In the strange book "Dream of the Red Chamber", Cao Gong uses a clever pen to write about the different ways of life set by different people in this fireworks world.
Feng Jie's decision to kill, Bao Chao's all-round approach, Daiyu's judgment of the situation... Each one can inspire the world.
However, they were born in the Zhong Ming Ding Food Family and grew up in the family of Han Mo Poetry Books, and the education they received and the world they saw were far from real life.
Their philosophy of life can only be viewed from a distance, and it is not suitable for reference.
However, there is such an old lady, when she is poor, she does not hesitate to "bend her waist for five buckets of rice."
Because she knows that survival is more important than life. You have to survive before you can be happy.
After her life was on the right track, she was shocked to hear that Jia Fu had been raided and reached out to help and save the descendants of the Jia family from water and fire.
Because she understands that Zhi En Tu Bao is a kind of cultivation, but also a kind of character.
She is Grandma Liu, an old man who contains the great wisdom of life.
And her way of doing things is more precious and more instructive for the world.
After all, the Houmen King's grandson is difficult to find, and the general public has it everywhere.
Oh, yes! No background, low starting point, this is the fate of the vast majority of people in the world.
But what kind of life you can live in the end, what kind of height you stand on, depends entirely on yourself.
After all, the only thing in this world that can control life is always yourself.
Let's see what the old lady in the countryside, who has a very low starting point, spells out her own counterattack life.
In the world of the poor, there is no room for a glass heart
Grandma Liu is an old country lady who has been widowed for many years and barely survives by relying on two acres of thin fields.
Unwilling to let her daughter suffer poverty with her, she married her daughter to the king dog of the same village, only because the wang family had a grandfather who had been an official.
Who ever thought that the Wang family had already fallen in the middle of the family road, and the life of the little two was also very difficult, and Grandma's wishful thinking had failed.
Annoyed, Grandma Liu moved to her daughter's house to help take care of the children and take care of the housework.
In life, most of the bad things are because of poverty.
Autumn and winter came, the weather was getting colder, and seeing that the winter clothes of the family had not yet fallen, and the pot was almost impossible to open, the son-in-law borrowed wine at home to pour sorrow.
Grandma Liu was very annoyed in her heart, so she said to her son-in-law:
"Uncle, don't blame me for saying that you, you are just playing a little petite habit and getting used to this problem: when you have money, you will take care of your head and tail, and if you don't have money, you will be blindly angry!"
What's the use of this? We should always think of a way to let the silver money run to the house by ourselves! ”
While drinking the drunken wine, the son-in-law replied, "There is a way to wait for this time!" I don't have tax-collecting relatives or friends who are officials, so what can I come up with? ”
In this life, the starting point is not terrible, but the terrible thing is that people are poor and still admit their fate.
When you just want to look down at the mud under your feet, you are doomed to see the beauty of the distance.
The son-in-law's angry words inadvertently reminded her grandmother, who remembered the dog's grandfather, who had been an official, and had been in contact with the Jinling Royal Family in his early years.
"The Jinling royal family was prominent for a while, and it was the most pitiful to the poor and the elderly. Perhaps, this will be the last straw to get rid of poverty. Grandma calculated.
Thinking of this, she said to her son-in-law: "Although our family has fallen down, the Jinling Royal Family, which is far away in the capital, is still in a high position of authority. If we take the initiative to climb his house, maybe the other party's 'uprooting hair is stronger than our waist'. ”
The son-in-law was very touched after hearing this, but he knew that going to the rich man's house to fight the autumn wind was a disgraceful thing, so he twisted and pinched and only said that he would not do it.
Life is difficult to walk, and it is difficult to close the pass.
The world of the poor cannot tolerate the fragile glass heart.
Instead of worrying about the face, it is better to precipitate with the heart; when the peak circuit turns, the goodwill in this world will naturally increase.
Grandma Liu understood her son-in-law's careful thoughts, so she said, "You are a man, and this kind of humiliating thing naturally cannot be done." Or give up my old face to touch, sure enough, there is a benefit, everyone is also beneficial. ”
In this way, Grandma Liu stepped into the Rongguo Mansion for the first time, where "the fire cooking oil and the flowers were brocade".
She was well versed in "little devils are difficult", and in the face of the group of people on the door who were standing up and folding their stomachs, she obediently called "Taiye"; when she saw the wife's room, she also nodded her head and said "sister-in-law"; when she entered the palace, she even regarded the beautiful and noble Yahuan as a wife, prostrated her head and bowed.
Making a living is big, but face is small.
When you let go of vanity, put down your face, and shoulder the responsibility of life, all the glory has a real meaning.
After some twists and turns, Grandma Liu finally stood in front of Sister Feng and said her intentions.
Sister Feng was in charge of housework for the first time, and her relatives were not familiar.
