The urban drama "Our Marriage" starring Bai Baihe, Tong Dawei, Jiang Xin and so on is being broadcast, watching two episodes is not addictive, chasing ten episodes in one breath, after watching it is really emotional, this is simply a true portrayal of modern marriage.
Especially on the topic of who pays more at home and in the workplace, it has resonated with many people.
1. Full-time mother Jiang Jing looks down on full-time father Li Yuwen
Full-time mother Jiang Jing quit her job to raise a baby when she was pregnant, and her husband is an executive of the company, living in a big house on Financial Street, with no worries about food and clothing. Taking care of children and doing beauty is her daily life.
Full-time father Li Yuwen is a warm man, and his wife Dong Sijia is a strong woman in financial street and is very busy. Li Yuwen was distressed about his wife, and in order to make her feel at ease working, he chose the role of full-time father.
Shen Yanxing, who is also a full-time mother, and her husband Sheng Jiangchuan became good friends with Jiang Jing after moving to this new community.
Once the two took their children to Lego class and saw Li Yuwen, who also had a child. Jiang Jing introduced Li Yuwen's situation to Shen Huixing in a dismissive tone, and in her words, she looked down on a big man as a full-time father at home.
A stay-at-home mom mocks a stay-at-home dad, and the scene is ironic no matter how you look at it. Also for the family to pay, the two people are in the same position, but because of the gender opposition, Shen Huixing looks down on the full-time father.
In the end, Shen Yanxing still feels that there is no family status at home full-time, and he does not agree with the dedication to the family.
2. The full-time payment at home cannot be measured by money
Whether it is a full-time mom or a full-time dad is a division of family roles, although there is no salary, but the time and energy paid is more laborious than that of people in the workplace.
Take full-time mother Shen Yanxing, who is a high-achieving student at a key university and also majored in finance. At the beginning of a debate competition at school, women should not give up their jobs and return to their families. However, in the face of reality, Shen Yanxing also had to bow to reality.
During the six years at home, Shen Yanxing took great care of this small family. The daughter is polite and sensible, and the husband has the backing to make rapid progress in his career. Children choose schools, buy houses, decorate, and even the sockets at home are all done by Shen Huixing. Even such a capable housewife, Sheng Jiang Chuan often said verbally: "If it were not for me, the family would not have lived a good life now." ”
Whether it is Jiang Jing, a full-time mother, or Sheng Jiangchuan, who has a successful career, their views all believe that everything done by full-time housewives and full-time housewives has no value to speak of.
In a family, if a person cannot generate economic value, it creates inequality of status. Instead, the party that brings income to the family becomes strong, and the economy becomes the only measure of effort.
The terrible thing is that most of the Chinese people think so, including many highly educated intellectuals.
In order to improve the social status of full-time family members and attach importance to their efforts, we must face up to the labor value behind them. Each family member should affirm the efforts of the full-time person, rather than numbly turning a blind eye to their hard work.
3. Don't be a "full-time person" in traditional roles
When it comes to full-time housewives, people often use insulting words such as yellow-faced women and sloppy aunts, but with the awakening of modern women's consciousness, more and more full-time mothers' thinking has quietly changed.
There are some full-time at home moms, some use their free time to do part-time, some learn new skills, have advantages when they return to the workplace in the future, and some mothers follow their children's time to work in kindergartens.
They are less and less satisfied with the fact that they are just housewives or housewives, and they blossom in a complicated and messy life.
Just like Shen Yanxing, who has an independent consciousness in "Our Marriage", he does not hesitate when he should pay for his family, and he is also very determined when his children should go out to work after school. In the six years at home, I did not give up my musical dreams, and I was able to adjust my mentality to start as an intern.
Also a full-time mother, Jiang Jing is not as good as Shen Yanxing, and her mind is completely attached to her husband. I heard that Shen Huixing wanted to go to work, and would persuade her to settle down at home, the outside was a world of young people, and it was no longer able to keep up with the times. If you are not accustomed to your husband's various shortcomings, then treat him as the boss, and it will be easy to accept changing your thinking and mentality.
But Jiang Jing forgot that this will only lead to the two people becoming more and more unequal, and step by step concessions will not let the partner respect. Reality prevents stay-at-home mothers from materially being independent and free, but they must always be sober in their thinking.
Even full-time father Li Yuwen, while taking the child, does not forget to read and enrich his life, and the child can quickly work in the publishing house as soon as he goes to school.
Full-time people in the new era, no matter when they are always glittering, face up to their own value, and be a person with confidence.