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In recent days, I often see some topics about blind dates on the Internet, and many people have expressed their thoughts on this.
As far as the blind date itself is concerned, we can find that in the object of the blind date, there are more men and fewer women, which gives women more advantages in choosing objects, and even grasp the initiative.
But in fact, the last people who can successfully date each other are very few.
A large part of the reason for this situation is women.
Because, nowadays, women will also have their own independent careers, in the face of men's overtures, they can be very confident to reject each other, rather than relying on men to improve their current situation.
As the saying goes: "Life has no feelings, it does not accept feelings, of course, it is not moved by feelings, and it is people who need feelings." ”
Admittedly, what women need is emotional needs, not to solve the problem of reproduction.
Therefore, in the relationship, what women care about most is not money, but these 3 things.
1, the loyalty of men
In marriage, what women need most is security, and this sense of security often comes from men's loyalty.
Because, only by being loyal to men, women will be more at ease with you.
Someone said, "Loyalty is not a matter, loyalty is only because there are not enough chips for betrayal." ”
This statement is very realistic, but it is not without reason.
A man's betrayal will always be realized at a ripe time, without unwavering loyalty to women and responsibility for marriage.
Well, it is only a matter of time before you suffer a marriage change.
It's like a small episode that happened in "The World.".
Xiao Ning worked in Zhou Bingkun's bookstore, and later fell in love with Zhou Bingkun, intentionally or unintentionally approaching Zhou Bingkun, and after being discovered by Zheng Juan, Xiao Ning said her heart without reservation.
Even though Zheng Juan was very uncomfortable in her heart, she still expressed her position with her own "toughness" and declared her sovereignty.
In fact, when she saw Zhou Bingkun and Xiao Ning getting along, she was very dissatisfied.
It was not until later, when Zhou Bingkun fell and was hospitalized, Xiaoning went to see Zhou Bingkun, and Zheng Juan heard Zhou Bingkun's rejection of Xiaoning at the door of the ward, and she had a touch of emotion and warmth in her heart.
Because, for the most part, a man can reject other people of the opposite sex for his wife, which is already very rare, which is also the greatest happiness of a woman as a wife.
Zheng Juan is like this, and so are we.
So, don't say that women are with men for money, and if there is no loyalty, women will not bet on their own happiness.
2. Filial piety of children
There is a saying: "The filial piety of the child is actually more important than the mother's mother's love, because mother's love is a nature, and filial piety is an enlightenment." ”
I deeply believe that the relationship between the child and the mother is innate, but the love of the two sides for each other is different.
Maternal love is innate, but a child's filial piety to her mother requires an epiphany.
Just like Zhou Bingkun in "The World of Man", when his mother was sick in bed, it was he and Zheng Juan who took care of the elderly at home, so that the old man woke up from the state of vegetative people.
It has to be said that this is a miracle and the power of love.
Later, Zhou Bingkun's mother commented on her son that he was not as good as his brother and sister in his childhood, but he was the most filial of the three children.
Therefore, the old man also hurt him more since he was a child.
In fact, no matter what kind of feelings, they are mutual.
Because the child feels the love and warmth of the mother from an early age, he will develop the quality of gratitude.
In this world, there are many people who are indifferent to family affection, and there are also many mothers who dot on their children.
How to balance the parent-child relationship between mother and child is actually an important way for women to achieve happiness.
Therefore, in marriage, there are many things that need to be maintained with our hearts. May you be able to keep your life awake and not let yourself regret it for the rest of your life.
3. In-laws' understanding
When a woman marries into another family, she means that she is a new member of a family and also has to deal with new relationships.
Among them, the most difficult thing to deal with is the relationship with the in-laws, but in fact, as long as the woman does not make the mistake of principle, the in-laws' understanding is the most important.
Someone said, "Because of understanding, so tolerant, because of love, so understanding." ”
I strongly agree with that.
The word "understanding" is not only necessary to be applied to our daily interactions, but also important for us to deal with family relationships.
Previously, I have written many articles about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
At that time, many female readers left me messages saying that their mother-in-law was not good to themselves, and then sometimes they would be embarrassed everywhere.
But is there really no way to resolve this situation? Of course.
Here are three pieces of advice for everyone, I hope to help you.
(1) Live separately from your in-laws
When a woman gets married, if she does not have her own house, she has no choice but to live with her in-laws, but she cannot tolerate the other party's temper.
At this time, if possible, a woman can live in a rented house with her husband.
After all, both have to go to work, and it is more reasonable to rent a house next to the work place. In this way, it can also alleviate the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, killing two birds with one stone. Why not?
(2) Find a husband to reconcile the relationship
The husband is sandwiched between two women, and he is the most difficult to face the two most important women in his life.
Therefore, when there is a problem between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, the husband plays a great role in reconciling.
If you have an opinion about your mother-in-law, try not to have a direct conflict with the other party, you can wait for your husband to come back and let him tell the old man.
Because, after all, it is his own son, and no matter how bad it is, he will relent.
(3) Take the initiative to communicate with the other party to show goodwill
Another way is when a woman and a mother-in-law have had an argument.
At this time, as a junior, a woman must take the initiative to communicate with her mother-in-law and show kindness to the other party.
Because, a daughter-in-law who knows how to bow her head will usually get the forgiveness of her mother-in-law.
Between people, the most important thing is to treat each other sincerely.
Xiaoyuan's message: Women in marriage have their own ideas, and everything should be mature.
Don't make a fuss out of it with unreasonableness and make a family disharmonious.
After all, a woman is a feng shui master at home. If you know how to take a step back in everything, then the atmosphere of the family will become warm.
People need to have a good belonging in this life, and this can be said to be created by women themselves, and it can also be said that it is built by a family.
Therefore, don't think that women value money more in their relationships, and that the love and understanding of their families is the most important.
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