After quietly settling down with her grandmother, she sent someone to ask her for instructions.
After getting a reply, Sister Feng smiled and said to Grandma Liu, "Since you came from afar and opened your mouth to me for the first time, you must not be told to go home empty-handed." ”
Then, he instructed his subordinates to "give The twenty-two pieces of silver that were made for the servants" and one of his own pieces of change to Grandma Liu.
Grandma Liu, who took the silver money, thanked her profusely, and after bidding farewell to everyone, went home happily.
When people's hearts are complex, "rare confusion" is a good recipe for dealing with the world
The silver brought back by Grandma Liu solved the family's urgent needs: this winter's cotton and charcoal, and next spring's farming materials have been settled.
The next year was a bumper harvest year, and one day in early autumn, Grandma Liu brought two large pockets of seasonal vegetables and fruits into the Rongguo Mansion.
This time, she had come to shane.
"These are all sharp goods laid in our own fields, and giving them to the girls and wives to taste fresh is also a piece of our heart." She smiled shyly.
This true feeling touched Sister Feng, and she introduced her grandmother to Jia Mu.
Jia Mu was trying to find an old man who was old and talked to, and Liu Grandma's humor was exactly what she wanted, so she left Grandma to stay in the palace for a few days.
In the days of staying in the garden, Grandma Liu accompanied Jia Mu to chat and accompanied the girls to visit the garden, and what she saw and heard was really "experienced in the past and the present, what has not been seen and eaten."
Crab feasts are held in the garden, seventy or eighty pounds of fat crabs are matched with matching wine dishes, and a meal costs more than twenty taels of silver, which is enough for the family to live for a year.
Such an expense made Grandma Liu stunned.
And that exquisite wine snack eggplant (xiǎng) made Liu Grandma see the extravagant life of the high-gate households.
The whole dish needs to be mixed with eggplant, chicken breast, many fresh bamboo shoots, various dried fruits, and go through more than a dozen processes such as planing, cutting, frying, simmering, mixing, etc., and finally get a small urn of food.
As the old saying goes: from frugality to luxury, from luxury to frugality.
For most people, after seeing the prosperity of paper drunk fans, it is really difficult to return to the simplicity of coarse tea and light rice.
But such a spell would not be fulfilled on Grandma Liu.
She understood that she was just a hurried visitor to this garden. The flowers here are red and willow green, even if they are rich, they are not as good as the dates on their own trees, and the melons in the fields are real.
"How big a bowl to keep and how much to eat", such a day is lived steadily.
This kind of self-knowledge enabled Grandma Liu to get along with everyone in the Grand View Garden in peace.
On this day, the weather was clear, Jia Mu decided to set up a family banquet in the Grand View Garden, and Grandma Liu was also invited to participate.
Before the banquet, everyone agreed to "tease" Grandma Liu a little and come to Bo Jia Mu to laugh.
No, seeing Jia Mu enter the garden, Sister Feng was busy inserting a plate full of flowers into the sideburns of Liu Grandma's head, making Jia Mu laugh a lot.
When everyone was clamoring for Grandma to "pluck out the flowers and throw them on Sister Feng's face", Grandma smiled and replied, "I don't know what kind of blessing I have cultivated, but I have such a decent face today." ”
Sometimes "being laughed at by others", and occasionally "laughing at others", this is the real way life looks.
Walking on the road of life, it is important to keep dignity, but "occasional confusion" is even more rare.
It is rare to be confused in order to go further.
When she entered the table, Sister Feng assigned a pair of ivory-encrusted gold chopsticks to her grandmother.
Grandma Liu said, "This guy is heavier than our shovel," while stretching out her chopsticks to pinch the quail eggs in the dish.
The quail eggs are small and slippery, and the ivory chopsticks are heavy and very unsympathetic, where to clip up!
It was so easy to pick one up, but because the chopsticks were too heavy and rolled to the ground, my grandmother was anxious to sigh: "One or two pieces of silver, I didn't hear a noise and it was gone!"
In such a commotion, the crowd has long lost the mind of eating, and only watched this "pistachio" perform hard.
Afterwards, Sister Feng apologized to Grandma Liu for the arrangement of the banquet.
Grandma said generously, "Where does Grandma speak!" Everyone is lively, isn't it just happy to coax the old lady? There's nothing to be annoyed about. ”
A word that makes people admire and admire.
The heart can hold a difficult life, and the eyes can leave the clouds and light wind.
Being sober when you should be sober, and being confused when you should be confused is a recipe for dealing with the world and a philosophy of life.
"Dripping water, gushing spring newspaper", is the love, but also the duty
Three days later, Grandma Liu bid farewell to Sister Feng, took the gold and silver given by the Jia family and boarded the carriage and went home.
