Some people ask: What is the ideal life? There is a highly praised answer below: a low-end life is the most practical and stable ideal life.
Since the epidemic, we have seen too much helplessness and parting. Suddenly, I found that with my family, the people around me were healthy and safe, which was the happiest thing.
Zhou Guoping's wife, Guo Hong, has always been a woman living behind successful men. In early 2020, she, her husband and son were stranded on Long Island for seven months due to the epidemic.
In that period of time that suddenly slowed down, Guo Hong recorded the feelings of this life in words and shared it with you and me.
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In early 2020, Guo Hong's family went to the United States to visit their daughter, who was studying at college. Originally, they only planned to stay small, but the sudden outbreak of the epidemic trapped them in the United States.
Guo Hong anxiously contacted the airline to change the ticket. But after countless changes, flights to Beijing were eventually cancelled.
Being in a foreign country but experiencing a ferocious epidemic, the anxiety cannot be clearly described in three words. But since you are trapped here, complaining about the world is not the way.
After figuring it out, Guo Hong began to plan for a long stay. She cleaned up the rented house, added some necessities, went to the supermarket regularly to buy, and lived a small life on Long Island like this.
Seven months of slow life, so that Guo Hong gradually let go of the fast-paced habit, she began to accept everything that happened around her, no longer anxious.
Ma Jiahui once said in "Round Table Pie": Life is nothing more than crying, I settled it!
Since you can't influence what's happening, decide how you will face it.
When one learns to accept what is around one, the world becomes much friendlier.
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During the epidemic on Long Island, life shopping is not convenient.
Guo Hong, who is not good at housework, must make three meals a day to fill the stomachs of her husband and son. This is not a small challenge for her.
But Guo Hong did not complain about this, but began to wash her hands and make soup, learning from scratch.
Once steaming buns, Guo Hong spent a lot of effort and noodles, chopping stuffing, and buns, and finally put a decent bun into the steamer. But after 30 minutes, I opened the steamer and didn't see the white fat hot buns. Looking closely, it turned out that she had been careless and forgot to fire.
At the same time that her husband and son "laughed" at her, Guo Hong also smiled comfortingly at herself, and then re-steamed, and the matter was solved.
In retrospect, she felt that everyone could make mistakes, but as long as they were willing to admit their mistakes and be brave enough to correct them, there was no need to worry about a small matter.
Everyone wants to be "strong", and few people are willing to admit their weakness. But sometimes, being stubborn can put too much pressure on your life.
No one is perfect, and it is necessary to learn to accept the imperfect self, which is a long practice and a great emancipation of the mind.
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In the past, when I was in Beijing, there were towering high-rise buildings everywhere, and at a glance, except for the floor slabs, the floor slabs. Everyone is struggling between different corridors, and few will stop to look at the scenery in the distance.
Now Guo Hong, after a busy day of housework, will pour herself a cup of coffee and quietly look at the scenery outside the window.
The turquoise lawns, the strong red maples and the quiet birds will surprise her with the beauty of nature, and the peace and quiet in her heart will become peaceful and quiet.
In fact, there is no lack of beauty in life, what is missing is a pair of eyes that can find beauty. As long as you have a good heart and are willing to discover beauty, the beauty in life is everywhere.
During his days on Long Island, in addition to discovering beauty, Guo Hong also learned the skill of having fun.
This sentence is simple to say, but for the Chinese people who have always regarded "hard work" as a virtue, it is indeed something that must be determined to do.
Life in Beijing is fast-paced, and few people spend a lot of time "playing" with peace of mind. Guo Hong was also in the past, and always felt that leisure and entertainment should be stopped in moderation, and could not be 100% invested in it.
But during her time on Long Island, she tried to let herself get rid of all the distractions of work and life, and would spend the whole day watching the crowds of people playing by the sea, snuggling up to the sunset and walking.
All this is an experience that she has never had in the past; all this has also brought her a complete relaxation of the soul and a renewed spirit.
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There is a saying in "The Big Bang Theory" that not everyone can achieve fame, and some people are destined to find the meaning of life in the bits and pieces of daily life.
Indeed, in a chicken feather life, we must let go of anxiety and learn to relax, and strive to live every day in the present.
People who live seriously can always accidentally pick up a few sweet candies in a place of chicken feathers.