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There is a Wang Xifeng in "Dream of the Red Chamber", less to say "there are ten thousand hearts and eyes". She is good at handling interpersonal relationships, seeing the wind to make the rudder, and the opportunity to meet the situation, often the other party has not yet spoken, she has guessed it; the other party just said it, she has done it. Sometimes, the same thing, she can make a big turn of one hundred and eighty degrees, and she can still say it reasonably and very beautifully. She is good at weighing the stakes and is good at calculating gains and losses. She withheld monthly money to lend money and generate interest, even if it was "twelve, eight and two pieces", she also had to save up and release it together, so Li Yi said that she "planned to divide the pounds and allocate two pounds" and "everyone in the world has been calculated by you.". When she made a big fuss in the Ningguo Mansion, she did not forget to ask You Shi for five hundred taels of silver, in fact, she only used three hundred taels to make a point, and easily earned another two hundred taels. Wang Xifeng's calculation and coolness of accumulation are famous, and even she herself knows: "My reputation is not good, and if I put it for another year (usury), I will be eaten raw." Once she encountered a stake, damage to dignity, and endangered status, she used all her strength and strategy to the fullest, such as the two famous incidents of "poisoning the Acacia Bureau" and "earning You's second sister". But it was such a wise man, "The organ calculated too cleverly, and calculated Qingqing's life." ”
This is the wisdom of being mistaken by the clever, a joy and sorrow.
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Forrest Gump, played by Tom Hanks, is an incompetent boy with an IQ of only 75. In order to avoid the bullying of other children at school, he listened to Jenny's words and began to "run". He ran to avoid being teased. In middle school, he ran into a school's football field to avoid others, ran into college, and was later admitted and became a rugby star. After graduating from university, Forrest Gump enlisted in the army and went to Vietnam. There, he defied the danger, rescued his comrades-in-arms, and became a hero. After retiring from the army, in order to commemorate his dead comrade-in-arms Buba, he set up the Buba Gan company to catch shrimp and gave half of the company's shares to Buba's mother. No matter when and where, no matter who he is with, Forrest Gump is simple and kind, keeps his promises, is willing to sell his strength, and finally becomes famous, becomes a billionaire, and also gets love and affection.
This is the American version of the fool who has a fool's blessing.
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Psychologist William once said: "People who are too smart and too calculating are actually very unfortunate people." It was also his personal experience. William, before the age of 32, was "smart". He knew which sock shop in Washington had the cheapest socks, even if it was only a few cents cheaper than others; he knew which fast food restaurant within a radius of tens of miles gave customers a napkin more than others; when the ticket price at the cinema door was the lowest; and so on. However, he was often sick, often running to various hospitals, but he could not find the cause. Until one time he participated in an experiment, the results showed: people with extreme internal friction, most of them suffer from mental illness, and these people generally have a faster heart rate, poor sleep, poor digestive system, decreased immunity... He found that this was very similar to his symptoms, and thus found the crux of the problem. Calculation is an extremely internal friction behavior. A person who is good at calculation, on the surface, seems to take advantage, but in fact he has lost the more precious thing in life - physical and mental peace.
This is The simplest is the best.
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Life is in the world, up and down, all aspects, more or less, the interests are intertwined, the relationship is complicated, and when it encounters problems, it should be calculated, but this calculation is normal consideration, planning, and planning. If you don't calculate it, it was a blind man riding a blind horse and fighting an unprepared battle. But calculation is not calculation. The more calculating, the smaller the heart. The more calculating, the more tired people become. The more calculated, the narrower the road. Small victories depend on wisdom, and great victories rely on virtue. Be honest and honest, do things in a down-to-earth manner, and always have good rewards. Never calculate, don't calculate the results of things, and don't count others. Be righteous and bright, and do not engage in conspiracies and tricks. People who play small and clever seem to have a momentary opportunity and take advantage of it, but in fact they are short-sighted, and it is difficult to become a big thing in the end, and even harm others and harm themselves. Some people take advantage of every little advantage, but in the end they unconsciously suffer a big loss. Sincere and honest people, it seems to suffer losses for a while, and even prefer to suffer losses themselves, do not let others suffer losses, will make people trust, give people a sense of security, respect, as long as they work hard, the ability is still passable, naturally and slowly there will be people everywhere to help, even high people to point out, noble people to carry, the road is getting wider and wider, and eventually it can always become something or even a big thing.
This is the real dialectic of life.