In the carriage, she sat quietly, and Sister Feng's parting proverbs kept haunting her ears.
"The more than a hundred taels of silver in the baggage were given by the old lady and the wife. You take it, or do a small business, or buy a few acres of good land and build a few tile houses. Live your life well, and stop asking for relatives and friends..."
In the years that followed, Grandma Liu, who held silver money in her hands, bought land, built houses, and dug wells in the village, and the family's life slowly flourished.
From time to time, she would tell others about what she had seen in Vinh Province.
But what is said most is still the kindness of Jia Mu, the courage of Feng Jie, and the generosity of the Jia family.
If it is said that the reward that Grandma Liu got back as soon as she entered rong mansion was only a scattered piece of silver sent by rich relatives forced to face; and her return to rong mansion for the second time was based on her sincere help with her gratitude and optimism and open-mindedness.
As the saying goes: "Don't forget the bridge people who cross the river, and don't forget the people who dig wells when drafting water." ”
This world will never fail every grateful person.
And this bitter and willing life is also the praise of this world for Grandma Liu.
Here, the life of Grandma Liu's family has gradually become on the right track;
Over there, the Jia family declined, and the two houses of Ningrong and Ningrong no longer had the grace and luxury of the past, and only the endless desolation of "trees falling down and scattering" remained.
The two provinces were raided, Jia Mu died accordingly, and Liu Grandma, who was shocked to hear the bad news, left for the city the next day before dawn.
Finally, she met the skinny FengJie.
Grandma carefully chatted with the sick Fengjie, but because of the sentence "Children still need to be raised by their own parents", it caused Fengjie's sorrows.
Sister Feng struggled to get up and said to Grandma Liu, "Grandma, my sister Qiao's thousands of disasters and diseases will be entrusted to you." ”
The old tearful Grandma Liu promised to take it down and comforted: "You can rest assured that you will recover from your illness, and I promise you." ”
When it rains, you know who will give you an umbrella; when something happens, you know who is sincere to you.
In this world, after all, there are too many cases of "a horse dying of gold, and relatives are like strangers", and too few people are "sending charcoal in the snow".
And Liu Grandma's promise is like a reassuring pill, so that Feng Jie, who is on the verge of despair, can calm down.
Unfortunately, after running out of oil, she still did not have the opportunity to protect Her sister qiao for a lifetime, and regretted her death.
In a word, Sister Feng's worries about her daughter's future really came true.
Taking advantage of the fact that her sister had just died, her brother-in-law was busy and anxious, and Feng Jie's greedy brother wanted to sell Sister Qiao to the foreign clan as a partial house.
Hearing about this, Sister Qiao was so frightened that she cried bitterly, but she was helpless.
However, because Grandma Liu could not let go of Sister Feng's entrustment, she returned to Jia Province again shortly after returning home, and actually bumped into this matter.
Grandma Liu saw that Sister Qiao's eyes were red, and asked incomprehensibly: "Girl, what's wrong?" I must have thought of my second aunt. ”
After everyone informed the reason in detail, they also frightened Grandma Liu.
After waiting for half a day, grandma who returned to God and everyone quietly planned, disguised Sister Qiao, and took her away from rong mansion to hide.
After the "amnesty" in ningrong's second house, grandma sent sister Qiao back to the palace to be reunited with her relatives.
After that, Grandma Liu saw that Zhou Xiucai in the village had a solid family, was innocent, and was willing to be self-motivated, so she devoted herself to protecting Sister Qiao'er and achieved a good story.
Once as a person, he lived two completely different lives.
The ending of the peak circuit turn in the Twelve Pieces of Jinling was actually promoted by an old lady in the countryside.
Because from beginning to end, this illiterate country old lady has remembered a way of dealing with the world:
Dripping water grace, gushing spring newspaper, is the love point, but also the duty.
Some people say that life is like a poker game.
Catching a good deck of cards depends on luck, and playing a bad deck of bad cards depends on wisdom.
The years of Liu Grandma's downfall may not be well understood by the world, but the peaks and turns in her life have been witnessed by countless people.
When Jia Fu was strong, Liu Grandma was poor and destitute, and although she went to ask for help, she was not humble;
After the decay, the people of Jia Province changed their minds, but Grandma Liu sincerely helped and did not abandon it.
Along the way, There is the hardship of "four walls of family disciples" and the bitterness of "bending the waist for five buckets of rice"...
But no matter what, she finally laughed to the end and became the most blessed person in the dream of the Red Chamber.
In life, it doesn't matter if the starting point is low, what matters is that your decisions will dictate your end.
In life, God gives you a lower starting point than others, that is, to give you the opportunity to be a person who discerns the direction;
I hope that you, even if you are born ordinary, should have the ability to change unremittingly.
Only then will your progress become incomparably firm and you will have the opportunity to see a better world.
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