In the hit drama "Meet the Season", the heroine Ning You is an out-and-out sad and bitter lord:
When he was a child, he lost his father, his first love in college was the son of an enemy, and after marriage, his husband cheated on him, even if he seemed to be a good-natured brother Ning Shu, he was also deliberate and only wanted revenge, just like the netizens commented: "No man around is normal."
In particular, her marriage encountered a mid-life crisis, a chicken feather:
Husband Hao Qinglin cheated two years ago, for the sake of the children she chose to tolerate, but the husband did not repent, still with the old lover, but also tragically monitored by his son to cheat evidence, and finally embezzled public funds was caught, because the two had time to go through divorce procedures in the future, Ning Yu's personal property was also implicated.
What made her feel even more chilled was that because she said the name of Hao Qinglin's mistress to the procuratorial personnel, Hao Qinglin became angry and scolded her, saying that she had fallen into such a miserable situation today because she looked down on him in the first place.
Hao Qinglin said more than once that when the two had a quarrel before, Hao Qinglin once blamed Ning You for his derailment.
Three years ago, Hao Qinglin's salary was greatly reduced because of his job transfer, but Ning You's career was booming, and the family's economic status became strong and male.
Ning Yu didn't even have to hand over Hao Qinglin's salary writers, because she felt that his salary had become less, allowing him to leave more money to facilitate communication.
But this move made Hao Qinglin's self-esteem even more frustrated, because he thought that his wife, like his friends, looked down on him, felt that her wife was "giving" to him, and that he was smearing her light everywhere.
Even he deliberately did not read the article sent by Ning You, thinking of letting her scold him for not seeking progress, because this at least showed that she still cared about and cared about him, but Ning Yu did not have a word of rebuke for him, which made Hao Qinglin feel that she did not take him in her eyes at all.
The audience watching the drama is estimated to hate Hao Qinglin with itchy teeth, obviously he made a mistake, but also zhenzhen has a word, he is not ashamed, and he blames his wife who is so generous.
Hao Qinglin is not false as a "scumbag", but is there nothing wrong with Ning You?
Ah Yu thought that in this marriage, Ning Yu thought a lot, tolerated a lot, and paid a lot, but did not take into account one important thing, that is, the dignity of men, which led to the failure of the marriage.
In ordinary families, the husband is the pillar, because his economic income is higher than that of the wife.
Before the economic status of Hao Qinglin and Ning You did not change in the play, the relationship was stable, and there was a smart and sensible son, and the family was happy.
But even after the economic strength was reversed, Hao Qinglin already felt that he was a dwarf in front of his old friends, and his wife also "treated him differently" when he returned home, resulting in repeated setbacks to his sensitive self-esteem.
Hao Qinglin felt depressed and depressed, but he had nowhere to say, and could only look for people to talk to, so it led to infidelity.
Only here with his lover can Hao Qinglin feel relaxed and feel his own value.
Of course, infidelity means betrayal of marriage, which must be rebuked.
The main reason for making mistakes is that Hao Qinglin is not determined enough, his efforts are not enough, and his mentality is not adjusted enough.
But as the closest person around him, Ning Yu's understanding and concern for him is not enough, and it is also a driving force that cannot be ignored.
For example, instead of having to turn in his salary to support his family, Ning Yu thought that she was good to him, but she was good at doing bad things.
Further afield, ning Yu's father's death when he was a child was actually due to similar reasons:
At that time, the father was handsome and handsome, and the mother was a talented woman, which was an envied pair of many people.
But ever since my mother was admitted to the University of Electricity and Electricity, but my father did not, my father's mentality began to be unbalanced.
In the process of rescuing the factory equipment, my father fell ill and became very poor.
Later, the factory was contracted, no longer willing to raise him in vain, his father's mentality completely collapsed, he felt that everyone was against him, and when he returned home, he always quarreled with his mother.
In the end, his father was unemployed, he could not bear it, so he went to the factory director theory, and stabbed people with his wrong hand, and he also jumped off the building to commit suicide.
Ning Yu shared this past with her son, and she said that she also realized that Hao Qinglin and her father had a similar mentality in the past two years, and they were facing a midlife crisis.
Men are all good-looking, especially in front of the people they are close to, and they must establish a strong posture.
Hao Qinglin in the play is inferior and sensitive, and has strong self-esteem.
If Ning Yu had realized this problem earlier, prescribed the right medicine, and given him more understanding and tolerance, perhaps their marriage would not have ended in such a farce.
The so-called slap does not make a sound, and there is a problem in an originally happy marriage, and often both husband and wife have reasons.
Therefore, marriage requires two people to operate with their hearts and work together.
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