queen of Smiles", is suspected of hanging herself at home late at night due to postpartum depression, and her son is only 8 months old.
Taiwanese actress Zhong Xinyi, who looks very optimistic on weekdays, also fell into postpartum depression after giving birth to her daughter.
She said: "Postpartum depression is a psychological state that will slowly push you into a black hole, you don't want to go there, but your emotions can no longer be controlled by yourself. ”
What is even more painful is that in the face of such pain, there will still be husbands who do not understand:
"You're just being too pretentious";
"Everyone else is normal, why is our family like this"
"Now people are too spoiled, how come I haven't seen the previous generation have such a saying before"...
"Motherhood is just" is a kind of moral kidnapping of postpartum mothers.
The husband's incomprehension is even worse, making the wife, who is already in pain, feel more suffocated.
I know the previous question: Why does a woman sentence two people after giving birth?
One of the new dads got high praise for his answer:
"Whether a woman sentences two people after giving birth to a child has a great deal to do with the extent to which the husband fulfills his obligations. Yes, it is the obligation, getting up at night to change diapers, making milk powder, learning parenting knowledge, acting as a punching bag for the wife's bad emotions, these are the husband's obligations. I was also surprised by the equality of men and women that I had previously recognized, that once pregnant, women were in such a vulnerable position, and some women were so helpless. The birth of a child is really not the end of the teeth, the birth of the child is not the end but the beginning, I implore you to fulfill the promise you made when you proposed marriage, fulfill the obligations of your husband, and do not let your wife face all this alone. ”
On the other hand, how many men ignore the cries of their children in the middle of the night, hide in the guest room and go to sleep, leaving the new mother alone?
There may be no real empathy between husband and wife, but there can be unshakable protection and the responsibility of being in the same boat through thick and thin.
Men take on the responsibility and obligation of jointly taking care of children, comforting and understanding their wives at the right time, and sharing housework, which is the magic weapon to help their wives get out of postpartum depression.
When the shadow queen Qin Hailu was pregnant, she was already at an advanced age.
Her husband, Wang Xinjun, was not at ease and resigned to accompany her at home.
After she was discharged from the hospital after giving birth, Wang Xinjun was afraid that she would be blown by the wind, so he wrapped her up.
She always liked to cry during that time, and she was very anxious and confused.
Wang Xinjun encouraged her to go back to filming, and he stayed at home to take care of the children.
When going out, Wang Xinjun would always send her, knowing that she had social phobia, he said: "Good, it's okay, there is a husband." ”
On a variety show, once she walked in high heels, and after getting tired, Wang Xinjun took out a pair of flat shoes to change for her.
For her, her husband's love made her armored and thorny self soften a little.
The pain of childbirth cannot be replaced by others, but the companionship and care of the husband is the greatest comfort for the new mother.
Please treat your wife with love, understanding and tenderness and give her a warm embrace.
Please be more tolerant of your wife's figure and appearance.
Please accompany her through that moment when you are most needed, because no one is born a mother.
Before that, they were also weak girls, the pearls in the palm of their parents...
Give a thumbs up, I hope every husband can know that there is a woman who is close to death who needs your love and help, please don't let go of her hand!