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Some people's lives are to expand their territory, but many more people are recovering lost land
The genius girl Gu Ailing exploded overnight.
Born in 2003, she was only 18 years old and won the gold medal in the women's freestyle ski jump at the 2022 Beijing Winter Olympics. As a result, with the golden labels of "high appearance, high education, high talent, and super hard work", countless topics related to her have sprung up on social networks overnight.
On a Q&A website, there was also a question with nearly two million views: "Whether the success of Gu Ailing has anything to do with ordinary people", and among the hundreds of answers, one anonymous answer came from an ordinary high school sophomore, Ta said:
After she exploded, many people compared us to her, but which of us didn't work harder than her? However, she was born to be favored by fate and got things that ordinary people may not have in their lifetime. Now that she's sparkling on the podium, where do we go from here?
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Yes, when the 18-year-old girl won the gold medal in the world's attention, more and more ordinary people were studying at night to get into college, working overtime to earn living expenses, arguing about daily chores, or sitting on the couch watching TV cheering for her.
She has already expanded her territory in the field of skiing at a young age, and most of our efforts are only to recover the lost land:
Use hard reading and constant brushing to make up for the lack of excellence in talent;
Use staying up late to work overtime and desperately making money to make up for the lack of a good family situation;
Use intense communication, injury, and learning to fix incomplete emotional patterns...
When someone is born at the end of our life's struggle, or even far beyond our end, will our struggle seem ridiculous and not worth mentioning? Is the meaning of our existence thus dissolved?
Fortunately, very few people actually think so. Whether explicitly stated or not, most people have a vague consensus: we come to the world not to have something, but to experience something.
It is not those external conditions that constitute our lives, but to live, to pursue, to get, to lose, to fall to stand up, to rush to the peak of our own life, which may not be tall... All these experiences make up our lives.
And this ordinary life, if we live it seriously with our hearts, even if we exchange the whole life of Gu Ailing, I am afraid that ordinary us ourselves are not willing.
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Live with your heart, no one is really ordinary
If we can walk on the street and grab a person and listen to him tell the story of his life, we will find that those seemingly ordinary ordinary people have their own not-so-ordinary stories.
Just like Yu Hua's "Alive", the fugui old man who patiently taught the old cow to cultivate the field originally experienced the loss of wealth, the loss of his son, the loss of his wife, and finally the loss of everything, and the life of dependence on the old cow, but his "living" is the most powerful response to life;
Just like the relatives and friends around us who are ignored because they are too familiar, right in front of our eyes, they have spent a life full of terrifying waves.
Under a certain topic, many people shared their own stories:
The great-grandmother was originally a big lady, but suddenly fell in the middle of the family and married her great-grandfather, who was a pig killer, and the two were at odds for a lifetime, but they also raised a family. When my great-grandmother was alive, she tied her hair tightly every day and cleaned her clothes;
The sister gave birth to a clever but born son with dwarfism, raised to ten years old and suddenly died, and it took two years before giving birth to a new child;
At the driving school, I met a beautiful girl in a wheelchair, who was a healthy person two years ago and lost the ability to walk because of a car accident. But she soon learned to live independently, and now she lives alone away from her family, and still has the courage to learn to drive;
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If we don't go deeper, we won't know how courageous the passerby who passed by and had a calm expression crossed the undercurrents and dangers of life. Just as we often do not realize that if we do not have enough love and patience, we cannot bear the trivialities and troubles of our own lives.
But they, we all did.
This is the glory of our ordinary people— to accept our own lessons in a restricted body, and at the same time to face the common problems of life, old age, illness and death of mankind — and those blessed and fortunate people may not be able to do better than us on these issues.
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Accept yourself and be an ordinary person with precious happiness
There is a group created in March 2021 in less than a year, with more than 40,000 members, called "General Studies". There is a beautiful sentence in the group introduction: the purpose of this group is: to be a precious and happy ordinary person! Discover the beauty of ordinary life and feel the joy of [ordinary].
Looking through the posts in the group, you can often see the titles of "Doing what you are good at is happiness", "Ordinary but unique", "The happiness /happiness of ordinary people", "Accepting the ordinary is the deepest wisdom", which makes people feel loose in the tense and tired "inner volume" atmosphere, and a warm feeling is born from the heart.
A well-known psychological public account, also did a period of "living an ordinary life, it is already a fortunate thing" theme activity in 2021, netizens shared "accept their ordinary moments" in the message:
"I have grown some obvious spots on my face since I was a child, and every time I go out or chat with others, I mind my face, and I often think that if only I had a rubber sassafras that could wipe away the spots on my face." I recently read an article that probably said that spots are the product of melanocytes, and it appears to protect you from sunburn. After reading it, I began to accept their existence a little, and ran to the mirror and said thank you to them. ”
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"I began to accept my own ordinary since I became a mother. Knowing that you are an ordinary person will make mistakes, will lose control of emotions, and will not be so good at work. The most important thing is that I also accept my own children as ordinary. I just want him to be healthy and safe. ”
"I had a medical condition in 2019, and when I came out of the hospital, I felt the sunshine and the slight breeze. At that moment, I realized that in front of life I was just an ordinary ordinary person. The wish for each year to come is to be healthy and to live every day well. ”
The writer Su Xin published a book, "Ordinary Girl" for ordinary girls.
This book is a revised edition of Su Xin's famous works, which includes 43 essays she has created in the past 10 years, from self-awareness, career problems, to five-flavor love, warm friendship, and the vast world, revealing the troubles of ordinary girls: appearance anxiety, ability anxiety, emotional unhappiness, inner inferiority... With warm, firm and clear words, he narrated the profound feeling of "everyone has it in their hearts and nothing in everyone's pen", and sent concern to relatives and friends around them, even strangers, to give the girls strength.
In the book, she writes:
Born as a woman, how to realize yourself?
How do you live in an intimate relationship?
How to be a great person?
…… ……
The ultimate answer to these questions is power. The power of talent, the power of wealth, the power of spirit, the power of character. Don't take your talents lightly, even if it seems so simple, such as just being good at making hot sauce. Hone your talents to the extreme, and it will take you to places you never dared to dream of.
Earn wealth on your own, and don't expect or demand the support of others. Wealth means confidence, and it means freedom. It will give you choices, including choosing what kind of person to be and what kind of life to live. Only by understanding the strength of spirit and character can we achieve true transcendence and detachment.
You will understand and believe that the essence of the world is a magic box, and what you call for, it will give you. At this point, your happiness does not have to be asked of others, it comes from your heart, and it is endless.
As she puts it, "believe in your own strength and take the road to independence", and stick to it, and you will find that it will be natural to accept the ordinary but unique self and live with the infinite richness of the world. Living an ordinary life in this way is no longer ordinary.
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