Many parents' concept of education is: filial piety under the stick.
How many children have never been beaten since they were young? The probability that a girl has not been beaten may be a little higher, or perhaps she will have a well-behaved and sensible personality, and there is no reason to be beaten. Or maybe it's that parents are distressed about their daughters and are reluctant to fight.
But there are more reasons for boys not to fight. There is a saying that parents have nothing to do at home to play with their children. After all, parents who want to do something to their children can come up with thousands of reasons.
The 8-year-old boy punched and kicked his mother
This 8-year-old boy has successfully attracted the attention of many netizens. Because it was he who punched and kicked his own mother. When his mother asked him how long he wanted to play with the toy, the little boy replied directly: Play until you die.
This answer was like detonating a time bomb, and mom's emotions exploded immediately. Then the mother will reach out and hit the child, and the little boy not only does not have fear, but fights with the mother.
After seeing her son fight back, the mother was even more surprised, as if the opposite face of her was not the son she was familiar with, but a stranger, coupled with the child's angry eyes, the mother was in tears.
Such a big rebellion, but it is not the child's fault!
What is your first thought in the face of such a scenario? Is it natural to shift the blame to an 8-year-old boy? After all, an 8-year-old child "hates the dog", and the party at fault must be the child.
In addition, the cause of the matter was only a simple inquiry from the mother, but it triggered such a heart-wrenching answer from the child, which is more supportive of everyone's idea that the child has no cure.
But since this child shows such behavior and attitude, there must be a reason for it, otherwise why would a child like an angel suddenly "go crazy"?
This has to start from his experience as a child, from the age of 3, his mother beat himself up at every turn, he was beaten if he didn't finish eating, he was beaten if he didn't sleep, and he was beaten without even answering his mother's questions immediately.
This kind of day is more than 4 years, he has been a victim, every time his mother beats him, he hates his mother in his heart, just like cheating on the salary, waiting for the opportunity to fight back.
When he was 8 years old, he felt that he could resist his mother's power, whether in strength or speech, and the previous thing happened, and he fought with his mother.
And, it is no exaggeration to say that the "moves" used by the little boy are all learned from his mother, and he is simply reproducing the scene, so that the violent child is not caused by the mother's own hand?
Alpaca mom has something to say:
Seeing this little boy's upbringing, I feel very sad, how much this mother regrets now, how bad her attitude towards her child was.
Moreover, this little boy will choose such a way to fight back, which shows that his heart has been seriously affected, and it is reasonable for extreme violence to occur.
But fortunately, this mother has found the key to the problem, it is not too late to carry out relevant interventions, and if mother and son change themselves together, it is still easy to regain a happy mother-child relationship.
Violence is a flood beast when a child grows up
The child's ability to imitate is very strong
Some children who behave violently will definitely have a violent parent behind them. Even if parents have never "extended their claws" to their children, there will be relevant behaviors for children to see. Such as cruelty to small animals, abuse of the elderly, watching violent movies and television...
When children see such behavior, they are likely to imitate it out of curiosity, and since dads do it, why can't I? Or maybe I'm better than Daddy!
And, once the child commits an act of violence in front of the parent and is not stopped, it becomes a positive stimulus to make the child feel that it is the right thing to do.
Children will remember the bits and pieces of growth
The things that children and adults pay attention to are not all the same, just like when children make mistakes, the focus of parents is that the children can learn lessons, and the point of concern of children is what kind of methods and means the parents use, whether it is patient guidance, or fists and feet.
Even some behaviors are not seen by parents, but let the children work hard, which is the difference between the parties and the bystanders! Only by becoming the protagonist can you feel empathy. Therefore, parents must be cautious and not cause permanent harm to their children.
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